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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨LinkedIn’s cofounder Reid Hoffman says seeking work-life balance is a red flag that you’re ‘not committed to winning’⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  In the context of start-ups. Where workers presumably are also rewarded with stock options or similar. Takes a certain mentality and a definition of “winning” that I don’t share, which is why I don’t and wouldn’t work at a start-up. And besides, the message is chiefly directed at founders. I don’t find it -that- controversial.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨The other shoe drops, and this time it is covered in dog shit⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  As someone with shit income but a nice savings buffer, holy shit it makes things so easy, compared. “Cool dress, I’ll get that for next summer - cool coat, I’ll get that for next winter”, no problem. Just got my cat’s meds for the next 4 months at a sale, and the next sale should be in that time. Also could get her thyroid radiotherapy, that’s already paid for itself (compared to permanent expensive meds, of course not compared to no treatment). Appliance starting to make a noise or performance dropping, time to add that to my second hand watch list and keep an eye on sales of quality brands, rather than being forced to risk it failing and then getting something in a hurry, possibly on some payment scheme with a high interest rate. Pantry items on sale and/or in bulk. And of course the kind of main shoes that have held up for 5+ years, just could use a resoling soon.

  I can’t even imagine the constant stress living without it would be. Ow. :/

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨5⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Completely opposite for me. Full bush keeps everything more “airy”, whereas shaven is underwear directly against the parts that bleach them, plus it all gets all sweaty.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨can European intelligence substitute the American one?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Not disagreeing, we should strive for good or at least civil relationships with our neighbors, even if we don’t exactly like each other, but the problem is that

  • any agreement or peace deal with Russia isn’t worth the paper it’s written on, they’ll just ignore it when they want to
  • make peace with one country in Middle-East, you’ll anger another
• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Can I consider myself bi or should I just say straight if I want to date women but just can’t find any that attract me?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  When True Men fuck, women just get in the way.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Work hard enough, and you can replace exhaustion with burn out⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  If you ignore it for long enough, you can replace burn out with depression.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Eat that ramen⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  allows you the luxury of studying to increase the value of your work output

  I’ve always wanted more value from my work output! Or contentment and self-actualization, it was one or the other.

  luxury of ennui that gives you philosophical dread on your idle hours

  I’m assuming you mean that those idle hours are the luxury? Because I’m pretty sure tedium and boredom existed in the fields and cobalt mines long before it got a fancy French name.

  others would kill to be on your not-working-in-cobalt-mines shoes while being fed and safe

  Relative privation?

  Also, is eating ramen being fed? Is it safety if you’re one illness and insurance fuckup, or a job loss and six(?) months, away from homelessness?

  this while having thrived up to an age that for most of human history has basically senility

  Extreme infant and childhood mortality explains most of the short historical lifespans. 30 was never senility.

  The same logistics and industrial development… is the one that gives you the climate change.

  Every step of towards lessening greenhouse gases brings us closer to the fall of western civilization! Fly more, abolish public transportation, eat only beef, set your AC so low you have to wear a sweater!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Eat that ramen⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  In your 40s your body begins to break down. Often your mind slows down too. And you’ll have people relying on you, whether at work as a senior colleague, your children, your aging parents/other relatives, your friends whose bodies have begun to break down, or whatever responsibilities/opportunities you’ve taken in your various communities.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨How can a US citizen invest outside the reach of the federal government?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Depends on how out of reach. Stocks exchanged in other, possibly hostile countries? Property in other countries that allow it (eg. most of EU does afaik)?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is a metaphor you like in your language?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  “Lukee kuin piru Raamattua” (Finnish) Literally “to read like the Devil reads the Bible” Meaning to examine something in bad faith. Never heard it used it in context of the Bible or anything religious, but eg. when interpreting law or contract, looking for the crumbs that could be twisted for your purpose, rather than what the text attempts to convey.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Homeless. My country has decent social security and “housing first” policy, it’s reasonable to expect to be able to exit the situation soon.

  US, same, but exit for edgier reasons.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What is something that keeps you up at night?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Stubbornly not taking my antidepressants in the morning, whether relenting later in the day or not. Venlafaxine, how I love thee and thy withdrawals.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨(They're not allowed to legally anymore)⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Thank you! I’m content to use Nextcloud News for my feed aggregate, but that bridge seems super helpful for various purposes.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨(They're not allowed to legally anymore)⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This seems like a good thread to ask someone to find/make a RSS feed of WHO Disease Outbreak News. www.who.int/emergencies/disease-outbreak-news

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨you are the democratically elected leader of a liberal democratic country which so far has had a good relationship with the US, how do you and your country survive 4 years of trump?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You’re talking to a Finn whose grandparents on both sides lost their homes to stalinist USSR. A sapling of a plant they brought with them grows in my yard. I’ve visited the locations and met the new inhabitants (normal people). Trust me, I know land loss sucks. War also sucks, and much as I hate realpolitik… sometimes there’s realpolitik. Of course in the end it’s up to the Ukrainians how long and for what they are willing to fight, with access to whatever aid (hopefully more) they have.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨you are the democratically elected leader of a liberal democratic country which so far has had a good relationship with the US, how do you and your country survive 4 years of trump?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Fingers crossed, that would make me very happy. Land loss hurts way less than decades of finlandization.

