I couldn’t get over my high school girlfriend until my thirties. One time, I had a dream in which she told me that my obsession was unhealthy and that I needed to move on. It didn’t help.
Anon reaches enlightenment
Submitted 4 months ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to greentext@sh.itjust.works
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ArbitraryValue@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
Benjaben@lemmy.world 4 months ago
My dreams are brutally realistic sometimes too lol, which makes me grumpy. Shouldn’t we be trying out other ideas, ya dork ass brain?! Isn’t that a lotta the point of dreaming at all?!
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
I still think about someone I liked in high school, even though I’m happily married and wouldn’t change anything about what happened. In fact, I think I’d have more problems if I ended up with that them than my SO.
I think most people have that “one that got away” that they think about, regardless of their current relationship status. And I don’t think it has anything to do with that specific individual, but the circumstances that made them stand out to you at the time, like that favorite video game that doesn’t hold up today but you still want to replay (or maybe have replayed multiple times).
quixotic120@lemmy.world 4 months ago
A lot of therapy is just Buddhism repacked for modern audiences
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 4 months ago
or any meditation technique/speech therapy.
christian monks used to do the same. i think it was called “confession” or something when you talked about things that bothered you with somebody who was reasonably intelligent in a private context.
i guess it really helped and might have been the modern equivalent of talking to a therapist.
SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 4 months ago
also: praying. It’s basically meditation, depending on your practice.
You’re quietly going through your thoughts and, well, meditate on them. Lots of good ideas and solutions can come from that alone
sir_pronoun@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Crows -> Buddhism?
UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Sounds more like some kind of pagan animism to me
festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
unironically
imaqtpie@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
Just Rick and two crows, till the end of time
Jumuta@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
crows are so fucking epic
gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de 4 months ago
There has been a story a long time ago:
People (mostly men) who are mostly bald on the top of the head, but have like hair on the side, are said that their hair is a “crow’s nest”. (because it looks a bit like one of these things:)
These people were said to have reached enlightenment, wisdom, or knowledge, because the bird (raven or crow) stands for wisdom, insight or knowledge. (compare that to the owls in ancient greece, ravens in nordic mythology, dove in christianity or eagle in the US culture.)
That is i believe partially also why this hairstyle was considerably popular among christian monks, who would often use shears to achieve hair that looks like that.
Sergio@slrpnk.net 4 months ago
sbv@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
While Castaneda’s work was accepted as factual by many when the books were first published, the training he described is now generally considered to be fictional.
😬
Sergio@slrpnk.net 4 months ago
Yeah I haven’t read his books, I just read a couple articles about the guy after seeing him mentioned in a meme post here on lemmy. Here are a couple of the more interesting articles:
generichate1546@lemmynsfw.com 4 months ago
Once you make peace with the reality that they are not the partner/person you perceived them to be, this easier it is to realize they are a mess of insecurities just like you or I perhaps stacked in a different order but nonetheless the hot mess Express even if they seem like they have it together… I spent years as a young man being pissed at various exes and then realize that the problem was me. I was choosing people that I wasn’t good and compatible with whether or not they were good people has nothing to do with my ability to choose. I hope I’m better…
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
Yeah, the number of extremely successful people that OD on drugs alone, or commit suicide just highlights to me that everyone is insecure, just about different things. Once you realize that, it’s a lot easier to interact with other people because they’re just the person on the other side of the conversation. I still don’t like talking with powerful people (employers, police officers, local leaders, etc), but it helps knowing that they’re probably struggling with something themselves.
So yeah, if a relationship isn’t working out, either try practicing empathy (assume they’re going through some heavy stuff) or find someone with a different mix of insecurities and problems that are more compatible with your own.
feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 4 months ago
I’m bald.
festnt@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
hi bald. i’m fest
blindbunny@lemmy.ml 4 months ago
Same bra
VolumetricShitCompressor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 months ago
Very Disco
JackbyDev@programming.dev 4 months ago
fuck talking about my feelings
Anon moved on by talking about their feelings in the dream though 💀
BoxOfFeet@lemmy.world 4 months ago
I look back at pictures of myself at 25, when my hair was thinning pretty bad. And I really regret not shaving my head sooner. I love having a shaved head. I especially don’t like looking at my wedding photos. I have a nice round head, I should have been proud about it.
papalonian@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Anon is enlightened and regarded
RogueBanana@lemmy.zip 4 months ago
Fuck taking to real people, we schizophrenics stick with our real imaginary friends.
Sonor@lemmy.world 4 months ago
my ai girlfriend will be really upset when she reads this
fraksken@infosec.pub 4 months ago
Had a real good open hearted, out load chat with myself. Best talk I had in years. Changed my outlook on life. Talking helps. Therapists make it easier on people.
idunnololz@lemmy.world 4 months ago
He is very highly regarded