Too busy conforming to some Podcasters idea of masculinity
Anon is worried about men
Submitted 2 months ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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straightjorkin@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Maybe they’re just chronically online complaining that there’s no place for men in this world?
sit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Well I think it’s still part of the problem if 60% of men are addicted to a thing
Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Maybe growing a spine and doing something of their life would help. Everyone as access to social media, not just men.
emmy67@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Well, we need referrals from friends to know men are safe. Even then i take it with a grain of salt
aceshigh@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Do people ask each other out or do they just hang out?
ameancow@lemmy.world 2 months ago
before the advent of dating apps, 2/3 of all relationships were formed through existing social circles and friend groups. People don’t connect easily with strangers, but having a social group means that people feel safer reaching out or making the first move, they feel comfortable sharing more of themselves and being compromising so they don’t create negative ripples in their shared groups.
People who are scared to socialize now tout dating apps as the way most relationships are formed, which is true, but dating and relationships have fallen to an all-time low so that even though dating apps “work” that’s just because the other avenues are dead or dying, and people still absolutely haaaaate the dating scene, apps and all.
You want better results? Return to tradition, make friends, be a social person, force it until it becomes real and natural. Have interests that take you outside of the house and find even a tiny spark of passion for life, and you will have friends and relationships no matter how “anti social” you think you are.
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Both. It’s not that hard to do.
Nosavingthrow@lemmy.world 2 months ago
refuses to wipe, wonders why women don’t like me
GhostedIC@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Knew a girl once who smelled like she probably didn’t know how to wipe her ass.
I wouldn’t say she’s been happy or successful, but she’s had a few long and short term male partners (to the surprise of our friend group).
UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml 2 months ago
Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Speed dating is dumb anyway
sit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
Tell that to the woman you’re not speed dating rn
TheBat@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Need for Speed Dating: Most Unwanted (2005)
driving_crooner@lemmy.eco.br 2 months ago
I moved from Rio de Janeiro to São Paulo a couple years ago, and while I miss living 15 minutes walking for the beach, the club scene here is in another level. I even starting doing that years ago I tough was crazy that is going to a club for a couple of hours, getting out going to another club after.
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 2 months ago
LodeMike@lemmy.today 2 months ago
What’s the reference?
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 2 months ago
Number stats. Also the song is not really related, it is about bush being reelected in 2004 because only 17% of young voters voted. The song is pretty much a tweet in the form of a song.
JayDee@lemmy.sdf.org 2 months ago
I don’t really see a good time in dating strangers, so bars and speed dating are unappealing. Same for dating apps. I’d rather have an outing with someone who I am familiar with and already jive with as a friend.
I don’t think that these stats really matter that much because I already know that I’m not represented in these stats. That’s obviously a biased view, but I don’t think it’s necessarily a incorrect for being biased.
imsufferableninja@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Every stranger is a friend you haven’t met yet
JayDee@lemmy.sdf.org 2 months ago
Not true - the vast majority of people you meet, you will not end up connecting with meaningfully. On top of that, you’re risking you and the other party’s social comfort. I’ve already had plenty of cases of people I find obnoxious and unbearable try to force themselves into my social spaces, and I would not wish that on anyone else, nor would I want to be that person.
If people give off the right vibe or are maybe talking about the right thing when I pass by, I might chime in momentarily, but I’m not bothering strangers when there’s no indication of a connection.
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Actually kinda true! But the downers on Lemmy will never admit that! lol
Jumi@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Are the non-ace okay?
Guns0rWeD13@lemmy.world 2 months ago
incels always got an excuse.
Alpha71@lemmy.world 2 months ago
This is a western world problem. In other countries this isn’t as much of a problem.
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
It’s a Lemmy problem. The real world isn’t even close to what these Lemmy posters are saying. lmao
alxmg@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
If only getting a woman wasn’t as hard of a task as climbing to the top of mount Everest.
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
I’ve never understood how/why so many guys on Lemmy (and reddit) are so scared of women.
I have no problems dating, and I’m poor as fuck and have a face like a foot.
After reading the responses in this thread, I think it’s all just a bunch of bullshit excuses you all are making up.
I think you all are just afraid. The lack of confidence I see on Lemmy is insane. Lol
You all have spent so much time staring at screens, you’re afraid to talk to people in real life.
Maybe instead of yelling at people on Lemmy who disagree with your politics, you should actually talk to women in real life. Lol
KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
idk im pretty gay, also asexual. I just dislike people in general. I feel like it’s not that hard to be an incel, and i feel like it’s also pretty hard to socialize, but that’s just me i suppose.
I feel like it’s not that complicated honestly.
ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 2 months ago
Great take Monk
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Thanks, friend!
01011@monero.town 2 months ago
They certainly do talk to women. You are being intentionally obtuse.
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Um…have you read this entire thread!? Go do that, then come back to this comment. Lmao
These guys don’t seem to know how to talk to anyone, much less talk to wonen. Lol
ijedi1234@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
DMT is cheaper.
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Nah, it’s not cheaper than just talking to women.
iowagneiss@midwest.social 2 months ago
Yeah I’m pretty far down the comments here and am just dumbfounded, as a 40+/m. I’m married, so maybe my perspective is skewed, but I’m anxious, introverted, and also don’t feel like dating would be that much of a challenge if I found myself in that scene again.
For one, rejection isn’t personal. They’re doing me a favor if they decline or ghost me because I’m not going to waste more time on that relationship. I figured that out in my early 20s. I may need a couple weeks or months between because I don’t have an abundance of social energy, but it’s not that big of a deal either.
And then having hobbies is a great way to meet like-minded people. The more people you encounter with similar interests, the more likely you’ll encounter someone with whom you may connect on another level.
I thought I was one of the most socially inept people I know, but I can’t relate to what I’m reading here. Maybe we need to work on our personal boundaries more and understand ourselves better before we’re pursuing relationships.
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Right? Like I said, I’m not skilled any anything, and don’t have any looks going for me. And I’ve never had a problem dating. This thread kinda backs up almost all the stereotypes people have of maladjusted misfits online. lol
Aggravationstation@feddit.uk 2 months ago
Ha, lol, people have fears and self confidence issues.
I get that it takes work to overcome self confidence issues, it does to get over any problem. But to just dismiss a myriad of potential issues and personal circumstances as “oh you nerds just need to touch grass and talk to people” is pretty reductive.
UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Sure. But Lemmy seems to have a LOT more of that than the regular population.