Submitted 2 weeks ago by Mickey7@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Over the years, there have been fewer and fewer people in my life. Sometimes I told them to fuck off, sometimes they told me to.
Now that I’m retired, there is no one left, except my adult son, and the cat. It’s fine.
I do what I want to do, when I want to do it, and answer to no one. No compromising, no tongue biting, no one pushing me to do something different.
I’m happy and content. No regrets.
I don’t think you should have to answer to anyone, but at the same time don’t sell yourself short.
Humans are social creatures by nature - even if you’re very introverted like me, you do need some sort of connection. In your case, it may not be connection you need, but build some redundancy in a system that works for you.
One of the things that I noticed as my 30s came and went was how situational friendships and relationships are. Most people you meet in life are just passing though your story. Very few stick.
I also realized how little effort most people put in to friendships. I’m always the one trying to maintain. They have my number but the phone never rings for the most part.
I feel like people are becoming less and less social.
It’s an epidemic.
You are answering to your past choices.
This is one of the huge advantages of older age. Early in life, we are forced to adapt to other people. Parents, teachers, friends…
As we get older, we know exactly what kind of people we actually want to have as friends, and the rest we can let go easily.
There are times in my life when I wish that I had been more kind, but there are other times that I wish I had been a lot more mean
I already do.
I did recently tell a guy to go fuck himself, but in a good natured way.
“Please daddy, go fuck yourself”
Why? I can just not see them again and save myself pronouncing a handful of syllables and practicing my self control (because I for sure can’t practice with the gingerbread cookies)
Already doing it today in a couple of Wayland threads.
I already do
Too late, already did. Was great. Our gate has a simple “go away!” Sign that further conveys that message. It does wonders!
If you become / never stop being upset, sure. If not you might find yourself regretting not being more compassionate.
It’s extemely hard to be compassionate when in pain or worse: when being actively attacked. And sure, not everyone deserves compassion.
But the thing about fights is… only when they get out of hand people realize how stupid they were, only a moment too late.
I typically do as a matter of fact, go fuck myself after.
I wish I had told a few exs to kick rocks way sooner. Wasted some prime years with some legit psychos
troglodytis@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Go fuck yourself
Salamanderwizard@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
Go fuck myself? Nah, buddy, go fuck yourself.
troglodytis@lemmy.world 2 weeks ago
As you wish