rottingleaf
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- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 2 weeks ago:
It’s not about the rejection I’m facing, its about the fact that my mere approach is seen as an insult. It’s the audacity to ask to be included in something that is considered a normal part of life for others.
Perhaps you are approaching wrong people.
There’s one rule I’ve learned (but haven’t internalized, still a virgin and all that) from my aunts and just today had it reinforced by my therapist.
Do what you want. If you really like a girl you are talking to, offer her to do something. Start small, no “let’s have a date”, just offer something interesting to you that may be interesting to her. To have tea in some pleasant place. To walk in a park. Be honest, if she asks if it’s romantic. Apologize if she dislikes it. Might even be honest that you don’t know anything about relationships. I mean, what do you fear more, shame from saying it or to remain lonely till grave? And that conversation doesn’t define all your further life (most likely).
At least that’s my plan the next time somebody tries to talk to me with a smile. Mostly happens at summer, so there’s time to find all fossilized sandwiches behind furniture and repair all broken closet doors. In theory, in fact some of these are broken for many years.
like there’s something about us that we are unaware of but everybody else picks up on that tells them to keep their distance
Are you sure you don’t have ASD?..
On the other side - I have ASD and, surprisingly, ASD is not the main thing preventing me.
I have found one funny thing - when I cut explicit materials a bit, say, less pr0n and such, and cut stimulants (sugar, caffeine) and eat more meat and dairy, people seem to like me more. But this is not a firm law.
It would make sense, though, that when you are healthier and have fewer outlets for certain kinds of energy, you are physically more attractive in ways hard to notice.
- Comment on What's the deal with male loneliness? 2 weeks ago:
I’m just autistic\BAD and indecisive and had a romantic trauma at school and my environment (mom) is not mentally well at all (right now it’s not worse than hoarding and forgetting everything, but it was).
However, with my looks it’s somehow enough for me to just be kinda clean and shaved and in a public place for very pleasant young women (and I suppose much kinder than that girl from school) to try to talk to me with possible romantic perspective (which I usually realize after the conversation ends).
Except it just doesn’t work, either I don’t understand them, or I’m petrified and don’t know what to do or say, or I postpone interpreting the conversation to somewhere late, or I’m ashamed of the mess where I live and showing my life to that person if it goes somewhere.
So - sometimes it’s just about never having the courage to go forward. Not about other people discarding you.
- Comment on why does everyone i know treat me like a child or if i was a very childlike person?? 3 weeks ago:
I got my diagnosis less than a week ago.
I’ve stumbled upon description of something called “Asperger’s syndrome” on a printed A4 sheet, being like 12 years old, but that description was somewhat enigmatic and I couldn’t tell how different it is from normalcy. I’ve also read about Carrie Fisher’s life after Star Wars and that she had BAD.
So since that time I suspected that I might be autistic and have bipolar, but thought that condition names are for doctors, while for laymen it’s better to say that people are different. So only when I reach a doctor and get a diagnosis, it’ll be certain. The approach itself is kinda autistic.
Then somewhere around year 2018 I’ve, eh, remembered\imagined a lot of things connected to emotional trauma, and came with these idiosyncrasies to a state medical institution (it’s Russia) where they just assumed it’s simple type schizophrenia (typical Russia again).
Now, being 28 years old, I finally have a normal diagnosis of ASD and BAD and no ADHD. I was certain I have ADHD, but paying attention to my own behavior - I see things architecturally wrong which I still have to work with, or meaningless things, and may seem like an ADHD person, but an ADHD person can’t focus, while I can’t start due to disgust of something.
- Comment on why does everyone i know treat me like a child or if i was a very childlike person?? 3 weeks ago:
Do the RAADS-R test. In case it’s more than 120 (I think that’s the number, but it has a description), you may want to read what autism is and whether you may have seen some of the traits in you, and then may visit a psychiatrist.
I say that because autistic people often imitate some style of speech in circumstances not quite fitting.
