rottingleaf

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"Autism is a modern epidemic"⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, I meant they are relatives and a lot of D’s are often similar between relatives. RFK Jr’s ideas, but JFK’s sister getting lobotomized for behavior that might come with ASD too.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨"Autism is a modern epidemic"⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  But I can tell you my uncles and ancestors who were farmers, engineers, etc (extremely conservative men too) - dont like how ASD is a disorder. “Back in our day we called that an engineer.”

  Yes, that’s a bit like my aunts resist putting ASD and my grandpa into one sentence.

  Also they are too somewhat conservative, and the reaction to a single F-word in a good article was textbook autistic. Similarly to how I buy a bottle of some soda, not seeing the “pieces of something” small text (pieces themselves are almost invisible), and then try to drink it and spit it out.

  but given that JFKs sister was lobotomized for being too promiscuous and California had a mass eugenics program until the 50s we won’t know.

  I’ll dare suggest that RFK himself seems autistic a lot. With the absolute idiocy my father believed about ASD, I think RFK’s ideas might be a result of some childhood trauma connected to that diagnosis.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s not what their roots are, that’s the branches that became prevalent in every one mentioned (Judaism least of all, but with the state of Israel existing there are attempts to make Jewish religion suck just as badly as others).

  Say, gnostic sects of Christianity and Judaism had this sometimes inverted, sometimes different from how you describe it. Natural world was considered wonderful, but bigger than our existence, in some, and the way to divine was to take off your mortal existence, like clothes, and embrace it in full. In Judaism it’s almost mainstream that natural sexuality is good and actually sacred when in marriage, and only outside of marriage is it bad, but not on the degree of murder or theft.

  I’m not very knowledgeable on Islam, but I think even Shia Islam is not so cruel on that part, though since Iran is Shia, I guess nobody will believe me. Alawis being massacred right now have a pretty tolerant to life religion, and Druze too, though they have that weird relationship with death similar to Latin American Catholics. Smaller branches like Nizari-Ismaili are very tolerant. It’s just that Islamic mainstream of today is barbaric genocidal Wahhabism or Salafism, and generally Sunni Islam is not nice.

  My point was - restrictive rules correlate somehow with strong organization, so such branches win the struggle for power.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I think at some point they were on the same level, then something happened and murder became less important, maybe with justification that it’s not shown directly, or that it’s aimed at bad guys somewhere far away, or I dunno. Outright gore like in Total Recall subway shootout scene became what’s equal to pair of tits.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Especially in a country that’s known worldwide for its hyper sexuality

  After all the hentai in the interwebs and some Shaman King and Naruto characters, I’m not sure.

  Where does this prudishness come from?

  Christianity, I’d guess.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨If you think that you are always right remember you could actually be stupid and not know it⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Same, except they don’t just disagree, they are extremely pissed. For whatever reason idiots tend to assume superior status to me in particular.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Late 1900s⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Before computing got poisoned.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Late 1900s⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Because Signal surely isn’t based on works from 80s, yes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Apple Loses $1 Billion Annually on Apple TV+ | Report⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I dunno, their take on Foundation is most attractive for me via thoughts of what could be done with the same effort and funding and format, except being closer to the source and without glossiness and dizziness.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New Report Shows Working-Class Americans Live 7 Years Fewer Than Rich⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I was trying to say causality goes both ways between “being rich” and “living longer”.

  Of course there is a chasm. There are also mass murders of towns and villages on the Syrian coast right now, with the EU having reacted swiftly by condemning the victims, and the US having reacted only in words and proceeding to bomb Yemeni houthis with means more than enough to stop those mass murders.

  There are storms, and there are still times, and there are times of abundance and of hunger.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New Report Shows Working-Class Americans Live 7 Years Fewer Than Rich⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  both can be true

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New Report Shows Working-Class Americans Live 7 Years Fewer Than Rich⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Education (and learning) affects deaths of heart diseases and cancer. Say, my stupid, stupid dad during covid got ill (not with covid likely) and died from heart attack, because he was afraid to get infected by doctors (yes). Education also affects whether you become “poorer” or “richer”.

