Submitted 1 day ago by YarraByte@aussie.zone to melbourne@aussie.zone
Ok how do y’all fit in time for hobbies, exercise, cleaning the house, cooking, seeing people, sleeping, working, taking care of kids, etc.?
Do fully functional people have all this together? Or does at least one need to be sacrificed? I don’t have kids, and can’t imagine having to balance life stuff with kids.
Received a call from a recruiter that’s offering me a better role. Had a chat and he’s put me forward.
Let’s see how this plays out.
Nope. Nobody “has it all together”. As per SituationCake, you deal with the most urgent dumpster first. Then other shit as it happens. Helps to have a rough idea of routine and priorities - which can be varied in accordance with circumstances. There is no law that states that THOU SHALT HAVE AN IMMACULATE HOME AT ALL TIMES OF EVERY DAY OR I WILL SMITE YOU. And nobody ever put “I was a perfect housekeeper” on their gravestone. Kids/pets come first if there’s a scheduling conflict, closely followed by partner. Everything else can usually wait a bit if necessary.
My own very rough schedule as a solo household is : I budget 15 mins for washing up & kitchen clean per day. This is not optional for me as I’m immunocompromised post cancer treatment and well, microbiology. Laundry once a week (mostly) depending on weather. Rest of house - I budget 2 hours on a weekend for tidy up and cleaning. That’s housework sorted mostly. Maybe do a more thorough clean at the change of season. Life is too short to wipe the top of cupboards or clean behind the fridge more than 4 times a year imo. For me, Saturdays are a write off anyway as I have to take an osteoporosis pill weekly that screws me over for most of the day (gotta stay within 30 seconds of the loo), so I might as well stay home and sort the house on that day. Maybe do some slow cooking if I can be bothered. Ditto gardening. Most of my friends are trained now and know that I’m not available on Saturdays for socialising.
Sundays are my fun days - I try to keep that day free to do pretty much whatever I want or see people etc.
Shopping : once a week for pantry/fridge. And stop on the way home after work for fresh stuff if needed.
Life admin : 1 hour once a month copes with most things. Or deal as they come up.
Cooking : breakfast isn’t really cooking unless you do eggs etc., so cooking is roughly 1 hour at the endish of the day. During the week I keep it very simple. A bit more lavish on the weekend - say 2 hours for 3 mealsworth. After dinner is relax/chill/net time or reading or hobbies.
Take home message - it all depends on circumstances. And nobody gets it all done all the time. And if they did, I would consider them to be robot aliens from a distant planet with good connections to the cosmetic and AI industries.
I don’t. 😞
( i think i spend too much time on the net )
(Same here)
I can’t manage it all. I do some of the things some of the time, based on which dumpster is burning the most. Guess I’m not very functional.
It sounds like you eat, sleep and take care of yourself and Gibson. Seems pretty functional to me!!
Everyone’s winging it lol.
I manage some of that. Not all, and not all the time.
I manage sleeping and working, most of the time
I struggle to do it all. Especially being single - if I don’t do it, it doesn’t get done. Feels like I’m on the go every day and often just treading water. Prioritising is the only tactic I have to manage.
I think the 80/20 rule can lighten this mood. The theory that you get 80% of the result from 20% of the effort. Kids are a unique responsibility… To some parents. But the rest of the stuff, you don’t have to be perfect, but put some effort in. A bit of exercise, a reasonable diet, a job you don’t hate that pays enough. What gets marketed is people living perfect lives, the reality is few people have the energy or discipline to squeeze every moment.
You’re not meant to have to do it all alone. Usually there would have been a stay at home spouse, a multigenerational household and/or a support system
When Miss Seagoon was at home she was the priority. Always. I mean, we would do other things but always considered her first.
It’s a rotation of what’s important, things definitely get missed and there’s things on that list I definitely do not do.
What works for me:
- hobbies: pick just two, and ideally one of them should bring you together with friends, so that time counts under "seeing people" too.
- exercise: I work in some walking in my commute, sometimes combined with bus. My home treadmill is next to my standing desk.
- cleaning: Bare fucking minimum. I find it helps to allow myself to just sweep clutter into a box and sort the box out later if tidyness is urgent.
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@LowExperience2368 @YarraByte
- cooking: weekdays, no shame in starting with a jar or packet, and just adding some fresh veg. Fri/Sat often have a go from scratch.
- Sleep: no devices in bedroom. Ever.
- Kids: yeah, basically just accepted I was constantly exhausted and nothing was really fun for 15 years.
I might name the house. It seems like a bit of a wank but I don’t want to move anymore and it feels like it helps with connecting to a location.
It’s nice to have names. It’s home. 😊
I’ve always wondered what went into those houses you see that have a name as well as a number
useless contemporary heaven
What a day! 😍
My new fave hobby is taking the weed burner thing to ivy.
It gives a very satisfying crackle pop sound.