- Comment on How German Police Do Police Brutality 3 weeks ago:
Well, these don’t surprise me, but trying something outside of the first world might yield different results.
- Comment on How German Police Do Police Brutality 3 weeks ago:
Being healthy, of course, does contribute to one’s attractiveness.
But human beauty is really too subjective.
We may dislike people seeming familiar. We may like people seeming familiar more.
We may like people similar to us in appearance. We may particularly dislike people similar to us in appearance.
Also clothes affect people’s appearance quite a lot. If people in the area you do shopping for clothes are in average less like you in appearance and weight and everything, and people in some other area more, you might find them more attractive simply because the choice of clothes is a bit better, and the habit of wearing better fitting clothes.
And another very important component is what you expect to see. I mean, “how much cleaner they keep places” … which countries have you visited?
- Comment on How German Police Do Police Brutality 3 weeks ago:
I’ve heard about Rammstein so many times that I just don’t want to. A bit like a few other very famous collectives.
Except Blind Guardian and Rivendell and Draconian. These one can just listen to indefinitely.
- Comment on How German Police Do Police Brutality 3 weeks ago:
That’s dense and clearly something you’ve thought about deeply.
Rather repeatedly with very big intervals. Deeply - nah.
Western beauty standards largely come from antiquity—Greek and Roman ideals (symmetry, proportion, harmony). This gets revived during the Renaissance, primarily by Italian and French artists, not German ones.
Standards of beauty are not very general.
Anyway, I meant human beauty in this particular case. Which is, first, different from many other things, second, basically some set of familiar appearances, plus health and physique conditions defined by culture of the specific society (say, when child mortality was high and hunger still common in Europe, almost overweight women were considered attractive ; BTW, demographics of developer countries can be a consequence of evolution mechanisms intended to avoid Malthusian traps, say, if there’s enough food for everyone for a short period of time, the population should grow as fast as possible, but if it is so for a long period of time, then you’d better stop, - seems counterintuitive, but in nature longer good times often precede longer bad times).
German musos, philosopers, and designs, their prominence peaked in different eras (e.g., Enlightenment, Romanticism, Bauhaus) but didn’t shape Western standards of beauty or culture.
I didn’t mean prominence really, I meant associations, and I meant specific kinds in specific contexts, not wildcard. Also by “shape” it depends which kind of influence makes the threshold. Most of the “pompous and official” European music of late XIX century seems to have been influenced quite heavily.
Also about music - well, it’s not nice to refer to authority, especially anonymous authority since I don’t remember where I’ve read it, but apparently Ralph Vaughan-Williams would disagree with you, and would consider typical European music of his youth very heavily German-influenced.
Visual design like Helvetica became iconic due to functionality and simplicity, not just cos they were German…
Obviously true, but my point was the other way around, that there’s a climate in which various approaches to aesthetic are born, and if some aesthetic becomes popular, some things general for the climate it comes from might become more accepted everywhere. A fuzzy thought really, but the closest I’ve come to rephrasing my original comment in this one.
- Comment on How German Police Do Police Brutality 3 weeks ago:
I actually have had a theory since my teens (as an autistic kid with idiots for parents, disgusting school and so on, so some need to escape that), that German music and German visual design feel so clean and attractive in a very vanilla way, because that’s what was the prestigious kind of culture for the British Empire in its prime and till WWI, and that survived by inertia even a couple decades past Germans having their teeth kicked in during WWII.
What we feel to be most classical is German music, German philosophy, German perception of military history, German ideological approaches to politics (today’s left-wing movements are still mostly that or at least track their lineage to that, and today’s right-wing movements may have kinda diverged, but still like to fuzzily hint at one Austrian painter), and German visual design (what’s considered “neutral” today, fonts like Helvetica, the way accents are made, etc).
What I’m coming at - common perception of human beauty in the West may be kinda affected by typical German appearance, that specifically, more that by typical French or typical British or typical Italian appearance.
