Why is living with your parents considered a bad thing?

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• hperrin@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Because it used to be a sign that someone was unsuccessful or “lazy”. Now it just means the housing market is absolute dog shit, and people making 200k a year still can’t afford to buy a house near their work.

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• squiblet@kbin.social ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Somehow this became a cultural thing in the US. In some other countries like South America it’s perfectly normal for 3-4 generations to live under 1 roof.

  My guess is it’s tied to making people spend more money for capitalism. The effect it’s had on families is not very positive. It leads to things like elderly people draining thousands from their savings or family members a month for nursing homes. People have to hire child care when otherwise family members could watch a child. Children grow up with more distance from older relatives. Buying additional homes and cars is way more expensive than sharing them. Additional cable and utility bills. More appliances. More food waste.

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  • Steve@communick.news ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    In some other countries like South America

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    • squiblet@kbin.social ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      My family is from Venezuela but thanks for pointing out my poor phrasing as if I don't know the difference.

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• mods_are_assholes@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Mainly the push for a false family narrative called the ‘Nuclear Family’, which was idolized since the 60s as a pop psych experiment that has obviously failed.

  Some claim it was deliberate to prop up the nursing home industry and to force middle class families into poverty by making it less likely they pool their resources.

  Some claim it was a marketing move, as ‘nuclear family’ homes are significantly less happy per capita than homes with 3 generations living under one roof. Happy people buy less shit to make them happy.

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• Breezy@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  So i started living back with my mom when i was in my late 20s, i lost a 70k job due to bullshit. Then i got back to working hoping to move out… and… covid hit… i was laid off after a year, and i just havent got back to working. I live with my mom who is disabled and in very bad health over conditions i dont know how to spell. Then i got a dui after my old boss died, i wasnt even driving just sitting in the car drunk by a lake. So now i cant drive for another couple years and am finding it hard to work some whete close that i can get a ride that also doesnt make me be around a shit ton of people who i might get sick from and then bring it back to my mother.

  No i didnt answer your question, but i tried to outline the why of someone living back with their parents.

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  • Breezy@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Wow someone down voted me in 4 minutes. Bot? Or just some asshole?

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    • Asudox@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Why care about downvotes?

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• neatchee@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Commenting to reply in a bit when I’m at my keyboard

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  • Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Are you there yet?

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    • neatchee@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I am now! Just edited

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• Ilflish@lemm.ee ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  It suggests they can’t afford to pay rent. It’s an old stereotype that is kind of redundant nowadays since (a) most people renting can’t afford it anymore and (b) different cultures are way more accepting and even encouraged living with your family. Most people understand that now.

  You still here the saying buts it’s more about NEETs taking advantage of family rather than being smart

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• BorisBoreUs@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  There are bootstraps you haven’t appropriately pulled up if you live at home.

  The more legitimate reason is that there’s a school of thought that you can’t become a fully-fledged, independent adult without putting some distance between youself and the folks that raised you. There’s a difference between someone who never left home and is content to just stay in the status quo, vs an adult who maybe went to off to college or was away from home for some period of time while working that has had to come back due to challenging circumstances and doesn’t plan to stay longer than they need to. Obviously, the stereotype is of the former and not the latter.

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• Boop2133@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I’m 23 and still living with my dad. Why wouldn’t I take the deal to have no rent while I work full time at a decent job so I can pay off my student loans? Sounds stupid to move out at least for me right now

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• ultranaut@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  My parents suck. If you have to put up with their shit you’re definitely a loser.

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  • Kolanaki@yiffit.net ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Good thing I don’t live with your parents.

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  • 0x4E4F@sh.itjust.works ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Seing how most US parrents raise their children, I do believe you.

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• Flumpkin@slrpnk.net ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Because then you can’t yodel while fucking your girlfriend/boyfriend.

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  • tiredofsametab@kbin.run ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    This is one reason "love hotels" are a thing in Japan where multi-generational living and/or thin walls are very common.

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  • irreticent@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Well, you can… it’ll just be really uncomfortable around the dinner table afterward.

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• some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  If you’re in an East Asian culture, it’s not.

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• Duamerthrax@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Because the people who write American media are the same people with investments in real estate.

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• ctkatz@lemmy.ml ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  I would have but I got caught up in the great recession before I could leave.

  then when I finally got enough money to consider looking for a place, I received a very serious medical condition that wiped out finances and seriously affected my working ability. this condition also makes it almost necessary for someone to be around. so unless I hit the powerball or megamillions I’m going to be in my parents house for a while.

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• mayo@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Because the last gen of parents struggle to let their kids grow up

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• gapbetweenus@feddit.de ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Love my family, would hate living with them - just because we are very different people.

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• Chocrates@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Back when I was a kid in the early 2000s we still had the mentality that it was easy to get a good job and buy a house and love by yourself. So when a young adult didn’t, the stigma was that they were too lazy to get a great job handed to them.

  Since at least the 2008 recession that really hasn’t been the case, but the culture hasn’t caught up, or was slower to catch up.

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  • rmuk@feddit.uk ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    and love by yourself

    I know that’s a typo, but making it easier to bring home hookups was, like, 80% of the reason for me.

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• Harbinger01173430@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Must be an american skill issue

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• shani66@ani.social ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  If you want to get to the heart of a terrible practice or belief, look at who is pushing it (not simply buying it) and who is benefiting. This is a very recent idea (like, you might still be able to find a grandma who was raised before that stupid shit took off) pushed to keep people poor and generally weaker than they otherwise would be. If you’ve got multiple generations, or even families, living together they have far more breathing room economically.

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  • FluorideMind@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    “If you want to get to the heart of a terrible practice or belief, look at who is pushing it (not simply buying it) and who is benefiting.”

    Great advice for every belief.

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• nutsack@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  are you from east or southeast or south Asia

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  • Quitmuch1938@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Yes

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    • nutsack@lemmy.world ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      American culture values independence and individualism

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• soggy_kitty@sopuli.xyz ⁨10⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Is it considered a bad thing? I haven’t seen memes or any modern shows joke about it

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