Isn’t that the status quo? I guess it’s not really fathers to daughters, but most women I know went through some amount of “here’s how to be a good wife” lessons from their mothers or family. I think women get a lot of “traditional gender roles” training that’s mostly about being caretakers.
Usually people putting forth this kinda “women should learn how to care for their man” attitude are coming from a conservative “traditional family values” position.
Really, we should be teaching people how to ask about and learn the needs of their partner, and how to determine your own needs and communicate those to your partner. Basic emotional intelligence stuff. It doesn’t have to be gendered at all.
HowManyNimons@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I hope you aren’t treated like shit by default.
Zwiebel@feddit.org 2 months ago
zero_spelled_with_an_ecks@programming.dev 2 months ago
Got some links to share?
moosetwin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 months ago
wreckedcarzz@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Males being raped is a very underreported and tragic occurrence. You can’t compare apples and oranges.
(I have friends who were raped and never reported or did anything about it, out of stigma, shame, or not expecting anything [justice] to come of reporting it)
HowManyNimons@lemmy.world 2 months ago
That depends on what you mean by “treated”. Men are not as well trusted not to be violent, and taken less seriously when the victims of sexual crimes. Women are paid less well and get more online abuse. That’s just a few examples for each side, obviously we could go on and on. Maybe we all want better treatment.
TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee 2 months ago
I’m not by my partner. Never have been, that’s why I love her, she’s always been kind.
But she also carries some distrust and resentment towards mean-justifiably given trauma-that is sometimes directed at me, inadvertently I think. Which sucks and doesn’t make me feel great, but it also makes sense from her perspective and she’s not got an issue with me
HowManyNimons@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Sounds like she needs kindness. I have someone in my life like that. They’re working on it but it’s a long hard road.
TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee 2 months ago
She does, as does everyone. So it’s walking a balance of respecting her and her trauma and being supportive, while also standing up for myself when needed
Track_Shovel@slrpnk.net 2 months ago
What if we are shit, by default?
AVincentInSpace@pawb.social 2 months ago
Speak for yourself