- Comment on Justice should be equal 4 weeks ago:
Except in every step things can develop the ways you haven’t thought about.
And courtroom shows are kinda common enough in movies and even in reality. People will have strong feelings, but this doesn’t seem a major thing for many.
So - too much copium. I hope you are right and I am wrong, of course.
- Comment on They're trying to charge Luigi with terrorism! Imagine that! 4 weeks ago:
Yes, my aunts, uncle and cousin live in a country reproducing “Animal farm” the last 6 years, with the end goal of being occupied and turned into a reservation. That book is more like reality than many would think.
- Comment on They're trying to charge Luigi with terrorism! Imagine that! 4 weeks ago:
Still, as a person not interested (usually) in agreeing with my counterparts, notice how this is a “good guy with a gun” situation. So maybe militia movement has a point. They just don’t know how to use their correctness in one part of society’s fabric, but that’s up to those who know those other parts. Cooperation and collaboration, all that.
And almost any “good guy with a gun” can be called a terrorist formally. It’s an arbitrary separation.
So maybe gun rights really are human rights.
You’ve probably noticed how in any group the best decisions are made when every opinion is respected, and if it’s incomprehensible, made comprehensible with good and kind effort, and where aggression and expulsion are minimized.
It’s the same in politics.
- Comment on "The **Most open** Operating System" 1 month ago:
Well, the PC isn’t used only as a DAW, so I might still need Linux as opposed to FreeBSD. I’ve been running some form of Linux for a long time, now.
If you’re of the “advanced user” kind, you might find it easier to use than Linux - cleaner, much better documentation, ports collection, ZFS without pain or any combination of GEOM classes with UFS (which has snapshots here btw). It’s a different OS, but a very pleasant one. Same X (or Wayland), same applications, etc.
One can also use Linux emulation with CentOS 7 or Rocky Linux 9 environment for Linux binaries.
Don’t even know what it is, actually.
It’s a descendant of BSD, and things like Ultrix and SunOS 4 were BSD, so one can say it’s the most commonly used thing of what feels like Unix today (after Linux).
OK, I think this reads like sales text.
- Comment on Should Germany aquire nuclear weapons? 1 month ago:
It’s funny, after the breakup of USSR there existed for a few years such an entity as “CIS armed forces”. It does not anymore because national governments want to control their own militaries.
- Comment on Should Germany aquire nuclear weapons? 1 month ago:
Any country can become such, but as you’ve said yourself - everyone having nukes is more realistic than nobody having nukes, and the “mass destruction” part can even have upsides.
- Comment on Should Germany aquire nuclear weapons? 1 month ago:
It should, but that’s only one level.
First Germany should build a competent armed force which will participate in all the ongoing wars on the globe to gain experience.
(I’m not a German citizen nor I intend to become one.)
It’s a common misconception that using peaceful means is always more moral than fighting a colonial war.
One can imagine a simple experiment. Country A conquers country B and brutalizes country C. Would it be more moral for Germany to peacefully trade (including military goods\technologies) with country A or to use said armed force to get a piece of country B? Country B suffers in both cases, but in the latter case Germany doesn’t finance the aggressor, and also presents some competition and can make life in parts of B controlled by it better. It can also offer military help to C for some preferential treatment.
Ah, also country A already has such a fighting force, all bullies already do. A military has to fight wars to remain competent. So there’s no vegetarian way to defend from influence of bullies. And there’s no neutral way as well - either you are a bully or you actively fight bullies. Maybe both. If you are neither, then you become weaker with time, and thus simply part of supply chain for bullies. Also neutrality always helps bullies and never the victim, that’s Eli Wiesel quote, if someone didn’t know.
- Comment on Wait, my body's own heat is enough? Always has been. 1 month ago:
I mean, I’m in Moscow and it’s barely below 0 degC.
But - yes.