  Heart diseases and cancer are affected by bad food habits, which are sometimes affected by executive dysfunction and addictive behavior, which also impede people from becoming “rich” directly.

  And the longer you survive, the likelier you are to have successes yielding financial results.

  So - maybe he doesn’t believe that, but I eagerly do, it just makes sense. Correlation is not causation.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨New Report Shows Working-Class Americans Live 7 Years Fewer Than Rich⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  This is a logical trick - the longer you live, the likely you get richer.

  I understand everyone’s bias, but not why such pleasant to find moments are left ignored.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not trying to choose a side but when did Dems become well wussies? They Have FDR, JFK, OBAMA, Clinton, under their belt. The Reps have Reagan. How come the Dems don't fight fire with fire anymore?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  What Obama did should be judged by what he really did, not promised, not described, not was close to do.

  You can say whatever you want if it depends on majority which won’t ever support you, and then claim that was your real intention.

  This is simpler than average intrigue between friends or at workplace, or even of deciding whose turn it is to go for groceries, and politics are not simpler.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Not trying to choose a side but when did Dems become well wussies? They Have FDR, JFK, OBAMA, Clinton, under their belt. The Reps have Reagan. How come the Dems don't fight fire with fire anymore?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, surely people capable of denying someone popular are soft pussies. It’s the opposite, they impose their will upon the party. Evil, not pussies.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What keeps Americans from being mad about the state of their country?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  From the outside it seems that your progressive movements were a pretty good tool to spread thin the effort that could have gone someplace right, and also to weaken movements which were targeted at the real problems (for example, in the small world of FOSS it’s how FSF and GNU were slowly marginalized into something perceived as unreasonable and Stallman specifically pressed out, and no, his logically correct defense of some kinds of pedophilia and him being generally cringe were not the reason).

  Also let’s please remember that everyone flocking to centralized platforms was welcomed by those progressive movements, their activists for whichever reason thought that the scale and the censorship will work in their favor and not those calling to fell the tall trees.

  So - this is the logical outcome of what various movements have been doing. This part should make you optimist. And the feeling that you can’t certainly show at something at say that it will succeed should be liberating, not depressing.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The opposite of hot girl summer⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  We’re becoming more like UK it seems. Not in economy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The opposite of hot girl summer⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Russia, I suppose Moscow Idaho was nicer yesterday due to less clutter. Anyway, today’s morning made me forgive the previous week.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The opposite of hot girl summer⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In Moscow it’s just above freezing temperature the last few days, all dirt and hopelessness.

  So I envy you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Trump Says U.S. Will Hold Migrants at Guantánamo | The president suggested 30,000 migrants could be housed on the base. It is unclear how the plan will take shape.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You are actually correct. Many things are hard to do only because you need to iron out the bugs first. So yes, if your government makes something resembling a concentration camp, you should start worrying, even if it is for 10 000 volunteers for a WWII-themed reality show (dunno who would make such a thing, but a free business idea if anyone wants it). Because once a solution is ready, it can be scaled up very fast.

  Same with many governments in the world considered evil, but incompetent by their populations. They may become competent terrifyingly fast once they direct some resources to that end. There are too many examples around.

  So, about Greenland. Technically Denmark is in EU and EU has a mutual defense clause just like NATO, Denmark is also in NATO. So in theory now would be a good time for all EU countries to reintroduce conscript service and start preparing for rapidly scaling their militaries up. By “rapidly” I mean “general mobilization”. All that talk about “small efficient modern professional armies” negating the need for reserve and mobilization capacity is not new, it was a popular view even in Frederick the Great’s time, and sometimes it’s correct, and sometimes it’s not. Now it’s not. Ukrainian war shows this.

