Hoimo
@Hoimo@ani.social
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 11 hours ago:
I don’t think the shut-in believes it’s normal or okay to be a shut-in. It’s a feeling of complete failure to fit in and isolating as a result. The longer the shut-in is ostracized (or keeping themself ostracized), the stronger the feeling becomes that they do not fit in, they will never fit in, if there was ever an opportunity to fit in they surely missed it now. Being a 38 year old shut-in is actually very believable to me,it isn’t exactly a situation that challenges your beliefs or motivates you to change.
Sure, it’s harsh to put this all on enabling parents, but you also don’t get to 38 without enabling. You don’t leave the “last resort” on the table for 10-15 years. The very long list should be exhausted within 2 years and one of the options should be a therapist specialized in shut-ins. Beyond that, you’ll just have to hope and pray that one day something clicks in that brain and they start taking charge of their own life.
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 14 hours ago:
Most high school kids are already more influenced by their peers than their parents. Once you’re an adult actual parental influence is almost nil if the child wants it to be.
You’re talking about kids who wouldn’t become shut-ins anyway. If you’re bullied in high school and drop out at 16, the only “peer” influence is the trauma. Not that I experienced anything like that ;_;
- Comment on Anon doesn't have a plan 15 hours ago:
I’d start with making them understand that independence is good for everyone involved. Then small steps towards independence, starting with a simple part-time job. The important part here is that they see more people than just their direct family, to show them the different ways people can function in society.
If this works out, help them identify some personal goals. The hard part of being a shut-in is that you have no agency over your life, so you give up on all your goals. Once you have a little agency, you can start finding goals again. Simple ones at first: saving up some emergency funds, getting a driver’s license, making a weekend trip to get out of the house for a couple nights.
Also assuming they are classic shut-ins and not caretaker-type shut-ins: learning how to take care of the household, cooking, developing skills around the house. It’s low barrier to entry, they are already in the house after all.
- Comment on 🎶I keep dancing on my own🎶 3 weeks ago:
I cried when the clown beckoned for the student clown to come closer, expertly keeping the pie hidden behind his back. I tore my clothes and threw ash over my head when the student clown crafted a second pie unbeknownst to the head clown. Woe humanity, will this cycle of violence never end?
- Comment on I think NAMBLA or some other similar org might buy them... 3 weeks ago:
It says “printed”, could be any printing technique. Is there something in the picture that points to 3D printer?
- Comment on Hey looky! I'm on a list a just learned about three minutes ago! 3 weeks ago:
It’s a general approach to names with numbers at the end, the list is full of those. I’m almost more interested in the more specific patterns like
name(69)+, because was there an alt name6969 he wanted to block but an unrelated name67 he wanted to avoid? - Comment on time flys!! 4 weeks ago:
Pretty sure it’s Nathan Fraser and Brendan Fillion
- Comment on time flys!! 4 weeks ago:
Which one is Amdy Samberg
- Comment on Has anobody seen Odyssey? 4 weeks ago:
A movie doesn’t have to be a flawless masterpiece to be 100%. Getting certified fresh on RT is honestly more a balancing act of meeting expectations, but also not being so predictable that it becomes bland.
- Comment on Old but gud 4 weeks ago:
What, a shirt and khaki shorts? Or are the beautiful blond curls part of the outfit?
- Comment on Refer to the chart 4 weeks ago:
Elijah Wood muppified, but he turns more and more human as the Ring corrupts him. Gollum is fully human, nude, slimy.
- Comment on Guess the game (#008) 5 weeks ago:
Corporation Inc. Immediately thought of that as well. I don’t know what magic ArmorGames pulled to keep these playable, but here: armorgames.com/play/7348/corporation-inc
- Comment on Portlandia was spot on 5 weeks ago:
But were you a sweet and were you getting baked?
- Comment on Anon is an imposter 5 weeks ago:
Yeah, but why is CIDR notation like that? You put a bigger number at the end and your subnet becomes smaller? Why would you want that?
- Comment on The Ol' Switcheroo 5 weeks ago:
This article is currently being heavily editedas its subject has recently died.
Not even all his wasses have been issed yet, is this /c/breakingnews?
- Comment on Anon comes up with a dating strategy 1 month ago:
Muscles are still squishy when relaxed. It’s not like Michael Phelps is permanently hard as steel.
Only when he sees you ;3
- Comment on Please mind the gap 1 month ago:
Was she your ex at the time or was it the reason for the breakup?
- Comment on You can (not) turn this worksheet in late. 1 month ago:
Is it !animemes@ani.social ? I can never remember the formatting for comms.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
And they’re bronies, you say? What were they doing in Japan?
- Comment on Pink Ranger 2 months ago:
What is that picture. Why does he suddenly wear glasses? Why is he 15 years older? Like, the pose is the same, the resolution is higher and it has a lot of details that weren’t in the original. All clear signs of AI hallucinations. Seems like you’re not even aware of how much you trust AI.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
That seems pretty easy to stay away from.
Also reminds me that I have no idea what other people are up to.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
What do you think bronies are?
- Comment on Pink Ranger 2 months ago:
Show us the picture and we’ll ignore that you admit to trusting artificial idiots.
- Comment on 2 months ago:
When I pointed to the model that I was sceptical, it suddenly change the cheating probability to a much higher score.
What did you use? Don’t ask the LLM if something is written by an LLM, it has no way of telling.
- Submitted 2 months ago to games@lemmy.world | 7 comments
- Comment on Anon is given an ultimatum 2 months ago:
It isn’t really like what? NEET is a choice, but NEET is also a defense mechanism to make failure look like a choice. I was a proud NEET for a while and I still have some online NEET friends, and all of them have some underlying problem that they don’t want to admit (autism, in my case). Also, very often the parents enable it unwittingly. They’re supportive for too long, never get external help, then either keep enabling (too proud to admit their mistake) or turn abusive (and make the distrust worse).
Now, getting a bus ticket to a strange city and living in a Starbucks? None of my NEET friends would ever dare do such a terrifying thing. Outside is where the dangers live. Maybe if they thought the inside threat was real enough, but… enabling parents, see?
- Comment on Anon is given an ultimatum 2 months ago:
Uhmmm, you don’t have to cook doritos, wagie.
- Comment on Nobody ever knows 2 months ago:
It is our collective responsibility to keep children out of poverty, regardless of the circumstances of their birth. There, your position is now true.
- Comment on Boots 2 months ago:
unimpermeable
- Comment on Valve raises Steam Deck prices by more than $200 2 months ago:
Thanks, I like my colors and can manage the light, so I won’t feel bad missing out on the etched glass then. And the storage upgrade was my plan too, if I ever need it. Much easier to execute than a screen upgrade.