  Would have to be a -very- quick process, every day of negotiations would be a massive danger to them, and based on how it went with Finland and Sweden I’m sceptical of that too. And of course US commitments to defend EU Nato members, based on political whims.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨you are the democratically elected leader of a liberal democratic country which so far has had a good relationship with the US, how do you and your country survive 4 years of trump?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Pretty sure he’ll “negotiate” and likely push through a peace treaty where the new border is the combat line (in Ukraine, Russia loses nothing), and Ukraine is forced into neutrality (such a pretty word for always walking a metaphorical tightrope, have R interfere with your election/election results, not daring to voice your own opinions in the UN or otherwise on the global arena… and of course no trade deals with the EU).

  And he’ll tout it as a massive victory and compromise, when actually R got everything they really wanted. If Ukraine doesn’t go along, then they become “stubborn, hateful warmongers” or the like.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's Wednesday my dudes...?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Aww, thank you. 😘

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Well you see, gam gam...⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I accidentally told my 50+ friend what shibari is. No, she didn’t know, she cancelled going to a planned event that would have included a lecture.

  She also claims she didn’t know before what “bondage” was, and isn’t in the habit of lying to me. So yay for being a good influence, I guess?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Americans Need to Party More⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Depends on the kind of party, it might not take a lot of money. But it does take time and energy.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with male loneliness?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I’m confused. Are women on social media interfering on man-to-man friendships?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨What's the deal with male loneliness?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  You have to admit the “leftist” ideologies tend to be about working together and supporting each other, and the “right wing” ideologies about encouraging individual accomplishments, though?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Help⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Seriously, it’s not that hard to find.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨These dames wanting inclusivity⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Somehow this stuck with me, and while you are correct, in any conversation about menses I’d probably want to include the people who eg. use contraceptive methods that temporarily stop them, and people whose periods are so irregular they simply don’t know if the next one is coming or not (my group). Personally I’d also want to include and hear from people who used to menstruate but no longer do, or who are likely to start soon.

  In statistics afaik they tend to use “women of fertile age”, which makes sense for those purposes, to limit it to one clear-cut group for clarity. In gynecology for individual patients I don’t think any term is used, just a list of properties (“G0P0 menarche 12 cycle 28 duration 5 normal flow, last period 1.1.2025”) and then you move on to the issue.

  And that’s for periods, a relatively clear-cut thing. Then you get to “people who had the female/male experience when growing up”, or “people who perform the traditionally female/male role in a relationship” or the like.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨the aliens monitoring our planet know that we are idiots⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Any reason to celebrate in a way all participants/effected find enjoyable is a good reason. Not very intelligent aliens.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Yule Tidings⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  I also liked the idea of New Year’s bingo, things you’d enjoy doing the next year and then seeing if you get bingo/s.

  But nah. In 2025 I’m going to start a company that will cheaply generate near-unlimited clean energy from greenhouse gases, pollutants, and (only discarded) plastics. I will install it for free and provide the energy at something like 10% of oil/coal equivalent. By threatening to turn it off, I’ll extort those in power to stop wars (yup, within the year) and obey the experts on how to improve the wellbeing of the bottom 10-50% in individual countries and globally.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨These dames wanting inclusivity⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Do you often find yourself in discussions where the trans-inclusivity/exclusivity of the term it is important to know?

  Because whenever I use “men, guys” or any other such term, whether it includes trans people doesn’t even cross my mind. Like the discussions if we should welcome “guy friends” at our girls’ game and gossip nights, or if I’m being too naive around “men”. Talking about “males” like an alien species would be weird and mildly offensive. (Mildly because the Finnish word “uros” can imply admiration for a man’s masculinity.)

  If you wanted a term for potential partners you could possibly reproduce with, none of the “female, woman, male, man” terms by itself would do, because (even personally known) infertility for various reasons exists.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Well, if you’re for real, you pretty much answered your own question there. Many guys online are creeps, and you’d prefer to talk with women rather than try to find the golden fun normal person in a haystack of men.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨I don't have a purpose in life and feel like a robot. This cannot be good for my mental health, but I don't know how or what to change. How do I change?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  This, so much. You majored in philosophy, you know more about absurdism than I do. You also know there’s no such thing as “being ahead” or “being behind” in life, just being closer or further to your own values.

  You’ve got an approximate 30-40 years of good cognition and physical ability left, and soon after you’ll die and nothing will have mattered anyway. “Existed safely until s/he died” is one possible path to take, but it sounds like you want permission to step out of it. Go for it, the world doesn’t care.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are Increased Colorectal Cancers Rates Linked to Using Laptops on Stomachs?⁩ ⁨⁨4⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago⁩:

  Anything to excuse our unhealthy diets, huh.