Please dont feed the creatures đȘ±
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jia_tan@lemmy.blahaj.zone âš21â© âšhoursâ© ago
DScratch@sh.itjust.works âš14â© âšhoursâ© ago
I get shit on every time I bring up Evangelion and the fan art community.
They are explicitly 14 years old, people. Relax.
other_cat@lemmy.zip âš12â© âšhoursâ© ago
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nocklobster@lemmy.world âš12â© âšhoursâ© ago
BoobaAwooga@lemmynsfw.com âš22â© âšhoursâ© ago
Just 2 r/teenagers users
RymrgandsDaughter@lemmy.blahaj.zone âš11â© âšhoursâ© ago
Itâs posts like this that make me regret ever being on reddit
WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today âš8â© âšhoursâ© ago
I feel prouder to be on Lemmy every day!
Sendpicsofsandwiches@sh.itjust.works âš20â© âšhoursâ© ago
PP_BOY_@lemmy.world âš20â© âšhoursâ© ago
I would hang myself
Allero@lemmy.today âš17â© âšhoursâ© ago
In all seriousness though, therapy is available for all paraphilias, including pedophilia.
If you, reader, are one, get help. Life isnât over and youâre not inherently a danger.
If you canât get professional help, mutual support online communities are available as well.
Youâre worthy as you are, just donât cross this particular line and donât become an offender.
AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip âš13â© âšhoursâ© ago
Lol. But on a serious not i know people that got therapy for that and they are completely normal people. Everyone has quirks and pedophilia is also one of them but the problem is when it takes over your rational judgement and you do something you shouldnt. This is why hate the median portayal of pedophiles, while i agree that if you commit such an act that makes you a horrible person but most people with these desires do not commit acts. It should be viewed as any other medical condition, it can be treated. There are also other philias which are lets say less harmfull to other people but are self destructive and you can go to therapy for them as well. The hardest part is starting therapy and realizing youre not alone and you shouldnt be judged for something that is out of your control. This is why im saying people who do commit ARE and should be treated as criminals as they choose to comit the act even if they didnt chose the desire. Hope im not gonna get downvoted to fucking oblivion.
chetradley@lemm.ee âš11â© âšhoursâ© ago
Youâre not far off. As a parent, the idea of someone sexualizing my kids in any way makes me seethe. Like there are people I wouldnât let my kids be alone with for a second just because they give me bad vibes.
But I do have to concede that itâs a psychological thing that people have, even if I wish they didnât. I have to imagine that if anyone got to choose, then they certainly wouldnât opt for that. I agree that the âkill your local pedoâ mentality drives these people into the shadows where they wonât seek help, and may actually victimize kids. I just donât know if I have the ability to look at someone with that mindset and be totally free of judgement, even if they do seek help.
volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee âš9â© âšhoursâ© ago
Iâm a parent too, and here are my thoughts on this. I would rather knowingly live next to a pedophile - someone who outs themselves and goes to therapy - than not knowing about whether or not my neighbor has ever had such tendencies. I wouldnât forbid them from having contact with my child, if they are sure it is not too hard for them, and obviously, keep them supervised. (I have barely ever left my child with another adult outside of the kindergarten setting though.) As was commented above, pedophilia is a valid and incredibly unfortunate, isolating and lonely sexual orientation and a disorder that can be treated, if not âcuredâ. I wholeheartedly agree with what you said about societyâs hostile mentality driving people into the shadows and keeping them from seeking help.
I also want to point out that the majority of minor sex offenders (sorry I canât remember the correct term, English isnât my first language) has no pedophilic tendencies. A lot of sexual assault happens not because of attraction but because of power, dominance, violence, control. Itâs something so important to keep in mind. Your local pedo might be the nicest and most harmless guy, while some other, heterosexual and ânormalâ oriented person in your neighborhood might have actually assaulted a child. Not having pedophilic tendencies does not mean a person wonât commit pedophilic acts.
In a way, my heart goes out to pedophiles. I canât imagine how incredibly lonely it must be to have a desire for intimacy only with people who you will never, under any circumstances, be allowed to touch. You will never be able to act on your desires. You will never be allowed to live like yourself, be yourself fully. This must be hell. Even without the witch hunt. The least we can do as a society is to offer all the help and support we can get.
(It goes without saying - fuck all sexual offenders.)
AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip âš10â© âšhoursâ© ago
I totally understand your point of view as well. You cannot expect someone to be rational when their kids or family is on the line. Its the same reason for why the victims family doesnt have a say in the sentencing of the offende.
JustAnotherKay@lemmy.world âš10â© âšhoursâ© ago
I remember, back in middle school, reading about this guy who requested to be on the sex offender list because he noticed as he got older that the age group he was interested wasnât changing. He started feeling attraction in middle school, towards middle schoolers, and it never changed.
Imagine my fear when I started feeling attraction to people in middle school lol.
But in any case, yeah. There are some people who notice they have a gross aspect about them and they go and fuckin do something about it. Iâm a narcissist. I have a superiority complex. I have all sorts of issues and Iâm super honest about them and I try to fight them in my head every day.