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Joke’s on you, all the users with female avatars are just men desperately trying to talk to women on Bluesky.
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Submitted 5 weeks ago by DuckWrangler9000@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Hubi@feddit.org 5 weeks ago
ElPussyKangaroo@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Lived experiences make it difficult to take anyone online seriously.
GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
Perhaps you might benefit from some inward reflection? Presuming your observations to be accurate, why does it bother you? If women had good reason, or any reason, to distrust or avoid men, how would that change how you interact with them? What drives you to seek the kinds of interactions with women that your desiring? Is there anything in how you speak with women that might not be very inviting to further conversation?
The internet is a funny place. People are very often not who they seem to be. Usernames and avatars often portray a person in a way that mismatches the person behind the keyboard. Even when people use their real name and a true photo, they can end up being very different than who you might think. This happens in everyday life, including face to face IRL relationships?
What are you looking for in such interactions, DuckWrangler? Does it align with what they are hoping for?
tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 weeks ago
When women read your post here, how might they perceive what you’ve written? Would they be put off? Why? Do the presumptions bother them? Do they sense entitlement that puts them off? Do they sense someone with ulterior motives? Again, why?
Yes. This reads of an entitled “nice dude” with ulterior motives. The kind who DMs “hey”
jack_x@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
These are the questions you need to ask yourself. The issue here isn’t women, they’re not a hive-minded conglomerate.
Nollij@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
The answer is actually pretty simple. They all used to, at some point. But then they started having bad experiences, and there were clear trends. Now, because of classical conditioning, they avoid those experiences. Is the filter perfect? No, of course not. But it’s good enough.
TL;DR: Bad men start by talking the same way you do.
MrJameGumb@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
It’s a social media site, not a dating site so maybe it’s just what they say? Maybe they just want to meet other female friends? Have you never wanted to hang out with just your guy friends and do guy stuff before?
Maybe they’re just looking to make new friends and don’t want a bunch of thirsty guys hitting on them in their DMs?
Kaboom@reddthat.com 5 weeks ago
It’s just social media my friend. I wouldn’t worry about it, people act weird on the Internet
xc2215x@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
It is not what they are on Bluesky for.
jack_x@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
My experience is the opposite of yours. Most of the replies to comments I make are women, and I’ve had some nice discussions with them. I’m male, and have my face as my picture currently.
NeilBru@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Why do women avoid men so much?
They perceive men to be threats, nuisances, duplicitous, and generally contemptible, so its primarily out of fear.
The opinion on whether it’s justified, conditioned, misplaced, or outright misandry is hotly debated, but it’s my opinion that the roots of the fear of men is a very human epigenetic, prehistoric, and primal fear of the “other”; in this case, the “other” is a man.
lurch@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
I was briefly on Bluesky and I had women follow me. I don’t remember if interacted with women otherwise. I didn’t care much about peoples gender, just remember the followers, because it were surprisingly many. I didn’t expect any at all.
DuckWrangler9000@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
tbh I hate interacting with other men online especially on bsky because they’re creeps, and I’ve always been a very not-creepy normal guy. I get along very well with other people irl and see other men just saying the creepiest stuff. like for example a guy gif reacts to a selfie a woman posts that says “step on me” like ew lol
Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Not creepy, normal guys don’t feel the need to point out how not creepy and normal they are.
Not creepy, normal guys don’t wonder why women don’t talk to them.
Not creepy, normal guys don’t treat women as a monolith.
We don’t all share a goddamn hivemind, sending out weekly fliers on hot topics and who we’re ignoring on the internet today.
You talk like someone I would avoid.
211@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
Well, if you’re for real, you pretty much answered your own question there. Many guys online are creeps, and you’d prefer to talk with women rather than try to find the golden fun normal person in a haystack of men.
SolOrion@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
It sounds like you’re looking for deep meaningful conversation in the comments of thirst trap posts. Which is wild.
adespoton@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
Along with the other feedback here… what timeframe is involved here?
Since the US election, misogyny online has skyrocketed. Guys who previously wrote pretty much normal stuff started saying things like “your body, my choice.”
In this environment, I’d be pretty careful about who I chatted with.
That said, as others have mentioned, a lot of those “women” are likely men trying to connect with women.
1984@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
After hearing about younger colleagues how hard it is to date today, I started looking at what people on YouTube way about it.
Basically social media made it possible for women to have hundreds of interested guys standing by, so they are happy and don’t need to talk to random men anymore.
Ceedoestrees@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
Oh yeah you got us. It’s a conspiracy. We all sit upon our mountains of unsolicited dick pics, passing along tidbits of affection to our harems of beta males in return for money and favors. Committed, sexual relationships are a childish male fantasy compared to everlasting detachment of the dick throne.
1984@lemmy.today 5 weeks ago
Made me lol :) OK so what’s your theory?
Nollij@sopuli.xyz 5 weeks ago
Unless women have taken a very sharp turn towards hookups, or polygamy, that’s only a partial explanation. The desirable men are still taken, just as before.
I presume your younger colleagues are all men, and of the segment that does poorly with women. Try asking women about their perspectives on the matter. I promise you’ll get a different answer.
Fizz@lemmy.nz 5 weeks ago
“Men” includes a lot of scum, especially with online anonymity
GlassHalfHopeful@lemmy.ca 5 weeks ago
Donald?
LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
By current standards, clearly that’s bigotry and intolerance. /s
NeoNachtwaechter@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
[deleted]Thistlewick@lemmynsfw.com 5 weeks ago
Try talking to them like the kind of guy who still uses the term “Oriental” would. Belittling, condescending, politely racist….
bjornsno@lemm.ee 5 weeks ago
5714@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 weeks ago
Was soll das?
CTDummy@lemm.ee 5 weeks ago
Given a non insignificant amount of women migrated to Bluesky because of thinly veiled threats of SA from xitter; meeting strange blokes online probably isn’t high on the “must do” list. Hell even without the xitter shitfight that probably holds.
This probably comes from a life with no shortage of blokes trying to get their foot in the door under the guise of “friendship”.
solsangraal@lemmy.zip 5 weeks ago
“hey let’s be friends!”
10 minutes later
“soooo… when we fuckin?”
DScratch@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
“haha”
DuckWrangler9000@lemmy.world 5 weeks ago
So if a guy talks plainly and non-aggressively, like a normal and rational person with no insensitive comments or uncomfortable flirting… They can’t be friends? I guess that’s my confusion. I remember the world when I grew up being a bit more simple.
azulavoir@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
They can, once the two meet. But the women are often in situations where nine other men have seemed to be doing that, then got creepy. So for their safety they don’t engage.
Kanzar@sh.itjust.works 5 weeks ago
Not when all your other mates all tried the same thing, then flipped completely.
The world when you grew up was filled with men doing this exact thing, the concept of the friend zone has been around forever and even before that, women didn’t really have a choice.
Plenty of men who didn’t take no for an answer, and wore down the woman until they said yes.