AskewLord
@AskewLord@piefed.social
a big gay heterosexual trans-cis ladyguy
- Comment on Does anyone actually believe this "rogue AI" nonsense? 2 days ago:
people would rather believe an exciting lie than a boring truth.
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
discriminatory law is not about individuals actions, it’s about institutional ones.
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
nothing has to be perfect. it just has to work sufficiently well.
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
beaus some people such intense idealists and they don’t think biology should exist because they find it political or socially upsetting.
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
Intersex people don’t exist in statistically relevant numbers.
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
Yes, but poliitcally it’s convenient to argue that gender is oppressive, or essential or something.
What’s ironic to me is the ‘anti gender’ people are the one who are the most obsessed with it and go around policing every else’s gender identity and their language use about it.
Like, if you want to be liberated from gender, why don’t you liberate yourself first?
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
Because the concept that biological sex doesn’t exist keeps getting pushed by folks, and it’s simple not true apart from fringe circumstances.
despite 99.1% of the population not being trans, and 99.998% of it not being hermaphrodites.
it’s a totally insane position and I’m sick of it being normalized. But then again this place is full of people who think China will liberate them from their oppression by capitalism, but they are also incorrect and not living in reality.
Way too many folks seem to want to take the perspective of schziophrenic and argue we should all be like that, rather than we should treat the schiophrenic so they don’t suffer from schziophrenia. And will scream at you that you’re evil and wrong for not wanting everyone to become schiophrenic.
What’s weird is IRL, I have never me trans person who argues everyone needs to be trans or gender/sex needs to be abolished to ‘liberate’ us from it or something. Seems to be mostly a position of delusional people online, and it’s utterly bizarre.
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
because you can’t change you biological hair color
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
because that’s not how people work.
you are arguing form an impossible ideal.
you yourself incessantly discriminate people based on their appearances. the point is to prevent people from those discriminations institutionally.
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
that’s why you can have your sex legally changed
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 2 days ago:
oh right, let me just re-produce asexually.
i totally forgot that human beings are capable of asexual reproduction!
- Comment on Why do we need legal genders at all? 3 days ago:
because they aren’t legal genders.
they are sex.
- Comment on Advice for moving to NY? 4 days ago:
they won’t be able to afford anything other than Buffalo on a retail salary.
- Comment on Advice for moving to NY? 4 days ago:
Don’t.
NY has a bad economy and awful tax burden.
- Comment on Female approached by man 4 days ago:
I’ve been raped by women. More than one.
I don’t assume every woman I meet is a rapist.
Because women aren’t rapists. Rapists are rapists.
- Comment on Female approached by man 4 days ago:
The irony here is that… you are one of those bad people.
- Comment on Female approached by man 4 days ago:
Yes, it’s cultural. It’s also part of the ‘loneliness epidemic’ that is affecting most westernized countries. As a larger and larger cohort of the population becomes socially isolated, especially young adults.
And frankly, I’ve noticed a huge cultural shift in my own city the past 5 years. I used to have way more casual interactions, and now many of those same casual interactions are viewed with hostility and suspicion… just like OP’s reaction.
10 years ago if someone dropped something and you picked it up for them they’d thank you. Now they act get angry with you for trying to help them, and sometimes accuse you of theft or harassment. And that type of reaction basically teaches folks to just not bother, it’s a type of death spiral. Even personally, as the years go by and the hostility ratio goes up, it makes me increasingly want to socialize less in general. Even many of my closer friends from years ago have gone down this rabbit hole of hostility and suspicion, and I stopped interacting with them because it was so exhausting and miserable to be around someone who thinks the bartender is ‘looking at them funny’… no it’s you whose looking at the bartender funny… you idiot.
- Comment on Female approached by man 4 days ago:
It’s the MO of every human being when they are interacting with a stranger for the first time…
- Comment on Female approached by man 4 days ago:
I don’t assume. I observe.
- Comment on Female approached by man 4 days ago:
This is insane.
Other people are not psychic. They cannot read people’s minds.
- Comment on Female approached by man 4 days ago:
or real life expereince with people like the OP have taught us it’s not worth it.
Frankly, I don’t want to interact with people who assume I’m mentally ill for being friendly to them. And where I live at least, that’s the way a lot of folks react to friendly conversation if you are like standing in line with them. they act like you’re trying to assault them.