- Comment on Wait, my body's own heat is enough? Always has been. 1 month ago:
Wearing a sweater still makes sense there. To spend less energy.
But in that case it’ll be more a matter of heat isolation. Though when such a low temperature exists on the outside consistently, air humidity drops and it sucks heat less. I think it works this way, but that’s pure intuition or something, my physics knowledge sucks definitely.
- Comment on "The **Most open** Operating System" 1 month ago:
And even when they are not on paper, they are in fact.
- Comment on "The **Most open** Operating System" 1 month ago:
It’s good to bug them about it, but last I checked they just didn’t want to.
- Comment on "The **Most open** Operating System" 1 month ago:
DOpus is one thing I can’t really understand why is not ported yet. It comes from Amiga anyway, I understand they might have done a lot of OS-dependent things since moving to Windows, but it should be doable, no?
- Comment on "The **Most open** Operating System" 1 month ago:
For audio specifically you might find FreeBSD easier to set up. As a DAW, not as a desktop in general.
ALSA+PulseAudio\Pipewire+JACK are kinda messy compared to newpcm+JACK .
- Comment on "The **Most open** Operating System" 1 month ago:
I mean, there are open things about it. As in - TCP/IP is open. APIs to develop Windows programs are open.
In the same way as Solaris, HP/UX, Digital Unix and something else were open. Except Sun would even send OS sources in addition to documentation to customers interested in optimizing something they’d do, or so I’ve heard.
But the “most open” thing looks like 2003 “get the facts” style propaganda, except back then they had technical competencies, now it’s purely the oligopoly.
- Comment on "The **Most open** Operating System" 1 month ago:
SPARC
- Comment on "The **Most open** Operating System" 1 month ago:
OpenWindows is not that. OpenWindows is the best thing ever with OpenLook. I’d really want OpenLook for 64bit Intel
- Comment on In the US, is this actually the moment past the point of no return? 1 month ago:
This is the big lie. Inflation hurts the rich when bond rates are at an insufficient premium to inflation rate. Those who don’t have savings, can complain that their work wages are not rising fast enough, but that is a complaint towards their employer who is raising prices enough to pay higher wages if they weren’t oppressing their workers.
I don’t understand this paragraph. Maybe it’s correct, but the way you use words confuses me. Inflation means that the same real world items cost more of conditional units, that is, money. The bigger proportion of your interactions is done with money and the smaller frequency is, the more you lose from inflation.
Corporatist/Republican media helped swing election to most genocidal supportive candidate over this lie. But a war on Russia made the inflation self inflicted.
What war on Russia? Russia invaded a sovereign nation, leveled cities, killed civilians in droves.
Goal shouldn’t be that profits can’t exist. It should be poverty elimination, easier life for everyone, and inherent resistance to having profits used to rule over you more harshly.
With superprofits from cocaine, prostitution and other forbidden things going to mafia groups associated with politicians - yeah, one would think such profits shouldn’t exist. Whichever path you like most, you won’t be allowed to tread it while people with the opposing interest have so much power.
It is not power hungry DNC or RNC who will ever provide UBI. It is candidates who want to disempower Israel first wars and rulership. A campaign for UBI is first and foremost an extermination of the corrupt rulership, replacing it with the empowerment of individuals.
So how are you going to do that?
It’s like elaborating in detail what you are going to do when we settle Mars and build safe dome cities, without any plan at all how you are going to make that economically plausible.
AI, including current LLMs, as a humanist oracle, has the power to make you/us less stupid if its mission/programming is truth.
No it doesn’t, it won’t ever be smarter than the dumbest human and also however many oracles you consult, you still bear full responsibility for your own decisions.
Regulating AI for “national security domination” is inherently coopting that oracle function. Google/reddit/lemmy has been such a function of filtering up answers for you to digest for many years already.
Once again, treating these technologies as ever possibly acceptable to tell people what to think is nuts. These are glorified predictors. Their role is to fill the holes where you don’t have anything better. These are by definition worse than anything dedicated. And of course they can’t think.
