Grindr doesn’t have matching. You just see a profile you like and message them directly.
That’s probably why it actually works.
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peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 22 hours ago
You guys actually get matches?
Goddamn. Here I am in straight world with exactly one match in an entire year that wasn’t a bot.
Eh
Fuck it the apps are scams anyway
Kolanaki@pawb.social 18 hours ago
blarghly@lemmy.world 18 minutes ago
That’s how Hinge works also. The reason Grindr works is that men are more likely to be down to fuck in the Wendy’s bathroom with a stranger.
shalafi@lemmy.world 22 hours ago
Sounds like you need to work on your profile and set of pics. Many years ago I logged into PoF as a woman and was stunned at how bad the other guy’s profiles were.
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Write something humorous, make your post amusing, doesn’t have to be LOL funny
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Don’t list anything you find unacceptable, too negative
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Don’t list anything you have to have in a partner, too demanding
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Post a wide variety of pics, get a couple of your very best, but get some day-to-day pics in there, looks more honest that way
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Also post pics where you’re in action, engaged in an activity you like
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NO: Guns, dead animals, motorcycles, trucks or other vehicles you wish to show off
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No pics that include other women, no matter who they are. I’d try to leave male friends out as well.
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Don’t talk about being lonely, wanting to share your life with someone, nothing emotional, sounds needy, that comes later
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No need to come with your life story, they’re reading your profile to see if you’re an interesting person today, not where you came from
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Do what I did and sign in as the opposite sex (sorry, been assuming you’re a man looking for a woman), read their dumb profiles, don’t do those things
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Once you get it down, splatter that profile across several websites. You catch more fish with multiple hooks in the water.
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One final note, when you get matches, chat very briefly, ask for the date. Women out there are seriously frustrated with guys that seem to only want to talk, talk, talk. Get that date set before someone bolder asks her out!
Sorry for making so many assumptions. If this doesn’t help you, maybe someone else can get use out of it. For context, I was 50-53 and pulling so many dates the neighbors were making fun of me over all the women in and out of here. Also, I’m short and scrawny, non-rich and my vehicles are 20+ years old. :)
Kolanaki@pawb.social 18 hours ago
Some of these are definitely up to your own personal preference.
Plenty of MAGA chicks on Tinder in my area that, themselves, have pics of their guns, dead animals and trucks. I’m sure they’d love all the country bros that do the same.
blarghly@lemmy.world 10 minutes ago
Also, the market is a bit saturated with MAGA bros. Certainly there are women looking for them, but the gender ratio has a skew
shalafi@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
I’m in the Deep South. Saw exactly one MAGA post.
Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 18 hours ago
NO: Guns, dead animals, motorcycles, trucks or other vehicles you wish to show off
Dang it so no train pics I take it?
No pics that include other women, no matter who they are. I’d try to leave male friends out as well.
See I’ve heard the opposite advise. A non-cover photo of you with some friends including non-male friends if you have any indicates you’re not a loner and might have some idea of how to talk to other humans
shalafi@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Other people in your pics brings up to many assumptions about who’s who, what your relationships are, all that mess.
The thing is to avoid pics that beg the question. Does that make sense?
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 20 hours ago
Huh. Well. I guess I’m doing everything right then.
Maybe the photos need a lot of work. That will be challenging.
shalafi@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Get lots of pics! Can’t ever tell which ones will work out!
If none are working out? Take a long hard look in the mirror. What can you fix or improve? I’ve rarely met another human that couldn’t do something to be more attractive. Do that thing for yourself, not some anonymous stranger.
dreadbeef@lemmy.dbzer0.com 21 hours ago
damn thats a lot of effort lol
will stick with never ysing daying apps ever again in my life, already settled on dying alone in a cabin with a dog because the app life juice is not worth the squeeze
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raptorattacks@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
Grindr doesn’t really have a “match” system. You can send a message to anyone whose profile you can see (unless/until they block you). Think of it less like a traditional dating app and more like an interactive billboard of horny people in your area.
BackgrndNoize@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
Why isn’t there a straight version of that lol
raptorattacks@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
Multiple answers to that question:
- There are women on Grindr - in my experience, mostly trans women or m/f couples looking for a third. So men can find straight sex on Grindr, but it’s rare. Women are definitely a scant minority of the users.
- There are plenty of “straight” men on Grindr. You’d have to ask them why - I usually block them.
- The reason why dating apps marketed towards straight people don’t allow this kind of messaging (and the reason there aren’t more women on Grindr) is because women, generally speaking, won’t put up with the same kind of shit that gay men will. A straight dating app where men could send horny messages and dick pics to every woman they saw wouldn’t have any women using it.
BanMe@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
The world lost untold weirdness when Craigslist took down their personals section, cause that’s where my down dirty girlfriends were getting the dick back in the day. You could go on and have your pick of dozens of guys in an hour. Generally they were real guys. Most were awful but they found some diamonds in the rough.
Kolanaki@pawb.social 18 hours ago
Or it would have the horniest, sluttiest women in the world 🤷♂️
toynbee@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
I met my wife on IRC. Try that!
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 18 hours ago
IRC? Like a specific one or just a random one from the early 2000s
toynbee@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
I met someone in the official XKCD channel. That person referenced a private server. Later I went to a LAN party where another attendee happened to be on that same private server. I figured that had to be significant and joined the server myself. Some months later, a fluke caused my face to be displayed on a webcam feed I had linked there. My now-wife saw it and proclaimed me cute.
Really that was all it took, but she’s never since done anything that caused me to regret falling for her.
andros_rex@lemmy.world 21 hours ago
If you download Grindr, you too can have an inbox full of poorly lit bathroom dick pics and people asking you if you know where they can get hard drugs!
It’s less a “dating” app, and more a way for “straight” men in denial of their sexuality to find dl fun.
boonhet@sopuli.xyz 21 hours ago
Almost makes me wish I was gay. Getting some strange would be easier at least lol
Kolanaki@pawb.social 18 hours ago
There are women on the app too. And don’t forget the femboys. ;)
Knock_Knock_Lemmy_In@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
Are people on grindr mostly normal or mostly freaky?
andros_rex@lemmy.world 2 hours ago
A mix. You will get bombarded with the poor quality photos and “u party?” (Code for meth). But I’ve enjoyed some late night conversations about everything from anime to French philosophy, and met some nice men to have a good time with. Even have made some friends (and a few would self identify as “freaks”). You’ll meet everyone from closeted self hated conservative businessmen to van living hippies.
It’s a very direct space. When someone asks “what are you looking for?” you don’t have to beat around the bush. If they aren’t interested, they’ll block and move on.
The app is absolutely garbage though. The ads are some of the most obtrusive and obnoxious ads any mobile app has ever had.