That kind of stuff always reminds me of an episode from a show about rich people. They showed a rich mother organizing a birthday party for her toddler that was ridiculously fancy and having a complete meltdown because some napkins were another shade of pink. That’s the worst that life has ever given her, a different shade of napkins.
Stress is relative
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SlopppyEngineer@lemmy.world 7 months ago
SARGE@startrek.website 7 months ago
My sister in law had a meltdown last thanksgiving that included screaming at her husband, and storming off to her bathroom to spend the rest of the day (up until food, and then she demanded someone bring her a specific selection on a plate) in a jacuzzi tub. The whole house reverberate when it’s on, it’s quite annoying.
The absolutely soul-crushing, terrible, impossibly bad thing that happened?
Her husband grabbed the wrong shade of blue curtains from the closet, and she had to wait an extra 90 seconds to put them up. Legitimately don’t understand how he’s stayed married to her for 15 years. Apparently she’s always been like this to him over the smallest bullshit.
zurohki@aussie.zone 7 months ago
Nobody went and flipped the breaker for the jacuzzi? People like that obviously need practice dealing with inconveniences.
AmbiguousProps@lemmy.today 7 months ago
It’s giving Schitt’s Creek
FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 7 months ago
Have you ever interacted with a toddler in real life? They freak the fuck out about weird shit. That’s just what they do. They’re insane. Doesn’t mean they’re spoiled brats. Just means they’re normal toddlers…
VelvetStorm@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Right, and their unresolved ptsd lead to them not being the best parents which was part of a cycle that led to you.
No_Money_Just_Change@feddit.org 7 months ago
Even without bad parenting, ptsd can be inherited through epigenetics
TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee 7 months ago
Shaming addicts for going into withdrawal isn’t much different from shaming vets having ptsd
KomfortablesKissen@discuss.tchncs.de 7 months ago
Well, we’re doing both so it’s okay.
/sIt IS really hard to understand what someone is going through if you’ve never been in that position yourself, and even then it’s hard.
On the other hand: You never know when to attribute a behavior from someone to malice. And it’s also very easy to stop working on oneself when not pressured in doing so, especially for addicts.
So yeah, a bit of banter is necessary.
celsiustimeline@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 months ago
Cigarette/vape addiction isn’t real. Just stop smoking. Put the vape down. Congratulations. You’re clean.
homicidalrobot@lemm.ee 7 months ago
Unfortunately not how nicotine works
possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 7 months ago
I think the best option would be to get off of nicotine products. They aren’t exactly good for you.
quicksand@lemmy.world 7 months ago
They aren’t exactly good for you.
Or bad necessarily. From my understanding nicotine is similar to caffeine in that regard. The harm is in the other stuff you’re pumping into your lungs
grrgyle@slrpnk.net 7 months ago
Addiction is bad for you, and nicotine is really addictive if you let it rewire your brain (it is a dopamine agonist).
I stopped drinking coffee over a week. It took me over a decade to drop nicotine.
dohpaz42@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Isn’t the idea that previous generations suffered so that future generations don’t have to? If my kids never have to know a life where their parents worked such long hours away from home that they became latch key kids, then society and I have done our jobs. Right?
FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org 7 months ago
Something something boomers/sioent generation bad though.
dohpaz42@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I was looking at it from the other way around, where any generation looks down on the next generation because they’re soft because my generation had/did XYZ; not limited to boomers or their silent generation.
Wanderer@lemm.ee 7 months ago
Yea. But now our major towns and cities are getting much worse.
Lots of countries seem to be going in reverse and have been in reverse for decades.
BakerBagel@midwest.social 7 months ago
Their government made sure to keep those men loaded up on cigarettes and booze because it was the only way to keep those soldiers fighting. Nicotine is a hell of a drug
Sylvartas@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Can confirm, grandpa was a WW2 vet (+ a few of the postcolonial wars that followed). He used to say that soldiers morale hinges on wine and cigarettes.
