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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Press F to pay respects⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I know that I need to migrate, nevertheless thank you for making sure I know. What I meant with

  How this matters

  Is that honestly I don’t see how I am connected to the instance to begin with. I’m trying to find a comparison that expresses what I feel but I fail to find a good one. Like a browser choice? No, there are differences in using firefox vs chrome. Like an email provider? Nah, also a huge difference. Like a remote control? I have come across weirdly designed remote controls though.

  But the instance - I have no connection to it whatsoever. It is just a random thing that provides me access to (all instances of) lemmy. I’m not sure I could care less about it.

  Maybe the closest I can come up with is the difference between a gmail.account ending in .com or in .de .

  But again, maybe I am missing something important here. I’m really tech illiterate and it is not the area I have an innate grasp at. (I used to drop that I have no idea what a router is, how tf the internet works (there are cables at the bottom of the ocean?!) or how code is even doing stuff. The problem is that I always end up with an inbox of people thinking they will be the one to make me understand.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Press F to pay respects⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m an absolute noob when it comes to tech and I don’t even know what instance I am on and how this matters to be honest.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So close!⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  Pasta doesn’t lose the majority of its vitamins to its cooking water though. (Mostly because pasta doesn’t have many vitamins to begin with)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you think freewill truly exists?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s beautifully written and very to the point. I wish you well in your search for a partner who takes you as you are and, equally important, who you like as they are.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨do you think freewill truly exists?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  But if you feel comfortable, why is it problematic?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Why do people care so much that their friend or family member’s partner is attractive and not just loving?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  My mom and sister used to say my husband looks like he just got released from Auschwitz so I feel you 🫠

  Maybe it’s because your dad wants you to get a perfect person. Someone who is nice and loving and interesting and attractive and successful and rich and a good cook and volunteers and whatnot. My guess is not that they would prefer you to have someone handsome and unloving instead, but someone who is both handsome and loving. Because to them, you’re perfect. So they want you to have the (what they assume would be) perfect match. Most of this is probably not an active thought process but just some subconscious thinking.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Thats fair⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s a good point, but in my opinion the other common deaths are way worse. Cancer? Living with the anxiety of impending death and constantly getting sicker, more in pain and being nauseous from medication? Or COPD, feeling like you are suffocating slowly? Alzheimers, Parkinsons? Or my personal fear - dying from a stupid simple cold? Man, I take a heart attack any day of the week.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I am sick of seeing the rich and powerful on my screen. Where are all the TV shows about normal people?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I adored superstore. I love how I think back of the show and nothing comes to mind because everything was painfully ordinary.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Fixed: Celebrity Inquiries Season 2 Episode 4⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Favorite affects the booty too. Well thought through graphic

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What would this list look like for your generation?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  I will proceed to check out the national anthem of Djibouti and the state anthem of Mississippi. I might be back with some questions.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the point in getting married?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  People have already pointed out the legal and financial aspects. But I also want to address the philosophical aspect of your question, which I think you had in mind. And I think the answer I would give you is this one:

  Marriage has the meaning that you assign to it.

  I strongly believe that if we got rid of any legal and financial benefits of marriage, even if we made it explicitly illegal, there would still be a bunch (or even a lot) of people who would get married.

  I would compare it to a house fire. If my house was burning (and there were no living beings in it) and I could save 5 things, what would I save? What would you save? I would take, for example, my favorite soft toy from when I was a kid, and my old box filled with diaries. Is this worth any money? No. Does it have any value? To me, it does. To you, it doesn’t. Maybe you are a very rational person that isn’t attached to anything (or to nothing material) and you would indeed make the smartest choices, saving your passport and documents and money. Maybe you would save a small gift that someone important has given you. Maybe you would save the first guitar you ever bought. You save whatever has value and meaning to you. And these things have solely the meaning and value that you have attached to it.

  Likewise, people have different value and meaning attached to marriage. If you look at it from a rational, logical side - it has its legal and financial perks and benefits and if they weren’t there, getting married would make no sense. But things don’t have to make sense. The meaning we assign to rituals, things, concepts, aren’t necessarily rational. They are, however, deeply personal.

