Does anyone feel like an actual adult?

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• Roflmasterbigpimp@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Nope. Not at all. I have just a vague Idea what Im doing.

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• troglodytis@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  This question is what an adult feels like.

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  • DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    Yup. The realization that we’re all just making it up as we go is when it happens. Welcome to adulting.

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• RickRussell_CA@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Relevant SMBC:

  www.smbc-comics.com/comic/2012-06-24

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• BassaForte@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Hell no. I’m 29 with my own house, six-figure job, and 3 cars and I don’t feel like an adult lol. But also no kids nor desire to have kids will do that

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• Evotech@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  We are all just winding it.

  The only thing you are is you. You are not “something”. You will always just feel like you.

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• EmoDuck@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Sometimes when I’m hanging my laundry. God, that makes me feels so adulty

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• Spzi@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I feel like I’m pretending to know what I’m doing.

  I guess that explains the observation. As kids, we’re fooled by the pretenders. So we grow up with this expectation.

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• intensely_human@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I feel like an actual adult when I achieve milestones of my own character.

  Any kid can be dragged through the external milestones of an adult life. But a kid cannot experience the milestones of adult character development, because those are the things that define adulthood.

  For example yesterday toward the end of my work day, I had the opportunity to just coast through the last hour. It’s a skill I’ve developed, so I know I can do it. But instead I pushed myself to get more done and keep what promises I could to my customers, despite not feeling like it. That is the kind of thing that makes me feel like an adult. No amount of having experienced relationships, earning, owning, or exposure to death and suffering does it to me. But pushing myself to fulfill my duty despite not feeling like it, makes me feel like an actual adult.

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• MonsiuerPatEBrown@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Yes but it is because of the pile of loss i have sustained thus far.

  it is not get a job or have a kid: it is sustain previously unimaginable loss yet keep going. that is the feeling of adult to me.

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• Drusas@kbin.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Yeah. Life is almost exclusively chores and dealing with bureaucracy. Can't get much more adult than that.

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• BluJay320@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Only when I land slightly wrong or too hard and think my knees are about to explode

  Oh, and the forced grunt every time I stand up

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• chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Yeah kinda. To me being a kid is all about the feeling of things not being up to you, you don’t make the real decisions and the ones you do get to make are inconsequential. The past doesn’t weigh on you and the future is a wide open mystery. Doesn’t feel like that anymore.

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• xtremeownage@lemmyonline.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Nope.

  Still just feel like a kid, with extra responsibilities, while raising my own kids. Guess sometime around 50 or so i’ll start feeling like an “adult”

  Although, at least I call myself a dumbass, after doing something stupid, or wasting money on crap.

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• Kolanaki@yiffit.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  People who act like adults are merely pretending.

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• EvilCartyen@feddit.dk ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Sure. I mean, I am a adult. I never thought adults had things figured out when I was a kid either, seemed pretty obvious they were just trying their best with what they had to work with.

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• Goodie@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Feel like? Maybe not. Accepted? Maybe.

  More often than not now, I find myself having to be the adult in the room. My father recently died, and while my parents both have wills sorted, they didn’t have other things like power of attorney sorted, or a real discussion of what his funeral arrangements he would like. It was not a sudden death. That was a turning point for me.

  I guess that’s where I’m at, I’ve accepted I’m an adult. I’m losing backstops, but also becoming other people’s backstop.

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• GrayBackgroundMusic@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Yeah, but only because my joints hurt if I do anything remotely exertion related. It’s less that I feel like an adult, more like I feel old.

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• vsg@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I’m 27 and sometimes I don’t feel like an adult. I don’t have a job, I live with my parents (even though it’s not as taboo here in my country), and I feel more like an older brother to my nephew instead of the uncle I really am.

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  • Dazza@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    When you don’t live with your parents that’s when you feel like an adult as you don’t have that safety net you’ve been given since birth.

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• Touching_Grass@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I’m middle aged and play video games and even do a lot of atudd like HTB as if I’m 20 about to embark on a new career path

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• Damaskox@kbin.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Depends on the point of view I'd say.

  • I pay bills
  • I deal with requirements and assumptions the society puts on me as a grown-up citizen who brings better tomorrow closer through hard work
  • I deal with hardships of my life through thinking, writing about them, cooperation, diplomacy, listening and discussing even difficult topics - also within my relationships
  • I embrace the consequences that my actions may bring
  • I try to rationalize my thoughts of the world
  • i try to be a decent example to kids and other folks

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  • I'm goofy, playful and childlike (you should see my behavior with my girlfriend)!
  • I enjoy small, "nonsense" things and they cheer me easily up
  • I'm generally relaxed of life
  • I get easily (over-)excited
  • I am an energetic person
  • People assume I'm younger via my habitus

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  So I guess I am and am not, in certain ways.

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• drahardja@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Yeah, I do. I got bills to pay, mouths to feed, a job to go to, joints that hurt…yep. I event grunt when I get up.

  I guess I was never under the impression that any adult actually knew what they were doing, even when I was younger, so I wasn’t surprised that I am still constantly improvising. This is the natural state of living. You’re either learning and improving, or you’re becoming obsolete and decaying. This is true whether or not you’re an adult.

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• Diplomjodler@feddit.de ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  The feeling that you have no idea what you’re doing and just winging it is the most adult thing ever.

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  • DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    This is it. Paying bills? Nah. Owning property? Nope. The realization that there’s no such thing as an “adult”. BOOM. Now you’re an adult.

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• YoBuckStopsHere@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I make okay money in my forties, was able to put a large some down on a reasonable new car to keep monthly payments low. Also my back hurts if I sit too long. So, yes.

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• lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  There are tasks and chores my parents used to do on my behalf that I now do myself, like making money, paying taxes, handling health insurance, etc. I guess those make me feel like an adult.

  But then there are milestones I thought I would have hit by now that I have not, mainly concerning family life. No kids, no partner, nobody to take care of but myself. If I wanna go out and party, or stay in and play video games all weekend, there’s not really much to stop me. That makes me feel immature.

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• OfficeMonkey@lemmy.today ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Every time I have to confiscate the book my kid is reading after lights out I feel like an adult.

  The rest of the time… fuck no.

  (They get it back in the morning – I’m not a monster!)

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• cestvrai@lemm.ee ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I don’t feel like I know what I’m doing but I do feel like an adult. The two are a bit separate in my head.

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• c0mpost@lemmy.eco.br ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  I had to borrow money from the bank this year to buy a car. That made me feel too adult and kind of drove me into a crisis.

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  • SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    If you think that’s bad, look at the shit you gotta do for a house.

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    • Munkisquisher@lemmy.nz ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      It’s being at home with my PlayStation and my own music and all my silly purchases that makes me feel most like a child.

      Funnily enough it’s travelling when I feel like an adult.

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• Ultraviolet@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  It’s like the horizon of ignorance in science. The more you know, the more you know you don’t know.

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• Da_Boom@iusearchlinux.fyi ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Define Adult.

  My personal definition is “A child with responsibilities”

  This means you don’t have to feel like an adult to be one.

  If you really look past the facade of humanity, that’s really all we are.

  And my definition of a teenager is really just “A hormonal child”

  Lastly a manchild is “An adult that shirks and refuses to act like he has responsibilities, while also whining about them”

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