  I’m not talking about them resisting USA demanding from them something, they can’t resist USA, but I think most of what Trump says is bullshit. I’m talking about them eventually needing that capacity with the general tendency of everything becoming year 1600 again.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Trump Says U.S. Will Hold Migrants at Guantánamo | The president suggested 30,000 migrants could be housed on the base. It is unclear how the plan will take shape.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You can’t blame 2nd amendment types for being illogical and not delivering on their talk. After all, one can’t force the government to do anything with what militia are allowed to legally possess. If they were more like National Guard in access to armaments - then there would probably some pressure. But of what I’ve heard, in USA militia movement is mostly right-wing, racist, Confederate flag types.

  I really dislike our time in this crystallization of despotism everywhere. For example, it’s pretty clear that after this war (or after it stabilizes enough) the current Russian regime will not be overthrown. They may find a few scapegoats, their dear leader first of all, and remove them. But the general mechanic will not change.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ubisoft announces studio closure as it lays off 185 staff⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I live in the midst of something that can be very carefully called capitalism. It was called socialism once and then the “socialist administrators” did sort of a rebranding.

  Point being - yes, this is simplification.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are dating apps a fraud since the beginning?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Profit is gained by engagement.

  Engagement is the opposite of solving the problem.

  So an intermediate platform is not a working solution for dating.

  Best interests of people looking for other people and the intermediary are in direct contradiction.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Ubisoft announces studio closure as it lays off 185 staff⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I think when all these famous studios were interesting, they still by inertia functioned the way people with actual skills founded them. I’m thinking of BioWare, Black Isle, Obsidian, but reading the history of any famous video game studio gives that impression. It was a rather personal business in 90s and early 00s, it seems.

  Then the “professionals” came and started “fixing” everything, and something about today’s computing makes me personally deeply disgusted of anything advertised there.

  I don’t want a shooter not better than a hundred Q3 clones, but taking 50GB disk space. I don’t even want it with “photorealistic” (no they aren’t) graphics. I don’t want CK3 because it’s slow and has too much bullshit happening, the secret of success is in quality of content more than amount, and more is not always better if a player gets bored with small events. I admit, I haven’t tried Hogwarts Legacy, put from what people say its open world is as useful as Daggerfall’s map the size of England, because most things on that map are all the same, though as a dungeon crawler Daggerfall is still better than typical modern game. And Star Wars - its Expanded Universe mostly came into existence in the 90s, it’s designed the way very convenient for all kinds of video games, or any entertainment and any secondary art at all, and George Lucas approached that theoretically before making the first movie (the “obscenely huge profits” part he may or may not have considered, but it came as a welcome bonus, I suppose), and still every modern time Star Wars game is just not interesting to me ; my favorite one is KotORII, so there is, of course, a gap between me and the majority, but it’s still baffling how didn’t they even try to make an X-Wing remake.

  One can go on. People want to play interesting games. Very few people play games because of “more, better, wider” in ad. The whole idea of a game is to be interesting. It’s entertainment. It’s not “I’ve got a new iPhone and you don’t” dick size contest. Some game being very technically cool, but absolutely bullshit in gameplay, writing, UI design, character design, location design etc, - is not entertaining. Some other game being technically a visual novel (not necessarily), but with all those things done well, - it is entertaining.

  So, making a good game doesn’t even require a lot of very competent and very stressed CS heroes working since dawn till dusk to the extent of their ability.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with male loneliness?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s not about the rejection I’m facing, its about the fact that my mere approach is seen as an insult. It’s the audacity to ask to be included in something that is considered a normal part of life for others.

  Perhaps you are approaching wrong people.

  There’s one rule I’ve learned (but haven’t internalized, still a virgin and all that) from my aunts and just today had it reinforced by my therapist.

  Do what you want. If you really like a girl you are talking to, offer her to do something. Start small, no “let’s have a date”, just offer something interesting to you that may be interesting to her. To have tea in some pleasant place. To walk in a park. Be honest, if she asks if it’s romantic. Apologize if she dislikes it. Might even be honest that you don’t know anything about relationships. I mean, what do you fear more, shame from saying it or to remain lonely till grave? And that conversation doesn’t define all your further life (most likely).

