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rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

I just got divorced at 30 after 7 years and I’m probably not going to get involved with a woman again. I’m not interested in having kids because the world is ending so it’s essentially a no win situation unless someone can change my mind on this.

There are a lot of positives being in a relationship but way more negatives. I’m just happier alone.

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Malfeasant@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
My wife of 20 years just suddenly (to me anyway) decided she wants a divorce. I was 30 when we got married. Your life is just beginning. Don’t waste it feeling sorry for yourself.

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- rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Yeah it need therapy. It was the loss of so many friends that really hurt me.
  
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- gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  don’t bet everything on one card. never ever do that. i learned that very early on.
  
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UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

I’m not interested in having kids because the world is ending

I’m hard pressed to point to any ten-year period in which some number of Doomers did not insist The World Is Ending.

Like, take your pick of any ten-year span during the Cold War. That butted right up against the OG World Wars, with a Great Depression breather. Before that you had plagues, famines, and economic crashes that shat all over '08 and COVID.

Westoids live in the wealthiest, easiest, most affluent era of human history. Then someone points out “hey, eating burger every day isn’t sustainable” and they conclude the world is over.

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- uuldika@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  
  Westoids live in the wealthiest, easiest, most affluent era of human history.
  
  decades ago, houses were affordable, college was cheap, Americans weren’t crushed under mountains of dischargeable student debt, wealth disparity and effective wages were far better, and we had a far more functional political system.
  
  I can’t think of much that hasn’t gone downhill since 2016.
  
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  - kiagam@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    America is in decline, yes, but all of those things that america is losing, other countries are gaining. Most countries in the world got better and are still getting better. The first world/america is getting worse, but, as you said, it is just part of the cycle. The world is not ending because US is going downhill.
    
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    kaosof@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    I agree with the sentiment as to the futility of the doomer/nihilist mindset, being a reformed (or rather, being in the process of reforming) doomer nihilist myself, I know the call of the void all to well. However…
    
    It’s not just the USA declining - it’s really everywhere. Call it whatever you want, late-stage capitalism, the rise of the techbroligarchy and fascism-adjacent currents, etc…
    
    But there’s stuff going on. It’s harder to get a job, harder to get an education, harder to earn a living wage, harder to get ahead in general. And it’s everywhere.
    
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  - UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    
    decades ago, houses were affordable, college was cheap, Americans weren’t crushed under mountains of dischargeable student debt, wealth disparity and effective wages were far better, and we had a far more functional political system.
    
    For Middle Income White People in Certain States
    
    But we also had the hanging threat of nuclear war, leaded gasoline in the air and painted all over the walls, Satanic Panic, an AIDS epidemic killing millions of people, several large market crashes that deindustrializee the Midwest, and $7/gal, and a Global War on Terror.
    
    None of this was indicative of better economics or a functional political system.
    
    I can’t think of much that hasn’t gone downhill since 2016.
    
    mRNA technology premiering on the eve of a killer pandemic leaps to mind.
    
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    uuldika@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    
    mRNA technology premiering on the eve of a killer pandemic leaps to mind.
    
    that’s fair. progress in medicine more generally has been good. we’ve started curing fatal genetic disorders, we found the cause of multiple sclerosis, there’s a new antipsychotic with a novel MoA for the first time since chlorpromazine…
    
    None of this was indicative of better economics or a functional political system.
    
    Obama, Reagan, Bush and Clinton weren’t fascists. even Trump wasn’t a fully-fledged fascist in his first term. he is now, and what’s happening to the Federal Government is unprecedented.
    
    look, I know the Weimar Republic had its problems, but you can’t claim Hitler was just more of the same. so it is with the US in 2025.
    
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- rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Go outside, there are no bugs. We’ve lost nearly all biodiversity. It’s over bud.
  
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  - inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    You didn’t get bugs on your windshield so now you’re be forever alone? You’re just catastrophizing. This is literally just baby stepping from a silly premise to a wild conclusion.
    
    Look, calling yourself undateable is always a self fulfilling prophecy. You have to know on some level that it’s still possible if you put in the effort right? There are TONS of childless single women out there.
    
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    rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    I’m alone by choice as I explained in my original comment. What don’t you understand?
    
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  - UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    
    Go outside, there are no bugs.
    
    My neighborhood is alive with cicadas every night and there’s no shortage of mosquitoes biting.
    
    I’m inside the Houston loop, too. Not out in the boonies. Spiderwebs in my garage. Toads in my drainage ditch. I assume they’re eating something.
    
    I drove from Victoria BC to Fairbanks AK three years ago without washing my windshield.
    
    That’s pretty normal in the winter. Try it again after a big rainstorm.
    
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    rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Was June 2021
    
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  - lnfg@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    You want bugs? Drive through Florida.
    
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  - Kacarott@aussie.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    I’m happy to report there are still plenty of bugs outside the US. So by your evidence at the very worst, just the US is ending :)
    
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    rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    I’m in British Columbia
    
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- Zetta@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  I imagine you will continue to get disliked and I will as well, but the world isn’t over and it’s not going to end for a long time. People are always going to claim doom in their current time.
  
  No matter how fucked everything is in the world right now, we are, on average, still significantly better off than almost every other human in all of existence.
  
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  - EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    
    No matter how fucked everything is in the world right now, we are, on average, still significantly better off than almost every other human in all of existence.
    
    But the trend line is definitely going in the wrong direction. We are past our peak.
    
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    pressanykeynow@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Why? Most of the world living better than 20 years ago and way better than 50 years ago, so the trend looks positive.
    
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    Zetta@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    For our lifetime maybe, but on a larger scale that is relevant to humanity as a species the trend down isn’t even visible.
    
    Again not trying to mitigate human suffering today, but I do really take issue with people dooming all the time.
    
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  - rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    
    No matter how fucked everything is in the world right now, we are, on average, still significantly better off than almost every other human in all of existence.
    
    And that must mean that existence is suffering. Lol
    
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    Zetta@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    xD agree on that point
    
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EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Wholeheartedly agree on not having kids, but a vasectomy will take that off your plate.

Relationships are tough, but I’d at least keep an open mind.

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JohnnyMac@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
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- rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  It just doesn’t sit right with me after being friendzoned just prior. Obviously buying a house makes me substantially more attractive yeah
  
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    rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    This is really well said. Thanks
    
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    iAmTheTot@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Hear, hear.
    
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MeThisGuy@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
amen brother

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Snowclone@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
I feel like if people are married they should be doing therapy before they hate eachother. Seems inevitable.

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- rabber@lemmy.ca ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Therapy didn’t save us either
  
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UniversalMonk@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

because the world is ending

Not anytime soon. Stop doomscrolling.

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404UsernameNotFound@lemmy.wtf ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
The world is probably not ending any time soon, have some faith in humanity. Watch this video why everything feels so frustrating : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c1nYtX-NUsc&ab_channel=Kurzgesagt%E2%80%93InaNutshell

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- gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Oh the world definitely is ending (for most people, at least). Democracy is falling apart and we’re at the very early stage of a huge (huge) mass-unemployment crisis by 2040.
  
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  - 404UsernameNotFound@lemmy.wtf ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
    Okay then, think of it this way: we’ll all have plenty of time to scavenge for stylish leather outfits and practice our dramatic wasteland speeches. Silver linings, right?
    
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