You cheer them up by telling them that at least they don’t have to deal with [insert bad present from an ex here] and she doesn’t have to buy any extra presents this year.
If that doesn’t work, you base it off of their exes’ behavior: for example if they got sloppy drunk, you say that at least she doesn’t need to DD/babysit this year. If they were loud, you say that at least she’s not going to suffer permanent hearing damage.
I didnt think this needed to be said but making a joke at a bystanders expense, particularly a hurtful personal attack, is not ok.
Sure jokes are give and take with some good natured ribbing but this strays more into carless, or potentially malicious territory.
Nah, it is good natured ribbing 100%. People who are alone for 28 years in a row either are completely inept at human interaction or don’t want a partner / aren’t ready for one. The first case is incredibly rare, in the second case you probably are secure enough in it to laugh with them. And at the end of the day - it worked to get the cousing to start laughing and stop thinking about how hurt they are.
I don’t know how many 28+ year old virgins you’ve met, but I know like 5-6, none of whom are completely socially inept(I have really nerdy hobbies? I don’t know why I know so many), and only one would be at all cool with another person making a joke about it, but still probably not a random aunt.
The one other exception I can think of is the religiously celibate, who might be a-okay with it from their aunt to cheer up a cousin, but I’m sure not doing it.
If you don’t want one and people make fun of you for that that is still shitty. Also it’s entirely possible to want one but just not enough to go actively looking. The only person that would be allowed to make that joke without being very certain he doesn’t mind would be anon himself. Society’s ultra focus on relationships and sex can feel bad enough without your fucking family making fun of you.
OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 10 months ago
Jeez, girl is crying and having a hard time, someone makes a joke to cheer her up. You call that a dick move?
Anivia@feddit.org 10 months ago
There are ways to cheer someone up without bullying someone else
Comment105@lemm.ee 10 months ago
I literally don’t know of a single way to do that
unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 10 months ago
Looks like you should keep your mouth shut then maybe
TheHarpyEagle@pawb.social 10 months ago
That’s so very sad
idiomaddict@lemmy.world 10 months ago
You cheer them up by telling them that at least they don’t have to deal with [insert bad present from an ex here] and she doesn’t have to buy any extra presents this year.
If that doesn’t work, you base it off of their exes’ behavior: for example if they got sloppy drunk, you say that at least she doesn’t need to DD/babysit this year. If they were loud, you say that at least she’s not going to suffer permanent hearing damage.
JackFrostNCola@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I didnt think this needed to be said but making a joke at a bystanders expense, particularly a hurtful personal attack, is not ok.
Sure jokes are give and take with some good natured ribbing but this strays more into carless, or potentially malicious territory.
Maalus@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Nah, it is good natured ribbing 100%. People who are alone for 28 years in a row either are completely inept at human interaction or don’t want a partner / aren’t ready for one. The first case is incredibly rare, in the second case you probably are secure enough in it to laugh with them. And at the end of the day - it worked to get the cousing to start laughing and stop thinking about how hurt they are.
archonet@lemy.lol 10 months ago
Wow, you’re a twat.
idiomaddict@lemmy.world 10 months ago
I don’t know how many 28+ year old virgins you’ve met, but I know like 5-6, none of whom are completely socially inept(I have really nerdy hobbies? I don’t know why I know so many), and only one would be at all cool with another person making a joke about it, but still probably not a random aunt.
The one other exception I can think of is the religiously celibate, who might be a-okay with it from their aunt to cheer up a cousin, but I’m sure not doing it.
LwL@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Lmao what
If you don’t want one and people make fun of you for that that is still shitty. Also it’s entirely possible to want one but just not enough to go actively looking. The only person that would be allowed to make that joke without being very certain he doesn’t mind would be anon himself. Society’s ultra focus on relationships and sex can feel bad enough without your fucking family making fun of you.
cheddar@programming.dev 10 months ago
For half a second? Because surely that joke didn’t cure her sadness.
WraithGear@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Um don’t feel like the first is particularly rare…
dubious@lemmy.world 10 months ago
watch out. we’re in an incel feeding area.
FiskFisk33@startrek.website 10 months ago
I don’t understand why everyone calls me a monster. I just kicked those puppies to cheer a crying girl up.
dubious@lemmy.world 10 months ago
anons are far from puppies. anons should probably be kicked regularly on general principle.
Donkter@lemmy.world 10 months ago
Your brain has rotted.