  At least that’s my plan the next time somebody tries to talk to me with a smile. Mostly happens at summer, so there’s time to find all fossilized sandwiches behind furniture and repair all broken closet doors. In theory, in fact some of these are broken for many years.

  like there’s something about us that we are unaware of but everybody else picks up on that tells them to keep their distance

  Are you sure you don’t have ASD?..

  On the other side - I have ASD and, surprisingly, ASD is not the main thing preventing me.

  I have found one funny thing - when I cut explicit materials a bit, say, less pr0n and such, and cut stimulants (sugar, caffeine) and eat more meat and dairy, people seem to like me more. But this is not a firm law.

  It would make sense, though, that when you are healthier and have fewer outlets for certain kinds of energy, you are physically more attractive in ways hard to notice.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with male loneliness?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m just autistic\BAD and indecisive and had a romantic trauma at school and my environment (mom) is not mentally well at all (right now it’s not worse than hoarding and forgetting everything, but it was).

  However, with my looks it’s somehow enough for me to just be kinda clean and shaved and in a public place for very pleasant young women (and I suppose much kinder than that girl from school) to try to talk to me with possible romantic perspective (which I usually realize after the conversation ends).

  Except it just doesn’t work, either I don’t understand them, or I’m petrified and don’t know what to do or say, or I postpone interpreting the conversation to somewhere late, or I’m ashamed of the mess where I live and showing my life to that person if it goes somewhere.

  So - sometimes it’s just about never having the courage to go forward. Not about other people discarding you.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why does everyone i know treat me like a child or if i was a very childlike person??⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I got my diagnosis less than a week ago.

  I’ve stumbled upon description of something called “Asperger’s syndrome” on a printed A4 sheet, being like 12 years old, but that description was somewhat enigmatic and I couldn’t tell how different it is from normalcy. I’ve also read about Carrie Fisher’s life after Star Wars and that she had BAD.

  So since that time I suspected that I might be autistic and have bipolar, but thought that condition names are for doctors, while for laymen it’s better to say that people are different. So only when I reach a doctor and get a diagnosis, it’ll be certain. The approach itself is kinda autistic.

  Then somewhere around year 2018 I’ve, eh, remembered\imagined a lot of things connected to emotional trauma, and came with these idiosyncrasies to a state medical institution (it’s Russia) where they just assumed it’s simple type schizophrenia (typical Russia again).

  Now, being 28 years old, I finally have a normal diagnosis of ASD and BAD and no ADHD. I was certain I have ADHD, but paying attention to my own behavior - I see things architecturally wrong which I still have to work with, or meaningless things, and may seem like an ADHD person, but an ADHD person can’t focus, while I can’t start due to disgust of something.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨why does everyone i know treat me like a child or if i was a very childlike person??⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Do the RAADS-R test. In case it’s more than 120 (I think that’s the number, but it has a description), you may want to read what autism is and whether you may have seen some of the traits in you, and then may visit a psychiatrist.

  I say that because autistic people often imitate some style of speech in circumstances not quite fitting.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How German Police Do Police Brutality⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, these don’t surprise me, but trying something outside of the first world might yield different results.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How German Police Do Police Brutality⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Being healthy, of course, does contribute to one’s attractiveness.

  But human beauty is really too subjective.

  We may dislike people seeming familiar. We may like people seeming familiar more.

  We may like people similar to us in appearance. We may particularly dislike people similar to us in appearance.

  Also clothes affect people’s appearance quite a lot. If people in the area you do shopping for clothes are in average less like you in appearance and weight and everything, and people in some other area more, you might find them more attractive simply because the choice of clothes is a bit better, and the habit of wearing better fitting clothes.

  And another very important component is what you expect to see. I mean, “how much cleaner they keep places” … which countries have you visited?