Comment on Anon tries dating apps

vivalapivo@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

• Skullgrid@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Hobby is the best place to find a partner.

  no it fucking isn’t. I can 100% guarantee the nerds reading this that your wife isn’t going to appear in the progressive metal moshpit, the netrunner tournament or the climbing center…

  well I mean, that last one has a chance of happening, but don’t hit on women where they exercise for fuck sake. Also, Disregard females, acquire ascents.

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  • Texas_Hangover@lemmy.radio ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I’m into ham radios. Do you have any idea how long it’s been since I’ve seen a woman?

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    • Skullgrid@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I mean… I don’t think you’ve seen your ham radio buddies either.

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      • LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Hah! You obviously have never heard of SSTV!

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    • Akasazh@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Maybe get into sausage?

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  • mycodesucks@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Yeah… “Join a hobby group” is the the go-to answer for people who are completely devoid of ideas but still want to feel helpful.

    Honestly, I think there’s something to be said for going back to “little old lady in the community who matches up young singles.”

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    • boonhet@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Honestly, I think there’s something to be said for going back to “little old lady in the community who matches up young singles.”

      Ah, the AI algorithm. Aged Intelligence. Or amo(u)r intelligence

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    • dethedrus@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      A yenta? In this economy?!?!

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      • Skullgrid@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Matchmaker matchmaker…

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  • Gullible@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I dunno, I’ve met people through my hobby, including my current partner. It’s sporadic but eh. The internet is a cesspit.

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  • MountingSuspicion@reddthat.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Maybe there’s some geographical or cultural differences, but I can say for sure that hobbies is a perfectly normal place to meet women in my area of the US. I have dated plenty of people I’ve met through hobbies.

    Also I think there’s a difference between picking up a woman at a gym vs picking them up at a running or biking meetup. I think just like with anything else, there are inappropriate ways to do it, but it’s not socially unacceptable from my understanding whereas gym pickups really are.

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    • Skullgrid@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I think just like with anything else, there are inappropriate ways to do it, but it’s not socially unacceptable from my understanding whereas gym pickups really are.

      yes. I agree with this nuance

      I can say for sure that hobbies is a perfectly normal place to meet women in my area of the US. I have dated plenty of people I’ve met through hobbies.

      the thing to help young men reading this realise isn’t that hobbies are unacceptable, it’s to be wary of going to male dominated spaces and expecting that to count as socialising that will lead you to finding a partner. The promise of feminism of equal gender participation in human affairs still has not been fulfilled.

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      • captainlezbian@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Yeah I think it also must be said that you should befriend women in the hobby. I’ve seen guys who go into hobby spaces and befriend the guys and hit on the women and it doesn’t work out. But when you’re friends with the women you may find yourself connecting with one, or being set up by your friends.

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  • vivalapivo@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    hit on women where they exercise for fuck sake

    Women can say fuck off to me for themselves

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  • KuroiKaze@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I don’t know almost every couple I know met because they were at something that they both were interested in. If all your hobbies include absolutely zero women, then maybe you should have a real long look at yourself And take a chance on some stuff that’s outside your comfort zone. There’s nothing of value that can be gained without challenge.

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• Fleppensteijn@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Depends where you live. In my current city there are almost no women going to those kinds of meetups and the city I grew up in is so dead there just aren’t any events like that.

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  • vivalapivo@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Date men then

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• FunnySalt@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I met my soon to be wife on a dating app. You might think from that opening sentence that I’m about to extol the virtues of dating apps. I am not. They are garbage, so I agree the trash can is the best place.

  This was during covid lockdowns, so no social opportunities, and I had recently moved to a new area and didn’t know anyone nearby. So seemed the only option, terrible as it is. And yeah it worked out for me, but that’s beating the odds. It was an unpleasant experience and was thrilled to be done with it.

  Prior to that, I attended a lot of meetups via meetup.com and had a fair bit of luck dating through that. And regardless of if I met someone or not at any given, I had fun.

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• HerbGrower@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Walking, cycling and making jam are all things I do on my own tough

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  • vivalapivo@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    But together is fun

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    • HerbGrower@slrpnk.net ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      Yes, but if you are single who would you do it with

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      • vivalapivo@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

        Find friends online? You don’t have to do it with your SO

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• CascadianGiraffe@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  If I found a girl in my garden I would assume she was fae and be most suspicious.

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• PrimeMinisterKeyes@leminal.space ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Flea markets, anyone? There are several big ones in my area, occurring regularly. I go several times a year and it’s always so much fun when I do. And it’s very easy to chat people up.

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