- Comment on In the US, is this actually the moment past the point of no return? 1 month ago:
You can escape inflation by substituting goods, and you only lose from inflation if 1. you have too much cash, or 2. your income rises slower than inflation.
If you have enough cash for it to grow faster than inflation, you win and those who have less lose compared to you. So your relative power grows.
Inflation makes the poor poorer faster than it makes the rich poorer, actually it doesn’t do that.
And by “inflation” specifically people usually mean devaluation of money due to growth of monetary mass, which itself is a result of closing budget holes with emission.
So UBI is a massive economic/prosperity boost above and beyond inflation. Eliminates poverty and crime, reduces the need for savings,
Eliminates small crime. Superprofits from selling cocaine working together with corrupt officials will not really change with UBI.
Politicians can no longer lie their way past even an idiocracy that understands “I like money”.
There’s never enough money.
More program cuts means higher UBI.
Only if politicians act as you want them to.
It would be treason if your AI suggests the empire is not pure good, and Israel has done something wrong, and contradicts the CIA/media disinformation plan.
The problem here is not with what you are describing, but that you are seriously considering treating a computer program as an oracle, that can ask questions about good and evil.
- Comment on In the US, is this actually the moment past the point of no return? 1 month ago:
Investing in dead ender climate terrorist energy is a mistake.
I hope that’s not your opinion of nuclear energy. People criticizing it miss the fact that a grid has to support some baseline.
All things are good and needed, which are not about burning fossil fuels (and sometimes even those, if getting “greener” energy somewhere pollutes more than just taking a canister of gasoline or diesel fuel). And the more diverse energy supply is, the smaller is each particular environmental impact, be it from greenhouse gases, lithium, ruining watersheds when building hydroelectric stations, similar impacts of wind farms, oil spills, escaping gases, toxic liquids, plastics, … .
People miss that nuance. You make humanity sustainable again by diversifying as much as possible, so that any particular kind of harm would be minimized, and so that no particular industry would possess strategic power. Not by dividing energy into holy and unholy and burning witches. It’s just math.
Promising reindustrialization is a lie, and tariffs won’t do it. It will bleed Americans dry while letting oligarchs pillage what’s left.
Promising won’t because promising ain’t doing.
But input is leverage, and leverage is power. Look how “free” input from corporations into Linux gave them control over it. So if reindustrialization really-really happens, it will improve politics of your country. It’s the way it works. When you live off cheap Chinese labor, your economy depends less on your own.
Weaponizing AI to control population, and kill people is the new priority. Putting your hopes in DNC so that they can undo project 2025 is controlling you in a way that doesn’t avert the path to collapse in any way.
Agreed.
The only escape is UBI and peace. Not something a Israel supremacist neocon DNC wants, because UBI is power redistribution instead of wealth redistribution. The binary of AI and automation is either cooperation where abundance and the profits from abundance can be shared, or extermination of useless riff raff that dares to whine about oligarchy and empire.
I personally have doubts about UBI. It requires fiscal discipline that no recent US government had. Otherwise it speeds up inflation. Not significantly if we compare it to corporate bailouts, but still.
Peace is always good. But war is a symptom of problems that still would exist if there were no war.
I’ve recently watched an interview by Bill Joy (the Sun founder) where he mentions how clear water access has done much more to reduce mortality in the world than antibiotics. I think it’s the same with accessible good automation vs “AI” and other hype phenomena. I think non-oligopolized tech industry and non-oligopolized Web would do hell of a lot more for all kinds of abundance than any new magic wand like “AI”.
- Comment on Yakuza creator Nagoshi says the era of game size being most important is coming to an end 2 months ago:
They say people had fun in Daggerfall.
- Comment on Dear Americans, be prepare to get screwed! 2 months ago:
His followers know he’ll deliberately cause instability, that’s what they want.