volvoxvsmarla
@volvoxvsmarla@lemm.ee
- Comment on Home Depot 1 day ago:
Dude I still try to fit everything into an overcrowded bus and carry it home from the bus station
- Comment on Do remote workers actually work? Yes, but they also shop and shower 6 days ago:
I once worked with a colleague within an academic setting for a EU wide project. We were understaffed. She constantly complained about how she works extra hours at home and on weekends. Well, my problem was she wouldn’t let me work at work because she used at least 5 hours of the day to trash talk colleagues behind their back (including me when I was on sick leave or, probably, out to pee). Damn I wonder why she had to work that much after working hours.
- Comment on How to open a door 1 week ago:
I hope when I get dementia I won’t forget that there is a youtube instruction video for everything. I just need to remember they exist. That’s the one thing I must not forget.
- Comment on i need an rv, and lab equipment, and a helper 1 week ago:
Tell me more. How do I make my feet look popping? How do I even get started? I feel I could live with having slutty feet that give me some income
- Comment on Meatspin 2 weeks ago:
Jesus Christ
- Comment on Thank you! 2 weeks ago:
For me it’s the other way around :(
- Comment on Mm-hmm, oui, bien sûr,. certainement 👀 3 weeks ago:
Oof not with the news coming out of the french courtroom lately
- Comment on How do I alleviate bitterness due to lack of intimacy? 3 weeks ago:
Same, I hate muscles and fat on guys. Although that’s difficult to admit openly since a guy saying he is into heroine chic would be a social outcast, so why should.it be acceptable if a woman says so. I like skinny guys and my husband is skinny af. I am by no means unattractive either.
My question to OP is - you seem to get rejected because of your looks, yet these beautiful women (by your standards) went out with you in the first place if I read that correctly. So there must have been some attraction in the beginning. At the very least they talked to you. But something along the line happened that made them not want to commit to you.
In general, we find people attractive because we like them. We don’t like them because we find them attractive.
It can very well happen that when you meet someone in your everyday life and get to know them and then happen to fall in love, they absolutely don’t fall into your “scheme” or “type”.
- Comment on lolirl 3 weeks ago:
Is looking ass good or bad?
- Comment on Anyone else get random cancellation emails from onlyfans? 4 weeks ago:
I used to get ukrainian emails every now and then. And then once I got a “confirm your signature to the petition” email and I checked. It was a petition to allow men to leave the country. A girl with my name signed it (wanted to sign it), and she stated wanting to leave with her 58 year old dad as the reason.
I ended up signing the petition myself, stating I wanted XY to leave with her dad as the reason.
I still wish there was a way to get in touch with her. I guess it was the same person who every now and then signed up for newsletters etc. I hope they found a way to leave. I wish there was a way I could help her directly. I keep imagining it was me and my dad stuck in a war torn country. My father has a super popular first name so the chances aren’t even that low that our dads share the same name too.
- Comment on Words truly matter 4 weeks ago:
Absolutely. Everyone knows rice is illiterate, they should have taken barley
- Comment on Cords 4 weeks ago:
Oh can you tell me one?
- Comment on Cords 4 weeks ago:
I need to befriend more gays
- Comment on Words truly matter 4 weeks ago:
I think this is a wink towards the idea that your plants grow better when you talk lovey-dovey to them
- Comment on Cords 5 weeks ago:
God, straight edge is so old I literally had to get a consultation to understand the insult. Thanks man
- Comment on Cords 5 weeks ago:
I too have developed into a very politically correct person with lemmy, I kinda miss being able to make gay jokes
- Comment on Dead I am the one, exterminating son 5 weeks ago:
We actually made them once. Was rather meh. There’s also not enough Türkisches Haschisch to have any kind of effect.
- Comment on Toot toot 5 weeks ago:
For real man, kids make you… forget how to behave in public. I have to relearn that I cannot fart out loud in public after three years at home. I’m not even sure I can poop without someone next to me anymore. Not sure how I’m gonna find a job.
- Comment on Syrup 1 month ago:
I was actually pretty good at drawing and art but that one time a teacher used my drawing of santa claus as an example of how not to draw and made me cry in front of the whole class still haunts me. She used my next assignment as a positive example in front of class but it didn’t undo it. This was in 2nd or 3rd grade.
- Comment on Ah sweet! 1 month ago:
Ok that makes sense. I live very urbanized and unfortunately without books and talks my kid would probably grow up thinking meat grows in plastic packaging, so a local farm or butcher is rather out of reach. I’m probably also approaching this more from a laboratory perspective than necessary.
I also hope lab grown meat catches on, but we need a) a really good cell line to not always have to take fresh cell samples from living animals and b) a sustainable and plant based alternative to FCS. I think scaling it up wouldn’t even be such a huge problem eventually. What I am much more surprised by is that so many people have an ick with lab grown meat. How is this grosser than eating a dead animal or insects?
