Outside of romantic partners I don’t think you “need” anyone else.
Friendships are not important.
This is stupid ragebait. Op wont even respond to comments, classic trolling.
Do people really "need" friends?
Submitted 3 weeks ago by Vader@sopuli.xyz to [deleted]
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TachyonTele@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
kmartburrito@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Block him!
glimse@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
This whole community turned to shit. It’s all open-ended questions better suited for asklemmy…you know, the community for open-ended/opinion questions?
It’s contrary to the point of the subreddit it took its name from which admittedly also went to shit…but not nearly as fast and not nearly as severe as this.
The worst part about Lemmy is how more content is seen as a good thing. I’d rather a community have 2 good posts a day as opposed to 20 garbage posts.
TachyonTele@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
Agreed, im not a fan of “engagement bait”. If you dont have anything to say dont make up dumb questions just for the sake of it.
Nautalax@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
hhs.gov/…/surgeon-general-social-connection-advis…
Not having friends has similar health impacts to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Making friends makes you physically and mentally healthier, gives connections that can help you out of rough patches in your life and into opportunities.
You ‘can’ live without them, but probably not as long as you would have otherwise.
naught101@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I got no sources, but I’ve regularly heard people claim that depression and similar mental health issues have an equal or worse health impact than smoking or other “soft” drug abuse.
M33@piefed.world 3 weeks ago
adespoton@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
Can an individual survive without friends? Definitely.
Can the human species survive without friends? Probably not.
Blackfeathr@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Your shit takes are boring
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
yes people need friends. i need friends. ive tried the whole “get all your needs met by my romantic partner” thing. it works fine when times are good, but as soon as theres serious conflict or stress you need other people for support. your partner isnt perfect and neither are you, so in those bad times you share together you will see the worst of each other, and your needs wont be met. in time this breeds resentment and will lead to the end of the relationship. its a sad, lonely, empty existence going through life without friends you trust. you might not feel like it right now but eventually you will learn.
kbobabob@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
I talk to my partner when there’s a problem. I don’t need to share that with someone else, it’s none of their business.
Vader@sopuli.xyz 3 weeks ago
If someone doesn’t have a romantic partner, they shouldn’t explain their problems or tell anyone about their problems.
mendaciousmammaries@piefed.ca 3 weeks ago
My guy, go make some friends. Get out there, join a club, lots of games nights and meetuo groups out there. Rationalising not needing friends is generally a clear sign you need new friends.
vomitaur@slrpnk.net 3 weeks ago
i wish i had close friends. a romantic partner would be nice too, but friendships are better.
Okokimup@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Community is absolutely important. We are stronger together.
Semjeza@fedinsfw.app 3 weeks ago
Do you plan to only do things with romantic partner?
Why do you think you need a romantic partner?
… A better question would be: “what do you define as a friend?”
theywilleatthestars@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
I mean, personally I want to enjoy being alive, and I enjoy being alive when I have friends. I don’t care about having a romantic partner.
FreshParsnip@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
I don’t “need” a romantic partner. I need human connection of some kind but maybe not everyone does
insomniac_lemon@lemmy.cafe 3 weeks ago
Even when it comes to personality disorders (or other brain stuff) I would say there’s still a distinction between need and want.
A lot of cause for isolation is circumstance (and difficulties relating to socializing), so it’s very likely that a lot of terminally-friendless people would disagree with OP’s (supposed) attitude on this.
akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
I need recognition, love and freedom. Anybody who’s willing to give me that is welcome to have any undefined relationship with me. I couldn’t care less what the relationship is called.
CatpainTypo@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Loneliness, or issues caused by loneliness kills 100 people an hour. You need about 12 good friends to have enough connection in your life.
glimse@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Can you please stop posting these useless questions? This is not an opinion community
Meat_Of_Nan@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Do you need friends, as in you will die without them? No. They are not essential to life. But humans are social creatures and having someone in your life that you feel safe enough to open up to, who can share in your interests and hobbies and who can be there for you when you are not doing good, is an extremely good thing to have.
Like I can totally survive without my left arm but life is going to be a lot more difficult. Same kind of concept but with mental health.
kbobabob@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Wouldn’t that be covered by the romantic partner usually?
cecilkorik@lemmy.ca 3 weeks ago
A romantic partner is ideally also a friend. They can often handle both, but they’re just one friend and that’s putting a lot of weight on their shoulders. And things in life change. What happens if your romantic partner gets seriously ill and you can’t confide in them anymore? What if the romantic partner is the person you’re having issues with and you need an outside point of view? Not everything is so minimalist in real life. Good luck trying to keep it minimalist like you’re proposing, but life often has other ideas.
Weirdfish@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
If you are going to limit yourself to what your romantic partner is interested in, I suppose it could work, but feels very confined.
I have many hobbies and interests not shared in full by any romantic partner I’ve ever had, though there have been some notable exceptions.
One woman I dated for many years rode motorcycles and snowboards.
Another shared my interest in Fromsoft video games.
I doubt anyone I would seriously date at 50 is going to share my passion for skateboarding, though I’d love to be proven wrong on that one.
I don’t have many close friends, and only two live within visiting distance. Most have spread across the country. We stay in touch with a phone call every month or two, catching up, sharing stories, discussing common interests. The ones in town I’ll see maybe once a month as well, for dinner, drinks, or a motorcycle ride.
They all bring ideas and experiences into my life I wouldn’t otherwise have, and by maintaining friendships with a wide variety in background and education, it keeps me from becoming too narrow minded or stunted.
Could I live my life without my friends? Sure. Would I want to? Absolutely not.
Meat_Of_Nan@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
A romantic partner is one type of relationship often with the extra weight of that person being a romantic partner. A romantic partner ideally is a life partner you want to share the entirety of your life with. It’s a lot heavier than a friend.
A romantic partner is someone special who you will be spending the vast majority of your time with. Someone who you might star a family with.
A friend is less heavy, more casual. A friend is someone who you ideally can trust and talk to and who will support you and you them, but is not someone you are physically attracted to, or has an interest in being romantic with you or vice versa.
A healthy romantic partnership usually starts off as a friendship, and then over time turns into a romantic one. You can’t just meet a stranger and say "let’s spend our entire lives together, and have a family, and live together. At least not a romantic partnership you want to actually work.
AskewLord@piefed.social 3 weeks ago
Yes, but that depends.
If your left arm had cancer, or gangrene, removing it was what you needed to be healthy.
friends/family can be like that. The problem is people assume they are always good. they are not always.
and just like removing your left arm, if you do it, they are not coming back.
Meat_Of_Nan@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Yes, you should cut toxic people out of your life. That doesn’t mean that every relationship on the planet is toxic and should be avoided. People who get amputation don’t just say “I didn’t even need that arm”. They get prosthetics, they go through physical therapy to try and adapt without the arm.
The difference here is unlike an arm, if a friendship doesn’t work out, you can make new friends. If you prefer being alone, there’s nothing wrong with that, but there’s a big difference between saying “I prefer to be alone” and “all relationships are bad and should be avoided”