  So, as a side note, please beware of ridiculing people for their views on marriage or weddings, just like you wouldn’t want to ridicule or belittle someone for other things that mean a lot to them. Always sharing the last piece of bread. Always giving a coin to a homeless person. Having a breakfast for 30 minutes every morning. A good night kiss on the nose from their partner. Drawing a dick in the first snow of the winter. Some things mean a lot to people even if they do not rationally make sense.

  In the case of marriage, of course, some of the meaning comes from culture, history, and tradition. Marriage might have had different purposes than it has now, and surely the origins weren’t that romantic. (Not saying, however, that marriage has to be romantic.) But it is there. It is important to some people simply because they have, at some point in their life, decided it is important for some reasons, rational or irrational, social, cultural, and hopefully personal too. To them, it makes sense, it has meaning, it has value. And whatever marriage or a wedding ceremony mean - you decide.

  So the question you should be asking is not whether or not you should get married, it is what marriage means to you. Does it have any benefit or value in your eyes? Are the legal benefits enough for you to get married? What is your stance on divorce? Do you feel like you would get “closer together” with your partner? Would you feel it would make things harder to separate? There are a ton on questions like these that you can ask yourself, I hope you get the jist. There are not right or wrong answers. The only thing that is important is that the meaning you assign to marriage is (about) the same as the meaning your partner assigns to marriage. You can both not care about a spiritual meaning, but just get married for the benefits. You can both be a type of “whatever happens, we don’t get divorced, til death do us part”. You can be “we’ll keep reevaluating whether we still belong together”. You can also be “we get married because we have children and this is practical”. Or “we get married because I am hot and you are rich and when one of us loses their asset we split”. Or “we just want a fancy huge ass party to show our love in this very moment and celebrate it with our friends and whatever comes afterwards is secondary”. It doesn’t matter what your view is, it matters that you guys agree.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Tbh I struggle to come up with an actual good and not just mediocre movie that Tom Hanks was in.

  Adding to the trash list: Incredibly loud and extremely close. They massacred the book.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  He is in this abomination of a book adaptation for Incredibly loud and extremely close.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Which actor did not have a single bad film?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m sorry but… Most of them? Especially since it’s his performance that has become poor. He is playing himself more and more. A similar thing happened to Johnny Depp. Look at both of them in What’s Eating Gilbert Grape and then at stuff like Great Gatsby, Wolf of Wall Street, Shutter’s Island, Django / Willy Wonka, Pirates of the Carribean, Shadows, Transcendence. The acting and characters are so similar and they don’t give an effort anymore (or try to, and absolutely overdo it).

  (Sorry I somehow incorporated a Johnny Depp rant in a critic of DiCaprio, their story of decline is just too similar to me. And Gilbert Grape is an amazing movie.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What’s your favourite international, non-Anglo/English series?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I still quote Dark on a daily basis so this one I guess

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Please dont feed the creatures 🪱⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  First it was hanging, now it’s shooting. Make up your mind. It might help to first get your head out of your ass though.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Please dont feed the creatures 🪱⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m a parent too, and here are my thoughts on this. I would rather knowingly live next to a pedophile - someone who outs themselves and goes to therapy - than not knowing about whether or not my neighbor has ever had such tendencies. I wouldn’t forbid them from having contact with my child, if they are sure it is not too hard for them, and obviously, keep them supervised. (I have barely ever left my child with another adult outside of the kindergarten setting though.) As was commented above, pedophilia is a valid and incredibly unfortunate, isolating and lonely sexual orientation and a disorder that can be treated, if not “cured”. I wholeheartedly agree with what you said about society’s hostile mentality driving people into the shadows and keeping them from seeking help.

  I also want to point out that the majority of minor sex offenders (sorry I can’t remember the correct term, English isn’t my first language) has no pedophilic tendencies. A lot of sexual assault happens not because of attraction but because of power, dominance, violence, control. It’s something so important to keep in mind. Your local pedo might be the nicest and most harmless guy, while some other, heterosexual and “normal” oriented person in your neighborhood might have actually assaulted a child. Not having pedophilic tendencies does not mean a person won’t commit pedophilic acts.

