EvilCartyen
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Other accounts: EvilCartyen@lemmy.world
- Comment on How often do you take him for a walk? 1 week ago:
Thank you for not contributing with anything meaningful to the conversation, I guess!
- Comment on How often do you take him for a walk? 1 week ago:
I am not referring to a string you hold, I am referring to a leash like this:
I find them dehumanizing and humiliating because they remind me of a dog leash. Look, people parent differently across the world, I remember a British-Indian comedian who was married to a Dane who said that every parenting practice she regarded as healthy and appropriate was basically illegal in Denmark.
The leash will never not be weird to me, but it is what it is. I don’t think everyone who uses a leash is literally going to treat their kid like a dog, I know they probably love and cherish their kids like I cherish mine, but the fact remains that it feels off to me and I’d say most other people from my neck of the woods.
- Comment on How often do you take him for a walk? 1 week ago:
Lemmy, like reddit, skews American and you’re referring to Europe as well, Europe, which tells me you’re not European. You’re welcome to correct me, of course.
Even if you’ve seen leashes on all continents, they’re definitely super rare and not common now. If you decide to be informative instead of assertive you are welcome to educate me on your experiences and expand on which fronts exactly I am wrong and why.
- Comment on How often do you take him for a walk? 1 week ago:
One of my co-workers expatriated to Sweden for a few years. There were tweens just hopping on the bus and going to the museum miles away. But I get the feeling that one could trust the average Swede would prevent harm to a child from a pedophile.
In contrast to what many people think, Nordic people are fairly strict with what kids are allowed to do when they are small. We spend a lot of time and effort to ensure that kids are well behaved and can be trusted and don’t act out when they are small, and then, gradually, they are allowed more freedom as they grow older. By the time they’re young teenagers we generally feel like they’ve demonstrated that they can be trusted and they are often allowed to bike or take the bus around town and live with a lot more freedom.
Maybe you’re thinking “Duh, that’s how everyone does it!”, but the reason I mention it is that I’ve experienced that many cultures do it differenty; when the kids are young they are allowed a lot of freedom and very little responsibility, then as they grow older their parents will restrict them more and more.
We’re veering off course (or I am, at least), but I find the differences in parenting across cultures very fascinating.
One commenter said that the leashes are for safe toddler independence, not control, and I guess I can see that. It makes sense, eve if it would be cultural taboo in my part of the world.
- Comment on How often do you take him for a walk? 1 week ago:
In the '80s and earlier, corporal punishment was regular and expected. There was a push in the '90s to stop the corporal punishment.
Corporeal punishment was outlawed in Denmark by 1997, but was definitely frowned upon much earlier than that. My grandparent’s generation - born in the 1920s and 1930s - was likely the last generation where it was commonly used.
I mean, our kids can be little brats as well - and our kids are also prone to run off and do dumb stuff, but apparently we handle it differently. And I am fairly certain that my initial reaction - that it’s dehumanizing and humiliating - is how it comes off to almost all Nordic parents.
- Comment on How often do you take him for a walk? 1 week ago:
Your American mum bringing a leash over and using it on you somewhere in Europe 51 years ago hardly makes me wrong on all fronts.
- Comment on How often do you take him for a walk? 1 week ago:
So many people on this thread are defending leashes, yet they don’t exist anywhere but in the US, so…
I have never ever seen a kid leash in Denmark or any country I have visited, and yet kids here don’t run around in stores acting out or disappearing.
I don’t know, they seem dehumanizing and humiliating to me. If other countries can raise kids (incl kids on the spectrum) withiur them why can’t the US?
- Comment on Happy PrIDE Month 1 week ago:
I am impressed by this
- Comment on Grieve with me 4 weeks ago:
So sorry about your wife’s battery
- Comment on Recommendations for "girly" games? 1 month ago:
Calico, maybe 🙂
- Comment on Rev up those 3D printers! 1 month ago:
Obviously babies are demanding, especially in countries with shitty parenting support and daycare, no parental leave, and a work environment which is hostile to normal family life. But kids are fine, funny, and a joy to be around, most of the time, at least. It’s a bit like work, many people bitch about it but they still find it fulfilling.
Also, I know people my age with no kids and they a constantly complain that they’re tired 😂 probably they’re just getting old.
- Comment on Rev up those 3D printers! 1 month ago:
Taking care of a kid is not exactly grueling work for 18 years, it’s a lot easier after the first 3-4, and is also very fulfilling even when it’s tough. Assuming you have normal human caregiving feelings and so on.
I don’t know why the internet is so anti-kids, it’s pretty baffling.
- Comment on Tired of dating apps? 2 months ago:
Sorry, this comment hasn’t left me disappointed AT ALL.
- Comment on Anon's calendar is incomplete 2 months ago:
Implying jokes aren’t serious business… Puhlease
- Comment on Psst, the Americans are asleep, post some eggs 4 months ago:
Eggs are also refrigerated in Denmark, that’s why we used to be such a great ally to the US.
- Comment on [deleted] 4 months ago:
As a 41 year old man, that’s abnormal behaviour. Wtf is wrong with him? Does he have friends, colleagues, family and a spouse in there and do they want to know his taste in porn?
Mah gawd
- Comment on Anon meets a girl at a wedding 6 months ago:
- Comment on Anon meets a girl at a wedding 6 months ago:
- Comment on Anon meets a girl at a wedding 6 months ago:
I mean, probably not with a second cousin, unless you do it for hundreds of years. Greater risk of birth defects if you have children over 30.
- Comment on Is the UK shut down during easter? 6 months ago:
Thank you all, sounds like it would be a fine time to visit 😊
Haven’t been to the UK since brexit, but I expect it’s the same as ever? 🙂
- Submitted 6 months ago to unitedkingdom@feddit.uk | 11 comments
- Comment on Hmmmm 8 months ago:
The argument is also sometimes as dumb as it looks
- Comment on Pizza 9 months ago:
Mods remove this, it’s clearly a pisspost
- Comment on Healthcare 9 months ago:
Man’s helping you not look stupid and you’re calling him a troll, amigo.
- Comment on [deleted] 11 months ago:
You should tell her this, basically, and also you guys can call each other. She’s probably also going to miss you heaps, although she’ll also have a new world to explore.
- Submitted 11 months ago to support@lemmy.world | 3 comments
- Comment on Thoughts on Space Games, Part 3: Too Many Tiny Games! 11 months ago:
You should revisit Space Haven, it is improving every month.
- Comment on Anon looks up Danish cuisine 1 year ago:
My guess is they’re used in industrial kitchens when preparing lunch for lots of people. You know, the same people who have 10L of egg-whites in the walk-in cooler. I can’t imagine regular people using them, they’re definitely not available in shops.
- Comment on Anon looks up Danish cuisine 1 year ago:
Literally never seen or had this in Denmark.
- Comment on Why did we give up on insulation? 1 year ago:
Spent a winter in a semi in Manchester. Coldest winter of my life due to no insulation and the constant draft.
