The DSM-5 has 9 criteria, and if you meet any 5 of the 9, you have NPD. npdtest.org/…/what-are-the-9-official-dsm-5-crite… The fact that you’re questioning whether you are a narcissist tends to point to you not being one. If the people around you are telling you that you crave attention on a pathological level, it may well be gaslighting or projection from the people around you, as narcissists love to deflect and find fault with others.