  In a way, my heart goes out to pedophiles. I can’t imagine how incredibly lonely it must be to have a desire for intimacy only with people who you will never, under any circumstances, be allowed to touch. You will never be able to act on your desires. You will never be allowed to live like yourself, be yourself fully. This must be hell. Even without the witch hunt. The least we can do as a society is to offer all the help and support we can get.

  (It goes without saying - fuck all sexual offenders.)

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You better say "Thank You"!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh then try falafels. Jesus I can’t bring myself to make falafels or something similar at home because you literally fry it in oil and you need to do that in order for the raw legumes to be not toxic.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨You better say "Thank You"!⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Legumes like beans, lentils, peas, hummus, chickpeas, Oats, quinoa, amaranth, buckwheat, whole wheat products, Tofu in its various forms, including silk tofu as egg replacement in pancakes, Other “meat substitutes” like seitan or sunflower seed mince, Nuts, nut butters, nut flour, Dairy products such as cottage cheese, joghurt, Soy milk

  I mean for real, eggs are super unnecessary for a protein rich or healthy diet. I would argue that unless you literally want to treat yourself with a sunny side up or an omelette you shouldn’t be using eggs at all. I like eggs, but a dozen lasts us (family of 3) a month easily.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨dear republicans, what's the point of alienating every single ally of the US?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah now try being absolutely unknowledgeable when it comes to tech and very much into makeup, skincare, 90 day fiance and parenting content. Lemmy, it’s been nice, but after one and a half years I started lurking to Reddit every once in a while again.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Has no soul⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I would honestly be interested in meeting him.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Maybe tomorrow⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  For me it’s the other way around. That pizza is looking at me replacing the finished pea package yet again for months and months on end.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So, is the USA screwed?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m afraid you won’t have time. It will take minutes. And I’m not even sure it would be announced.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨So, is the USA screwed?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  So, in the best case scenario, the US as we know it is done and, after a hard fall and hitting rock bottom, will emerge as a country that is less of a capitalist hellhole. Ideally, in the process, other countries will find more independence from the USA, be it trade wise or security wise.

  The more realistic scenario is that everything will stay the same/similar and just get slightly worse all the time but every other country will still suck up to the USA and everything gets a little worse. Oh yeah and climate change will fuck everyone up the ass.

  The worst case scenario, I would argue, is that this ends in the destruction of the world via nuclear war within less than an hour. This is what I am scared of the most.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Working below minimum wage to save the planet⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Everyone here fixing stuff with 3D printers while I am here struggling how to sew up wool silk leggings in a way that keeps them elastic and fighting for my life with darning

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨my version is better⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve always heard promises promises give an end to those promises in the bridge of Lady Gaga’s Pokerface

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can you eat soap for acid reflux?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I wouldn’t eat soap simply because it’s amphiphilic, which is why, well, it makes good soap. The molecules have a hydrophilic and a lipophilic side and this will much rather soap off and severely damage the lining of your digestive route, potentially and probably also resulting in dangerous foaming.

  If you take the most simple soap that’s just like potassium ions and negatively charged fatty acid residues, I’m not 100% sure but I doubt that the fatty acids want to accept a proton because they are rather stable when negatively charged, hence they won’t work well to buffer the stomach acid. And again, by the time that the fatty acid thinks about accepting a proton or not it will most likely be soaping up your cells’ membranes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Just think about it⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  It never made sense to me. You spent 1 hour of your 24 hours a day doing something you would not do for fun. Your 1 hour is just as long as my 1 hour. Both of us sacrifice the same amount of free time out of our lives doing something we’d rather not do. Why should we be paid differently?

  If anything, the higher ranking the job, the more it allows for chatting with colleagues, going out for lunch, taking coffee breaks. You get much more “fun time” than labor intense workers do. Shouldn’t you be paid less? There is an added benefit in your job to begin with. The luxury of being able to sit and get coffee when you want to is already quite a blast tbh.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is it wrong to not have a disabled child solely to avoid forcing the child to suffer their whole life?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  That’s kinda sweet… I think

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Choosing pink is chaotic evil?⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Nah, I don’t like weed or any of the other options