I’ve legit had this happen to me in high school. I stopped being friends with guys after it became… “aggressive”.
Anon starts talking to a girl
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SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 2 months ago
Monument@lemmy.sdf.org 2 months ago
I had this happen to me in my 30’s. (Sorta.)
Polyamory - a woman who hadn’t been taking on new partners started dating me. My other girlfriend’s husband began awkwardly pursuing her with no grace or finesse. It got awkward. An acquaintance learned that I was dating the second woman (who had also only recently gotten back into the scene), and began pursuing her.
It’s like some guys think that because a woman is available to one (well, two or three), she’s available to all. It felt very much like blood in the water to a shark.
Contemporarium@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Ha…hahaha…ha…HAHAHAHAHAHA
RowRowRowYourBot@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
What the fuck is “low value men”? No one else can decide your value.
Randomgal@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
I agree, but there’s is also the reallity that if you have no hobbies and no passions other than gooning you’re going to come off as pretty uninteresting and boring to most people. Some would call that being low-value
Wanpieserino@lemm.ee 2 months ago
Nah low value isn’t about hobbies and stuff. That’s teenager stuff.
It’s quite easy… be dependable, be able to communicate, be good looking, charisma, …
Girls don’t give a shit about your hobbies unless they also have those exact same hobbies.
Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 2 months ago
I’ve learned from my female friends that the bar for men is so fucking low. Basically shower regularly, listen to what other people say, know how to keep your home relatively clean and don’t be a creep and you’re immediately in the top 30%
Revan343@lemmy.ca 2 months ago
Incels are low value men…but not for the reason they think
Buddahriffic@lemmy.world 2 months ago
They choose to be low value when they get bitter about their assumption they are low value.
I’m glad I had someone I wasn’t attracted to pursuing me early on because it led to the realization that giving in to that bitterness would just seal my fate when I was feeling down about rejection. Part of the bitterness was wanting someone to say, “hey, no, that’s not the case” and date me to make me feel better, but from experiencing the other side of it, I knew there wasn’t anything she could have done to make me into anything other then friendship and the more she pushed, the less I’d be sympathetic, not the other way around.
Things didn’t turn around right away when I realized that, but it was an important part of the “don’t be unattractive” rule. There’s more to it, of course, but being whiney and bitter is pretty unattractive to most people, I’d guess.
SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 2 months ago
It’s the attempt to understand dating through tech bro economics.
The look at supply/demand (swipes), and decide their value based on the demand of the “market” is.
It’s deranged
x00z@lemmy.world 2 months ago
A “low value man” is a man that tries to decide another ones value.
INHALE_VEGETABLES@aussie.zone 2 months ago
🪞
Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 2 months ago
They confided in each other that they both have low self esteem
Thcdenton@lemmy.world 2 months ago
I dunno. my broke ass probably lol
yunxiaoli@sh.itjust.works 2 months ago
Imagine the world is a video game. Higher value characters of the race man would have things like a high earning job (a good class), a decent amount of wealth, high physical stats, high charisma. Low value characters would have a terrible class (smelly gamer), stats they believe are skewed towards intelligence, and no money.
If your world view is like this except you also believe there are hidden stats you can’t ever change(like looks), and you’re in a capitalist nightmarescape where even changing your class and amount of wealth is typically impossible, then you’ve accidently an entire incel.
Brutticus@lemm.ee 2 months ago
lol so basically the premise of incelibacy is that there is a hierarchy of men (hence all the “alpha” or “beta” shit".) What you are was given out at birth (so yay, biological essentialism). they believe some traits highly valued by women (height, beauty, etc) and these were handed out at birth. If you are short, or slight, or bulky, they believe that no one can find you attractive (the black pill), no matter what other traits you cultivate. They are convinced no one might have any other taste, they have to look like Chris Hemsworth. So imagine a scale with Chris Hemsworth at the top, and everyone who doesn’t look like that having “low value.”
Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 2 months ago
One of them is lower value than the other, it would seem.
Pregnenolone@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Teenager moment
sirico@feddit.uk 2 months ago
We’re just real men
Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Men in Tights!
JohnnyMac@lemmy.world 2 months ago
God this is stupid even for green text
CityPop@lemmy.today 2 months ago
That’s how you now it’s not fake.
Nurse_Robot@lemmy.world 2 months ago
It still could be gay