peoplebeproblems
@peoplebeproblems@midwest.social
- Comment on Bank Workers, Rejoice! 8 hours ago:
So I did the math. A 30 year fixed and a 50 year fixed have a monthly payment difference of $1.
What the absolute fuck.
- Comment on PLEASE BE CONSIDERATE 1 day ago:
- Comment on Anon gets his life in order 2 days ago:
I don’t pay attention to be honest. But now I might
- Comment on Anon gets his life in order 3 days ago:
I’m doing some particularly frequent therapy at the moment. Medication management, occupational stuff.
So far I’ve only met one person on the apps. So I’m working on finding stuff to go to to meet more people. It’s a small city, so kind of limited. Can’t move because of a kid. That makes it way harder to date too.
But one thing I’m trying to remind myself - I’ll be in my 40s when my son is 18. I figure I can probably really safely leave him at home way before that. So maybe in 5 years or so. I had a teacher in his 50’s marry another teacher in her late 20s (and they are still together 15 years later) so I’d say there’s still time.
- Comment on Anon gets his life in order 3 days ago:
Thank you. Knowing that others have recovered gives me some hope.
- Comment on Anon gets his life in order 3 days ago:
What the flip
Oh well just another thing that masculinity is wrong about.
- Comment on Anon gets his life in order 3 days ago:
Ugh, yet another set of social norms to camouflage with.
- Comment on Anon gets his life in order 3 days ago:
Lmfao what
One knee over the other is feminine? That’s fucking wild because I do it, my brother does it, my dad does it and my mom doesn’t.
Guess I better start wearing a kilt and “sitting like a real man” lmfao
- Comment on Anon gets his life in order 3 days ago:
On a serious note, having been that guy, this is the worst experience ever.
15 years of slowly being convinced being who I was, was wrong. 15 years of being told she was normal, what I wanted wasn’t. 15 years of isolation. 15 years brainwashing. 15 years of ever building self doubt.
Then she cheated on me.
Somehow I haven’t been in grippy socks yet. Pretty fucking close though with the outpatient stuff I do. Been on one date with someone else.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 4 days ago:
Carrying anything on my face is a terrifying prospect, IDK if it’s an autistic thing but I can’t do many expressions that don’t look obviously forced.
And I do live in a metro of less than 1m, but I believe my range goes up to a metro of > 1m.
The clothes I have now are stylish. But I have no photos in them yet.
But more importantly, I think I’ve just realized I’m really not ready to date, no matter how strong my desire for intimacy is. I’ll be going through some medicine changes and therapy. Maybe I’ll re look at this after.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 5 days ago:
Honestly? There is one thing that I’m struggling with, and I don’t know if I can intentionally change it. My stim is plucking my beard hairs. So it makes it virtually impossible to grow facial hair anymore.
Meaning I have to be clean shaven, which isnt hard itself, but it can quickly go haywire.
It won’t fix the rest of my appearance. More clothing varieties maybe.
I could bulk up even more. but it would have to be a lot of muscle, and based on what I have currently achieved that might be another year.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 5 days ago:
Well, at least I lost the weight and built muscle. I have better clothes. I could do with maybe 15lbs lower. I could use more nice outfits.
I don’t exactly have a strong social network, nor anyone who is actually there taking photos when Im out cause that just doesn’t happen I guess.
But there is something there that caught my attention. “Too good to be true.”
I’m wondering if that might be part of the problem? Someone looks up how much my career makes, they’re going to find it’s a lot. 6’? Blue eyes, not fat? Sounds super smart?
Idk. I’m hoping it’s just the shit pictures.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 6 days ago:
IRC? Like a specific one or just a random one from the early 2000s
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 6 days ago:
Huh. Well. I guess I’m doing everything right then.
Maybe the photos need a lot of work. That will be challenging.
- Comment on grindr dump (in post body) 6 days ago:
You guys actually get matches?
Goddamn. Here I am in straight world with exactly one match in an entire year that wasn’t a bot.
Eh
Fuck it the apps are scams anyway
- Comment on Anon likes a girl 6 days ago:
I was married for 12 years.
I made a mistake with that, so yeah. Kinda fucked myself over with it. Didnt actually start learning Bout the 'tism part until recently
- Comment on Anon likes a girl 6 days ago:
I mean I actually got a date. So I can’t be that ugly.
But I am almost definitely pretty damn autistic.
- Comment on fight club 1 week ago:
Alright thank you.
- Comment on fight club 1 week ago:
But I don’t behave like an asshole.
When I am myself, I’ve been told I’m condescending or give off superiority vibes. I don’t understand that at all.
- Comment on fight club 1 week ago:
Every time I am myself I get rejected.
People just don’t like the full me. So I can’t have fun and be myself. I can have fun OR be myself.
- Comment on A hypothesis 1 week ago:
terror and enlightenment, now Linux.
As Bhuddism teaches, suffering is the human experience. Acceptance of this is necessary to reach nirvana.
- Comment on This is inssein 1 week ago:
Lmfao you just gave me another shitpost idea.
- Comment on This is inssein 1 week ago:
What? Pfft. I do it all the time.
Twice.
Maybe 3, I can’t remember from past accounts.
- Comment on JD, you dog. 1 week ago:
I just want to say I’m so happy to have been a part of getting JD Vance recognized as a couch fucker.
I remember the day the original post was made. And to this day there is no evidence JD Vance hasn’t fucked a couch.
- Comment on Just FYI 1 week ago:
I’m an engineer. I literally get paid to be right. Because of this, I give an accurate assessment of my own answer if I am not certain.
The amount of times I am certain of being right is probably countable on a single hand over the past dozen years of my career.
- Comment on Just FYI 1 week ago:
Typically if I have a working solution in front of me or documentation of being correct I will plainly state it. There’s no need to play with words.
“No, in the documentation, it states”
Or “No, I have the solution in front of me this is the process” etc.
- Comment on Just FYI 1 week ago:
That’s bullshit.
If I was completely certain of something, I would say so.
In most scenarios, if I’m wrong, I lacked pieces of information. It doesn’t really matter how strongly I feel I am right if I’m wrong. It certainly doesn’t matter how often I am right, because I could get it wrong.
In particular if there is a chunk of knowledge where I don’t know how much information I am lacking, that’s the worst outcome. I could be so extremely wrong that it requires more time than waiting to confirm whether or I am.
It’s very rude and condescending of management and clients to always be so critical of my “confidence.” It has nothing to do with how “confident” I am in an solution.
I get paid to be right. So I will be right a lot. It isn’t a magical he’s usually right so he’s right this time. If that is what is expected of me, us LLMs.
- Comment on Modern times require modern solutions. 2 weeks ago:
Yeah ok. Anything to shut the monologue up at this point
- Comment on And now it's time for your favorite segment: Sex Tips w/ Mike!!! 2 weeks ago:
What’s a conservative’s favorite ice cream flavor?
Boot.
- Comment on Fictional 2 weeks ago:
Fun yes.
Funding? What’s that?
