My friend exposed a guy for bad stuff. Now he's created a site where he archives everything my friend posts online & deliberately twists it to make her look bad/discredit her. What should she do?

Submitted ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩ by ⁨TinyLittlePuni@lemmy.world⁩ to ⁨[deleted]⁩

This guy is 38 and she was part of some chatroom and he started talking to her 13 year old little sister in a way that very obviously had ill intent. She called him out on this and posted screenshots of that chatroom online. Now ever since this, he has a site where he archives almost everything she says online. She made a post about how she prefers cats over dogs, then he archived that and posted the link to the archive on his site saying “never trust a dog hater with anything” and it just goes on, and on, and on for years.

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Tedesche@lemmy.world ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
Go talk to a fucking lawyer and stop seeking advice from people online!

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- sleen@lemmy.zip ⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  The truth has never been more truer.
  
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MnemonicBump@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
OP, your friend is the victim of criminal cyberstalking and harassment. This dude should be reported to the authorities

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- madcaesar@lemmy.world ⁨14⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  My guess is that the guy has several red hats in his closet
  
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  - MnemonicBump@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Oh, without a doubt
    
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Coopr8@kbin.earth ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
This is stalking. She could get a restraining order which includes interacting with her online content, so if he continued to repost it would be a violation of the order.

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palordrolap@fedia.io ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
If these twisted statements are provably false - even if they contain elements of truth - then this is a case of libel.

Creating accounts everywhere someone is in order to track what they do and say is stalking.

Making repeated efforts to ruin a person's day is harassment.

Contact law enforcement and/or legal representation. I'm not either of those but it seems like there's a strong case here.

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- TinyLittlePuni@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  He’s hiding links in text that twists what’s actually in the links and those links do go to posts she made but it’s like he hides links in text so people don’t click them. A single sentence on his site can contain upwards of five or even ten links.
  
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  - SL3wvmnas@discuss.tchncs.de ⁨9⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    See it these links show up if you “view source” on a browser. Print the source as evidence to bring to a lawyer. Or find a lawyer who either knows how to find stuff online or has a good IT Person.
    
    Be prepared for much more DARVO and other mind games. Be aware Law enforcement can not shield you from all of this, but is a good ally to have. Try to find other local women only clubs or victim helping organizations as allies.
    
    Be aware if you search for them online, there are nutjob sites designed to hurt women in need. Go in person if you can, to pick up their vibe before you open up.
    
    Stay safe! Best of Luck!
    
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miked@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Contact the registrar and host of the site. One or both will likely shut it down.

Also contact the police as others have said.

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- thermal_shock@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  Good luck. Nothing illegal if it’s just screenshots and copies of her word. Like, what is the complaint?
  
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  - 3laws@lemmy.world ⁨21⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Its called harassment. And its illegal.
    
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BuboScandiacus@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Get the police involved

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ThrowawayPermanente@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Have a detailed, copy-pasted reply with links ready to go. Every time he pops his head up anywhere, remind anybody watching that he is a known pedophile. Also, talk to a lawyer about the possibility his behavior might rise to the level of harassment.

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- TinyLittlePuni@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  Good idea!
  
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  - trxxruraxvr@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    Depending on the jurisdiction you’re in accusing someone of being a pedophile may not be a good idea. You should definitely talk to a lawyer though, preferably before you make any accusations.
    
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  - FreedomAdvocate@lemmy.net.au ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    No, absolutely terrible idea. That’s a lawsuit waiting to happen. He isn’t, from what you’ve said, a “known pedophile” because he hasn’t been charged and convicted of anything that would make him so.
    
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- thermal_shock@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  Careful, falls under libel if you can’t prove it.
  
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  - troed@fedia.io ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    I don't think I've seen OP mention which country their friend is a citizen of. Many countries have libel laws that don't care if the claims are true or not, but instead just look at what your intention is by making them.
    
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  - morphballganon@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    I heard you can safely call someone an asshole
    
    Wonder if creep would likewise be safe
    
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DiagonalHorse@lemmy.ml ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
If he has uploaded photos of your friend from her social media to his site and she took those pictures, she could have a pathway towards DMCA striking his site down. Talk to a lawyer about it

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andrewta@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Call an attorney to see if there is anything that can be done.

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- blarghly@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  Also, start archiving the website in order to compile evidence for later. Don’t count on this person leaving the site up.
  
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ComradeMiao@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
I highly doubt a random website will get any traction. Why doesn’t she just make her social media private? Why hasn’t she blocked this random dude

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- troed@fedia.io ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  She's the victim here and shouldn't need to do any of this.
  
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  - Hoimo@ani.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    Everyone regardless of victim status should use the tools available to protect their personal information online.
    
    If someone is publishing your personal information without your consent, local laws and regulations may apply. You kinda have to be lucky with police and the legal system to take you seriously though.
    
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- truite@jlai.lu ⁨22⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  If the guy is dedicated enough, and he seems to be, it won’t work. He’ll find a way to gain access to the private account. He’ll make others accounts.
  
  You can make a new, private account without saying who you are, but you lose people, it’s exhausting to be careful full time and it’s unfair.
  
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FreedomAdvocate@lemmy.net.au ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Why hasn’t she gone to the police?

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- TinyLittlePuni@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  Because she’s in the US and this guy’s from Australia.
  
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Flax_vert@feddit.uk ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Call the police.

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Skullgrid@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
post anonymously?

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dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
What’s the site?

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krunklom@lemmy.zip ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
It sounds like this person is archiving publicly accessible your friend is making under their real name and archiving them.

There’s a solution to this.

First, you turn off all the lights in your bathroom and close the door. And then you say"Lindsay Logan" three times,at exactly 3:33 a.m. if you do it right a school bus will hit the person and they will die of school bus smash.

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Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
Ignore him?

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- TinyLittlePuni@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  She would normally, but he’s actively spreading misinformation about her, claiming this is “karma” for her spreading “misinformation” about him. She has fibromyalgia and he’s going around accusing her of faking it, and he’s also accused her of being a shoplifter because of what was extremely obviously a joke that was taken out of context
  
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  - Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    Nobody cares about what some random person says about some other random person. If she just stops stalking this guy stalking her, he’ll either get bored and move on, or, he’ll continue to waste his life posting insults that she’ll never read.
    
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