This needs to be pursued. A public record of the falsity will be significant in preventing future damage caused by misconceptions. Probably donât expect monetary recompense, she may be Judgement Proof in that regard, but the ruling is worth much more.
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Thornburywitch@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Iâm putting this under a NSFW, as it may be triggering for some of us. Concerns a situation that Iâve become aware of at work. Iâm not sure I have all the details either. But thereâs a moral dilemma here that I would welcome some feedback on.
messy divorce case
A really messy divorce case. Husband accused by wife of child abuse, which he denies. Kids (2 aged 6 & 9) have been examined by psychs and doctors and donât show signs of abuse. Barring a claim by the elder child that Dad wonât let him have more than one fizzy drink per day. Both kids are scared shitless of their mum, who is a diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic who refuses to take medication. When in her custody, kids have twice taken themselves down to the Salvos begging for shelter overnight. Kids now in husbandâs custody exclusively, and doing well in school.
Wife has sprayed accusations of child abuse across several forms of social media targeting : 1) husband, 2) her dentist, 3) kidsâ doctor, 4) her doctor, 5) two teachers at the kidsâ school, 6) four of her neighbours. All âtargetsâ have been investigated by the police specialist unit, and all except one have been cleared of any such crimes.
However, the dentist, doctors, and the teachers have all been sacked from their place of employment, and the dentistâs wife has been forcefully requested to resign from her tennis club and other social groups. And none were re-instated when the accusations turned out not to have any evidence supporting them.
One neighbour is still under investigation, but the others have been cleared. I donât know if thereâs been any further effects on them.
Given that several of the accused persons have suffered very real financial and social harm from accusations that may never be truly forgotten so long as the web exists. And they will be under suspicion for the rest of their lives and probably their families as well. Even though theyâve been cleared of wrongdoing.
Question for the DT hive mind : should the wife (who is clearly a very damaged person) be sued for libel/damages for her accusations? Has she committed a crime here? Should she get some sort of penalty for making false accusations? Or should she get off scot free because sheâs mentally ill and presumably not in full control of her actions?
Yes Iâve muddied up some of the details for privacy reasons, but the basic dynamics are as accurate as I can make them.
Duenan@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
I donât know what avenues are there but as someone who works in education, if I was ever accused of those things my career would be over and I would probably never get a job in the education sector ever again even if it was found everything was false as my reputation would be be in tatters within the community.
Thatâs just my take on things and what has been reiterated to me if I was ever accused of sexual misconduct with a minor in my work environment whether it was true or not.
If there was any action to take it would be loss of income, defamation issues and all future income from not being employable, I would pursue if there was a righteous case and damages to be won in compensation for not being employable.
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
This is why I do not like accusations in the media.
It sets up a precedence of the public acting on accusation
rather than belief in innocence before guilty and using the law courts to obtain justice.
and abuse is serious, very serious, thatâs why we need to treat accusations and victims seriously and with thought
but there are still people who think Johnny Depp abused Amber Heard, even after she was found guilty of defamation.
Llabyrinthine@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
I agree with Catfish regarding public record. Itâs a difficult situation, because this is probably one of the few accusations in life that can one can never truly wash off, as awful as it is.
(I guess itâs up to the individual. I would probably want to if it were me, but Iâd also want to weigh up the costs. Would it be worth it in the end after all that has already happened? Or would I just want to move on and put it all behind me?)
How far do we split the moral hair, so to speak? Would she have done those things still if she was medicated? What level mental illness excuses harm (which I guess is what the law decides)? Is it possible the medication could have prevented this happening in the first place?
Seagoon_@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
However, the dentist, doctors, and the teachers have all been sacked from their place of employment, and the dentistâs wife has been forcefully requested to resign from her tennis club and other social groups. And none were re-instated when the accusations turned out not to have any evidence supporting them.
The employers should be sued.
fuck the clubs,
should the wife (who is clearly a very damaged person) be sued for libel/damages for her accusations?
Yes. This will create a big paper trail so that any future victims of her slander have a defense. It might also force her to get treatment/committed
SituationCake@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Yes thatâs a good take, the employers need to be held accountable for unfair dismissals. Perhaps the affected people could investigate their rights through fair work Australia or one of those law firms that specialise in this kind of stuff.
StudChud@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Having experience with this, as some of you may know, yes she should be held accountable.
Those accusations hurt my dad to the point he was drinking himself to death. He was able to pull himself out of it successfully. It also ruins the relationship between children and parent.
While she may believe the accusations and truly thinks abuse happened, she needs to be institutionalised, and held accountable for her accusations. They are serious crimes to accuse someone of, and despite no evidence to suggest the accused did anything at al, it will still utterly ruin their lives. With the internet these days, even the innocent will have an extremely difficult time with their future jobs and relationships. They will be seen as untrustworthy at the very least.
However, with all that said, there is a very real chance that none of that will help her. Itâs still ultimately up to her to recognise her disordered thoughts and understand that she needs serious mental health help. Schizophrenia is insidious, especially in women, and just alters their reality to the point that it is almost impossible for outsiders (be it family or partners) to help, especially if itâs paranoid schizophrenia or religious-based (as is the case with my mum).
I have sympathy for the woman, but it just isnât right to go around accusing everyone of doing that heinous shite.
I feel for the children and father in this, and the people who have lost their jobs because of this.
Pilk@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Morally, I think she should be held accountable.
Practically, I think the biggest consideration is actually how willing they would be to undertake the expense, effort and time involve in the legal process. Does she have much in the way of cash/assets to even pursue? Would a win actually reinstate employment? Those are the kind of questions Iâd be asking.
Thornburywitch@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
No assets that I know of. Iâm conflicted between doing no further harm to a very vulnerable person, and the rank terminally-stupid injustice done to the innocent accused.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
We should always defend the innocent.
Bottom_racer@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Jeez that is messy.
Iâm not sure of the process but Iâd try and get the posts removed (if they havenât been already).
SituationCake@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
What a mess. I feel sorry for everyone involved in this story. I donât know enough about the law to know if she has committed any crimes, under what laws? But if thereâs a chance for the wrongly accused people to clear their reputations and get some compensation for their lives being disrupted then they should pursue it. The wife may not even understand she had done anything wrong and may not understand any penalties, and it certainly wonât cure her, so legal action probably wouldnât have any affect on her thoughts or future behaviours. Itâs purely for the benefit of the victims.
TinyBreak@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Yes!
Thats for a court to decide
In my opinion ABSOLUTELY! you can run about destroying peoples lives and get away with it. Illness or not.
Fuck no! Iâm deeply sorry for her troubles, but those people shouldnât suffer due to false accusations. its not about her suffering, its about the victims being about to point to a court verdict and say âI am not, nor was I EVER a child abuserâ.
Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Fucking aye!!!
anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Absolutely this. While that illness can be difficult to manage and I have sympathy for the sufferer, the accusations would be devastating for the people wrongfully accused
Eagle@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
And while she may not be responsible for the disease, she is responsible for the impact it has on others. I cannot imagine the impact the accusations had on those individuals, and although there may not be a financial benefit I think I would want to push through to clear my name.
StudChud@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Agreed đŻ
bacon@aussie.zone â¨4⊠â¨days⊠ago
Seconded