N0t_5ure
@N0t_5ure@lemmy.world
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
Context is everything. Sure, men are more aggressive and women will definitely get some unwanted attention. People often think that as a consequence, women don’t want to be approached by men in public. However, if you dig deeper, women don’t mind being approached, so long it is done by someone they want to be approached by. It is the reality captured by the “Hello, Human Resources” meme.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 days ago:
I think it may be a little more complex than this. I’m a man that was quite good looking in my youth. I got fat and ugly in middle age, and became invisible to women. Now, at 60, I’m in the best physical shape of my life, have largely recovered my looks, I dress nicely, and am blown away about how differently I am treated by women now, especially women over 40. I regularly get compliments about my appearance, and due to the halo effect I seem to collect compliments on nearly everything I do. Having been invisible to women for more than a decade, it feels a little strange to be showered with attention.
That said, not every woman wants the same thing from me, but they do all seem to want my attention, including married women, oddly enough. They want to feel pretty, feel desired, even if they aren’t going to act on those feelings. I frequently get women showing clear signs of interest (intentionally putting themselves in my orbit, mirroring my behavior, initiating physical touch, etc., etc.) in an effort to draw a response from me, even women who are not in a position to follow through on their actions. These are not women just being kind or benignly friendly. Here is one recent example. I was at a friend’s birthday party, and was approached by a woman I had met in dance class. She was moderately flirty during the the course of our conversation, and asked if I were seeing anyone, as she had noted seeing me regularly with one of my female friends. Our conversation ended with her stating that she was looking forward to seeing me in class. At the next class, she wore a sexy black cocktail dress, which was a bit out of character for her. For me, she was showing clear and unmistakable signs of interest. However, when talking, she mentions her husband in passing, which made me wonder what the hell was going on. I later learned that her husband is in the late stages of pancreatic cancer. My takeaway from this experience is that she was trying to elicit my interest to bask in the glow of my male attention, and that she probably isn’t looking to step out on him (which is something that I wouldn’t engage with).
In the last 6 months, I’ve had many other similar experiences, where women are definitely seeking my attention in circumstances where they have no intention of following through. It feels good to be desired, whether you are a man or a woman, and if a woman is constantly drawing romantic interest “accidentally”, it’s worth it for her to consider what energy she is putting out.
- Comment on Drug dealers hate this one weird trick! 1 week ago:
I use molasses to make water kefir, and saw that they sell bulk molasses for animals that is way cheaper. Didn’t have the nerve to pull the trigger though.
- Comment on He's not sure but he thinks he knows what she is shopping for 3 weeks ago:
She looks like she’s clearly in need of a neck massager.
- Comment on Sold in Belgrade... 4 weeks ago:
“Looks like Nazis are back on the menu boys!”
- Comment on Alchemy is so hot right now. 5 weeks ago:
“If," [“the management consultant”] said tersely, “we could for a moment move on to the subject of fiscal policy. . .” “Fiscal policy!" whooped Ford Prefect. “Fiscal policy!" The management consultant gave him a look that only a lungfish could have copied. “Fiscal policy. . .” he repeated, “that is what I said.” “How can you have money,” demanded Ford, “if none of you actually produces anything? It doesn’t grow on trees you know.” “If you would allow me to continue… .” Ford nodded dejectedly. “Thank you. Since we decided a few weeks ago to adopt the leaf as legal tender, we have, of course, all become immensely rich.” Ford stared in disbelief at the crowd who were murmuring appreciatively at this and greedily fingering the wads of leaves with which their track suits were stuffed. “But we have also,” continued the management consultant, “run into a small inflation problem on account of the high level of leaf availability, which means that, I gather, the current going rate has something like three deciduous forests buying one ship’s peanut." Murmurs of alarm came from the crowd. The management consultant waved them down. “So in order to obviate this problem,” he continued, “and effectively revalue the leaf, we are about to embark on a massive defoliation campaign, and. . .er, burn down all the forests. I think you’ll all agree that’s a sensible move under the circumstances." The crowd seemed a little uncertain about this for a second or two until someone pointed out how much this would increase the value of the leaves in their pockets whereupon they let out whoops of delight and gave the management consultant a standing ovation. The accountants among them looked forward to a profitable autumn aloft and it got an appreciative round from the crowd.”
― Douglas Adams, The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
- Comment on If it fits... 5 weeks ago:
Fair trade.
- Comment on new trend 1 month ago:
A ‘reboot’ if you will…
- Comment on When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child 1 month ago:
Protip: you can spend thousands of dollars on ebay to buy adult things as well.
- Comment on Hot tub 1 month ago:
“No Donald, I asked if you could blow bubbles!”
- Comment on Of course there is. 1 month ago:
Everything conservatives don’t like is “communism”.
- Comment on Click OK 1 month ago:
Dogs are into coprophagia, and they probably get some nutrients or beneficial bacteria or something from it, because it is instinctual. My parents dogs love to raid the litter box.
- Comment on Click OK 1 month ago:
The dog is just waiting for his next snack.
- Comment on Replica of the Statue of Liberty topples due to strong winds in Guaíba, Brazil 1 month ago:
Heard in the not too distant future: “Take your stinking paws off me, you damn dirty ape!”
- Comment on Replica of the Statue of Liberty topples due to strong winds in Guaíba, Brazil 1 month ago:
2016 was the beginning of the end.
- Comment on Who? 2 months ago:
Yes, it’s a parasocial relationship. Basically, the consumers of this content are sort of getting a subscription girlfriend experience, which I guess is very appealing to men that lack the ability to attract women in the real world. It’s kind of like men who go to strip clubs.
- Comment on Relationship Goals 2 months ago:
Too bad my ex-wife wasn’t an Indian Crested Porcupine…
- Comment on I miss Levis 2 months ago:
He’s got a lot of good content.
- Comment on Summoning the Beast of Big Pharma 2 months ago:
Yes, he’s definitely taking a rip.
- Comment on I miss Levis 2 months ago:
Internet pro tip: Watch this video. Becoming socially curious is a game-changer for introverts.
- Comment on I miss Levis 2 months ago:
Yes, but they have great sales. Boys pants half off!
- Comment on SipsTea 2 months ago:
What should you do? Become president of France. Problem solved.
- Comment on Dr. Fisher is at risk of head crabs 2 months ago:
But he may have heard it breathing hard.
- Comment on Dr. Fisher is at risk of head crabs 2 months ago:
It’s sucking his eyeball out.
- Comment on JD, you dog. 3 months ago:
That motorboating motherfucker!
- Comment on Why do seemingly all politicians (and no one else) do that hand gesture when they talk, the one where it looks like they're holding an invisible fishing rod? 3 months ago:
And this is safer than “air dicking”.
- Comment on Easy choice 3 months ago:
Hotbox the tent!
- Comment on [deleted] 3 months ago:
A beard is like makeup for men. If done correctly, your short, neatly trimmed beard can highlight and strengthen your jawline and provide a contrast to emphasize hollow cheeks/cheek bones.
- Comment on $96.5 million for Nadella | Microsoft's CEO receives record pay in a year that saw 15,000+ layoffs 3 months ago:
- Comment on Remember using this little gadget as a kid to blow bubbles 3 months ago:
I don’t know who “Bubbles” is, but I’m sure he’s pretty happy…