Also he died of lung cancer after surviving all that shit, including being a POW for 4+ years in extremely shitty conditions in Cambodia
milicent_bystandr@lemm.ee 7 months ago
Ancestors: “We’re glad you can have a more peaceful future, where your great stress is cherry capes, not bombs in trenches.”
P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 7 months ago
Okay but I realy think that you should definitvely not vape, at all.
can@sh.itjust.works 7 months ago
I think the majority of vapers are probably aware of that.
possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 7 months ago
*really
*Definitely
P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 7 months ago
Thank you
LordGimp@lemm.ee 7 months ago
As a guy who worked with military a bunch, they also have panic attacks when they forget their vape at home. Lmfao old philipino guy i worked with was a vet and threw a 2 day hissy fit because he lost his vape at home and only quit when he got a new one from the base commissary.
CazzoneArrapante@lemm.ee 7 months ago
Ugh, fuck this shit. Just ask boomers and Gen X how life was for them compared to us.
Monstrosity@lemm.ee 7 months ago
It must be so weird for Drew (the guy from Giant Bomb in the meme) to browse the internet every day lol!
celsiustimeline@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 months ago
TIL!
dodgy_bagel@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 months ago
I reckon the last bad thing that happened to my ancestors was the civil war.
The English civil war.
sepi@piefed.social 7 months ago
England after that has been no picnic
dodgy_bagel@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 months ago
Right, but we fucked off the island and had a grand old time. There are records that we were in any particular hardship since landing in America.
The other side of the family was busy yodeling in the alps until 1905.
Maggoty@lemmy.world 7 months ago
Uhhhh no. From someone who’s been mortared in the Hesco barriers, that’s not how that works. Stress stacks, and that was obviously the last straw. So what else is going on in their life? Do they have an anxiety condition that needs treatment? Do they deal with a boss that gaslights and threatens them? Did they have a car accident recently?
Unless you know their life intimately you don’t judge.
gsfraley@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I mean, I don’t think we should look to the past for mental stability. Alcoholism, violence, and spousal/domestic abuse are all examples of things that were way more common and borderline-accepted back then. I’d rather someone’s reaction to stress be a panic attack rather than beating their children.
Themaskofz@lemmy.world 7 months ago
I think it’s more about acknowledging that a lot of people are hyperbolic so they can be perceived as a victim. Anxiety is a real thing but some people act like it’s the peak of human suffrage for attention, and that is worthy of laughing at, not the anxiety itself
eupraxia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 months ago
internet discourse is so attention-seeking, contentious and unempathetic that I feel like it’s fostered a culture where people expressing hurt are routinely interrogated and doubted just in case they’re seeking undeserved attention. (because some people do!)
so, people are caught between a rock and a hard place. They can be honest about what burdens them in a way that leaves room for critique, and take the emotional damage that comes from the interrogation of their experiences. or they find extreme, bulletproof-sounding, “nobody could be ok under these circumstances” ways of putting their problems that aren’t in line with reality.
The former is honest but puts you at emotional risk when you’re already vulnerable. The latter is inauthentic but does grant the solidarity and support they’re seeking in the first place. I can’t really blame the people who pick door #2, especially when this decision is conditioned over long periods of social media use.
notably, this has always been a common problem with how PTSD is understood, specifically complex trauma. many people discount their own trauma because it’s not the typical “got my limb blown off” image of trauma and they’ll occasionally be attacked for claiming they are traumatized. So they find more extreme ways to put their trauma that do get them the support they’re seeking.
I don’t know what the solution to any of this is but I do feel it comes from a real place and I put the blame more on social media than the individuals, despite how annoyed I can get with people when I see it.
chemical_cutthroat@lemmy.world 7 months ago
“Pahshaw! Don’t listen to Sally over there, she’s just having her woman time. When we get home, I’ll give her a good knock about and she’ll remember herself. Now, where’s my paint thinner? I have a frightful thirst.”