- Comment on Ah sweet! 1 month ago:
But it should be easy enough to obtain some samples before or during regular slaughter.
It’s a DIY kit for layers to play around at home. I don’t know where I would obtain samples before or during regular slaughter for my 49,99€ kit from Amazon tbh
- Comment on Ah sweet! 1 month ago:
Damn I just realized that guys will of course try to make dick meat
- Comment on Ah sweet! 1 month ago:
The kit likely is optimized for human muscle cells and might not perform as well with other human cells or muscle cells from another species or even not at all. The other question is where would you find livable cells from a cow or whatever that you wanted to cultivate. I doubt that your refrigerated steak has viable cells.
- Comment on Ah sweet! 1 month ago:
Can’t speak for this specific kit but in general: A big problem with lab grown meat and cell tissue culture is that to grow cells in vitro you usually need fetal calf serum. That’s a liquid from, well, cow abortions basically, that contains a plethora of different molecules like growth factors and mediators. As far as I know, there is no vegan alternative to this yet. We are talking about a liquid here whose composition is really complex, so it’s a really big task to create a plant based FCS alternative that performs just as well.
Tldr: probably the set contains a liquid made from cows.
- Comment on I've heard it clears up again after the first wave of divorces 1 month ago:
Dude most people I know don’t start thinking about marriage or kids before 30
- Comment on is it possible to be married and still feel lonely? 1 month ago:
Same. My partner needs his quiet time and alone time and just a spouse and child (I am the primary caregiver) is so overwhelming. I never expected to become the parent of an only child, I felt like just me and my sister was so little when I was growing up. But now this is what I am stuck with. Just one child and a spouse I hardly interact with because it’s too much and meditation and peace and quiet is making them more happy than time spent together.
- Comment on When a medicine asks you to "take with food" how much food is enough? 1 month ago:
Penne al aspirine
- Comment on When a medicine asks you to "take with food" how much food is enough? 1 month ago:
Wait so you had to eat pasta to ease the pain or did he also recommend some pain relief medicine?
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I did in another comment above!
Ideologically, I can follow your argument. I just don’t think this fits with the AA philosophy. But that being said, AA is not the one and only or the gold standard for self help groups. It’s not a one size fits all. For me, AA is almost too religious and also didn’t fit into my life back then.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
In my early 20s I actually went to AA meetings over the course of probably a year. I kept it very secret, as I did with my very problematic consumption.
It was a group of probably 15-20 people, most aged 40-70. I was by far the youngest there. And let me tell you they would not have appreciated someone coming in who is under any kind of influence, including marijuana (even if it had been legal back then). Some people smoked cigarettes but even that was kind of frowned upon. At some point I mentioned that I have been getting into non-alcoholic beer, and even this was controversial, because I allegedly was masking the behavior and a slip back to alcoholic beer is easy. With that same logic, any kind of coping by using alternative drugs is just redirecting your addiction. In the group there was a strong belief that you are an addict for life and that you have an addictive personality type. And at least to me it’s kind of true. As a side note: Nowadays I am drinking sugary lemonade as a treat (something I would have never done in my 20s) and a fuckton of specialty coffee. For me, this is ok, and it works. But I understand if in their philosophy this is not a good way to go about your problems.
Anyway, at another point someone else asked about benzodiazepines to ease the first transition. This has also been controversial, and while you can get this prescribed when you are becoming sober, everyone recommended not to do it. There seemed to be a strong belief that the best (or only) way to go about your addiction is to rawdog sobriety - don’t mask, don’t cope, face your feelings and pains and reasons for your consuption. Only then can you move on, forgive yourself, ask others for forgiveness, and all of these famous steps.
There is also a clear rule that you come sober. Although this is specifically in regards to alcohol, I am really sure any other mind altering substance that numbs or excites you would have led to you being excluded from this week’s session.
Now, this is my experience with one group outside of the US. Also, I was a very shitty member and should not have been there to begin with. I made a joke, a competition out of it, I’m not even sure why I kept going there. I went there drunk, but no one ever suspected anything. The paramedics hardly suspected anything when I had 3.5%o blood alcohol, they assumed I had a slight migraine. I went to AA with literal booze in my handbag just for the thrill. I did so in university and relationships and with my family, and I was always so successful, I think I just wanted to see how far I can push my behavior before someone notices, before someone stops me, before I fuck up.
I stopped going to AA because I went abroad, but it was just a great excuse to stop going. The truth is I wasn’t ready to stop drinking quite yet. Committing to never having alcohol again when you are missing the one thing in life that you have actually wanted and you’re just 22 is just really hard.
Tl;dr: I would not recommend marijuana use in AA groups, to be honest neither during/before, nor in between meetings. It might not be the community you are looking for if you want to cope with your addiction by using an alternative drug. Whether or not it is a smart or sensible thing to do might be up for debate, but from my very limited experience with AA this would neither be ok for the group, nor go with their philosophy.