- Comment on If college is a scam, where do you go to get better education? 4 days ago:
Yeah, that’s life. Any of us could die in a accident tomorrow, or get cancer or a million other things.
There are no gaurantees in life. And searching for them is a surefire path to misery and failure at life.
Nobody can predict the future, some people get lucky and some people get screwed.
And some people make really bad choices despite everyone in their life trying to prevent them from doing so.
- Comment on If college is a scam, where do you go to get better education? 4 days ago:
Pragmatic and practical advice and perspective.
This is what people don’t get. And to be truthful, I didn’t understand it either when I was 20 years old. Because nobody told me any of that stuff.
What people don’t really acknowledge is the ‘institutional knowledge’ is far more important than grades and degrees. And what people miss that wealthier folks teach their kids that stuff, because well, they have first hand knowledge of it. And that matters way way more than ‘connections’ and ‘wealth’ per se.
- Comment on If college is a scam, where do you go to get better education? 4 days ago:
It’s also story that’s true.
I grew up in a poor town. Most people there were lazy and made bad choices and blamed everyone else for their problems.
Rich people, also blame everyone else for their problems, but they tend to make better choices with their time and money. The rich can be lazy and make bad choices, and suffer fewer consequences though. Typically rich kids parents will prevent them from failing, no matter how lazy and useless they are. Poor kids don’t have that advantage in life, and often they have to overcome parents who are in the way of their educational goals…
Ultimately people’s choices are their own. Nobody forces anyone to go to college, or not go. Nobody forces them to study, or not study. etc. They make that choice on their own. And given the nature of human beings, either way, they will be unhappy. Your zipcode isn’t your destiny, and it’s your choice to be happy or miserable with what you have achieved in life.
The most unhappy people I known my entire life are some of the most rich and successful, because they have no objective context and their life is entirely consumed by competition with their peers. I wouldn’t want their lives anymore than I’d want the lives of my drop-out deadbeat drug addict friends from high school’s lives.
The problem with lemmy and leftist (and right wing) thinking is you seem to think ones economic class is equivalent of their moral work or efforts in life. It isn’t. Poor people are not necessarily worthy and hard working, anymore than rich people are.
- Comment on If college is a scam, where do you go to get better education? 4 days ago:
Yes for profit schools are scams.
But those places aren’t attract students who can get in elsewhere.
Like, sorry you choose to fuck around in high school and get Cs and Ds and now you have to go to a crappy shitty for-profit school because no real college will accept you… but that was your choice to make.
- Comment on If college is a scam, where do you go to get better education? 4 days ago:
It does not have to be an investment. Plenty of people go to college for free.
The only people who freak out about it being in investment are those who have to pay full freight, and those folks already have money and huge advantages in life, even if they personally don’t feel that way about their life.
Nobody at my school cried harder than the kids who had no loans and were so angry their parents had to ‘sell stock’, and they were especially bitter at people who got free rides or financial aid, whose families had like 1/10 of their parents wealth.
- Comment on If college is a scam, where do you go to get better education? 4 days ago:
or you go to business school and you learn how to manipulate and corrupt and exploit others.
I also don’t know about you, but people’s critical thinking skills tend to disappear when those skills get in the way of their own profit.
- Comment on If college is a scam, where do you go to get better education? 4 days ago:
The problem is folks think just showing up was the ticket to being wealthy.
Everyone told me my life was ‘done’ once I got into college, like as in college will let you coast the rest of your life. They were 250% wrong. I also had some friends in high school who failed out of college because that’s how they approached it.
Truth is regardless of your wealth, effort is needed to learn things. You either make that effort, or you don’t. A lot of people wealthy or not, refuse to make the effort.
- Comment on If college is a scam, where do you go to get better education? 4 days ago:
College isn’t a scam. It’s just something people say to cope with their inability to go, or their mistakes they made when they attended.
The quality of your education is mostly a product of your own personal efforts and investments in that education. Plenty of crappy schools have excellent students who get great jobs.
The passivity of your question belies a problematic attitude that college is a ‘investment’ that must give you a financial return. It can, but it won’t do necessarily unless you seek a job-focused specialized education in a lucrative field w/ many job openings, like petroleum engineering.
- Comment on What the current vibe on ID.ME verification? 5 days ago:
it’s just another sso service