I’m back, took my boots off, had a coffee and 30 minute rest
and now for pics 😊
omg, what a beautiful day out there, the tide is very low and it’s sunny and mild
the tide is low and all the dogs and their friends are out on the flats 🐕🐶
this is as far as I got, 50 metres short of my goal of getting to the small creek , after the fence it’s a true mangrove swamp with no sand and nothing but mucky mud, I saw fox prints in the mud and if a fox sinks more than 5 cm into the ooze I have no hope , even the sand where I was was getting unstable
a view looking back at the city
a murex shell in situ , it’s the big shell with a flange
some of today’s finds
Your shell finding ability truly is amazing.
Makes me wonder wtf is wrong w/ my beach or if I need glasses.
it’s pattern finding
Gorgeous photos, thanks for sharing! Love the idea of a fox scurrying around and sinking (yes I know they’re pests but they’re cute)
YW 😘😘😘
Pics 1 & 4 are straight from my childhood sighs wistfully
we’re only 25 minutes on the train from spencer street 👍
So pretty. It’s such a nice day outside
it’s called pterochelus triformis, ptero means wing 🐚🪽 😊
getting ready for a long walk down the beach/coast , 4k return, some of it is rough, the tide very low but rising , I don’t care if sometimes I have to walk in the water a little because there is no sand
this is good for old people like me, the uneven way is meant to strengthen muscles in our feet and help us maintain balance
will take photos and hope I find some good shells and coral
That sounds lovely.
I shall have to tell Mr Woof about the benefits of uneven ground next time he looks at me like I’m crazy for wanting to cut across an open lot instead of sticking to concrete paths. Telling him the route takes us closer to cows doesn’t seem to be a winning argument with him.
Excited for photos 🍿
Just got back from my own beach walk, but I did it the easy way (boardwalk). Yours sounds lovely, it’s bloody stunning out today!
I need to do that at some point. Just having trouble letting go. I wonder if there’s a way to back up comments.
I didn’t save any comments lol just deleted the account. It was hard to let go, but I just had enough of the bad news, sexism, and racism; no comment I made ever changed anyone’s mind about their biases. Plus, it means my ex can’t see what I’m up to anymore lol, I have the screenshots of the message they sent me a year or two back, so I can throw that in their face again if I need to, but it is very freeing.
After many delays I finally put the numbers on my letterbox.
Back from my run, so many people out and about enjoying the sun. Trees are starting to blossom. I’m enjoying this false spring very much.
Tomorrow I start my drive up north and while I’ll be in a campervan with a little gas stove and staying at caravan parks for the most part, it’s been so long that I kind of struggled to think about what easy dinners I could make. Couscous and some sauce it’ll be, and some soup packets. It feels a lot harder doing it for one person as it really doesn’t feel worth doing prep and cleaning, most times I’ve been with others and at least there’s some fun to be had roasting potatoes and what have you. This is just going to be bare basics… Probably nice for a change, really.
Wish I’d brought my aeropress though. Just to be that Melburnian out west
Safe travels though :)
I like those little precooked rice packets too. And good old baked beans.
Thanks!! Yes I did get two tins of baked beans (and two tins of mixed beans to mix in with … stuff. Worst case I can relive my uni days and just eat a tin of mixed beans with this seasoning mix I bought.) My aunt insists she will ply me with boxes of noodles and carrot/celery sticks etc for the first couple of days which is incredibly lovely of her. But I also feel like a child 😂
Stop into an Hmart or something on the way out and get some fancy instant ramen
Oh damn I didn’t think of instant ramen. Always a handy idea. I’ve had a lot of them ol nissin Kyushu black ones when travelling. I think I’ll be ok with what I have though, will be a bit short on time tm morning and goddammit everything is more expensive in Perth it feels like. At least for those without the mining money…
Oh and have a great road trip! The open road is the best
Did our annual visit to the aquarium today. It’s always a good experience and the kids like it, but the website is terrible and gives me a bad vibe.
I don’t like how it’s part of a private company that’s an entertainment group. I’d fell better if it was state run like the zoo. Because how much would maintenance on that place cost?
wooo tanks done, slurrytub adapter for rock cleaning done, trench done, now for carhole scourging, hard rubbish piling and a door flap.
Someone has had their meds and a lambie brekkie, then come back to bed for sleepy cuddles. My old baby.
Yeah the PT sesh yesterday has killed me. Went for a walk, fed the strays and I’m utterly fucked.
Nap, food, zonk, read, bed.
Why doesn’t Victoria have .vic TLD, every LGA could have stonnington.vic, campaspe.vic, parliament.vic
Nobody’s claimed it yet and it’s only a matter of time.
On that note. .melbourne? why not something normal like .melb, better yet, why not have the whole state use .vic.
Fell asleep at 11pm, wide awake at 3am.
Laughing at that mushroom case subreddit, everyone is losing their minds about how what happened to Simon wasn’t allowed to be presented as evidence in this case. Um, maybe because there’s no solid proof she poisoned Simon those times; I have no doubt she did, but they cannot prove it, so inadmissable as evidence.
Good thing the jury found her guilty anyway, but this has highlighted how little the public knows about criminal case proceedings, good fkn lord 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Ahh… the lesion is darkening on baby girl’s nose again which means it’s coming back. Gotta document it with photos
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Dropped off for a nap and had a nightmare
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone 17 hours ago
Sth. melbourne dim sim meets a weed burner:
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Seagoon_@aussie.zone 16 hours ago
lol