Fatherhood

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• N0t_5ure@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  As someone that grew up with detached parents with whom I never had the relationship I wanted, I’ve come to recognize that it will never happen. My mother is now dead, and like my father, she lacked the capacity to engage in healthy relationships. The monologue in the “Free Churro” episode (S5E6) of Bojack Horseman really hits home for me, this point in particular:

  I have this friend. And right around when I first met her, her dad died, and I actually went with her to the funeral. And months later, she told me that she didn’t understand why she was still upset, because she never even liked her father. It made sense to me, because I went through the same thing when my dad died. And I’m going through the same thing now. You know what it’s like? It’s like that show Becker, you know, with Ted Danson? I watched the entire run of that show, hoping that it would get better, and it never did. It had all the right pieces, but it just—it couldn’t put them together. And when it got canceled, I was really bummed out, not because I liked the show, but because I knew it could be so much better, and now it never would be. And that’s what losing a parent is like. It’s like Becker.

  For anyone else in the same position, recognize that it is exceptionally difficult for people to change, and a necessary prerequisite is that they see change as necessary and want to change. Most are afraid of change and will never do it, to their detriment.

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  • chunkystyles@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I slept on that show for a long time. I thought it was going to be a dumb, raunchy, adult cartoon and I was so wrong about it. Some of those episodes are real gut punches.

    This one in particular didn’t hit me in the way it did you, but it still felt like a truth of some kind.

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• rumschlumpel@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  There’s a chance that media like this will get him to think, even if he initially rejects the idea.

  Might be a very slim chance, though.

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  • BroBot9000@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Media literacy is surprisingly low. Just look at how many people think Star Trek is conservative 🤦‍♂️

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    • Kolanaki@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      “Whoa. When the hell did Rage Against the Machine become so political?!”

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    • xkbx@startrek.website ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      It’s the military space battles. Most of them gloss over the whole socialist utopia as “fantasy” and just go right to “they’re just military during peace time” view

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    • Horsecook@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

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  • Psythik@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    I mean it worked on me. Raised Republican, surrounded by Republicans my entire adolescence. Always voted Republican.

    But then I discovered Digg after Kevin Rose talked about it on TechTV, and that changed everything for me. Then after Digg committed sudoku, I moved onto reddit, which further pulled me to the left. Now here I am on Lemmy, embarrassed with myself for being ignorant enough to actually believe that the Rs were the good guys for the first 25-some years of my life.

    Point I’m making is that if I can change my ways, then others can too. The only people who vote R are either a. ignorant or b. evil. Those like me, who are the former of the two can change their ways. I don’t think there’s any hope for those who are a part of column B.

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• stray@pawb.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Reminds me of when I watched the Babadook with my mom and she came away offended and thinking all the other people in the film were very mean to the mom.

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  • cRazi_man@europe.pub ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    It’s sad that I know people like this. The definition of “self-centred”.

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• Nomorereddit@lemmy.today ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  In time youll become stronger from their absence in your life. Remember, god is dead and we killed him. We always kill god.

  … and some day youll kill the image of your father being a small god, an entity for whose love and approval youll strive.

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• FerretyFever0@fedia.io ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Jesus Christ. Yeah, I'd prefer to not have a father figure like that. I mean, I do, but I'd like a better one.

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• JandroDelSol@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  I had a former friend think the patriarchy scene in Barbie was aspirational 💀💀💀

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  • bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    Wait its not about horses? Not interested.

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• RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  This killed me, the absolute fucking bluntness lmao

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• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Oh god that’s genuinely tragic.

  Sorry OP, your dad sucks, move on sooner than later is my advice, please don’t ask about where this advice comes from.

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• hodgepodgin@lemmy.zip ⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  So thankful my dad isn’t like this

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