I miss having friends/family to cuddle with. My wife is fine, more than. But why can’t buddies just cuddle? Also, my oldest friend and I will platonically kiss. Our wives find it adorable, but I’ve been kissing this guy since preschool; why does it have to be seen as special?
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j4k3@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Can we just normalize ‘come lay down somewhere and relax?’ That would be great. Thanks.
No chairs. No standing. Nothing weird. Just lay there and chill together. That is a social life I can participate in.
fartographer@lemmy.world 2 days ago
moriquende@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Uh, that’s nice for you but I personally have 0 interest in cuddling or kissing buddies and never have. Hanging out is just fine. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re rather in the minority here.
AbsolutePain@lemmy.world 2 days ago
They’re being sarcastic i think lol
moriquende@lemmy.world 2 days ago
If so, it’s not my humor I guess.
ExistingConsumingSpace@midwest.social 2 days ago
I have a friend that I do that with, it’s pretty nice. Just get cozy like a childhood sleepover and put on some music or nonsense on the tv while we chill and chat.
Tyrq@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 days ago
Man, I remember every weekend I’d have two or three friends all weekend, we’d all sleep on my bed. I miss those days. My bones hurt.
PrimeMinisterKeyes@leminal.space 2 days ago
Calm down there, Richard Stallman.
Genius@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
Third place
HasturInYellow@lemmy.world 2 days ago
This is the thing that is destroying our country. I’m not even joking. We don’t have the things you’re talking about or places to do them for free. We have nowhere for kids to hang out, for people to exist for free, public access entertainment/bath houses/whatever the fuck.
We have nothing. Only what you can pay for and only extremely regimented.
We have lost even the idea of community because it has been made impossible in this country.
prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
No more “third place”
HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I’ve got a church that i use as a place to play music and socialize (no one has ever asked about my beliefs but i have a local reputation as Weird (fair amount of musicians in the congregation though so got some Weird there), they’re just glad to have the music and I like free coffee, seeing friends, and getting to play) and i have a couple parks i busk at, and we’ve got a gorgeous farm out in the boonies on the other side of the next town over (so you know, just outside of battery range on my bike to get there and back) but like this is stuff i only know about because i’ve lived here all my damn life and make compromises like going to a (thank gods liberal) church
perishthethought@piefed.social 2 days ago
Uhhh, don't we have city / county / state / national parks?
HasturInYellow@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Can children go to these places alone? Can children do anything alone, actually? What if you don’t have a car?
I mean a society where you can easily walk to multiple different examples of several kinds of third space. Not where if you drive 30 min, you can get out into nature.
elucubra@sopuli.xyz 10 hours ago
You mean, most of Europe?
Velypso@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Hey man, youre ruining the circle jerk.
perishthethought@piefed.social 2 days ago
Ohshit, sorry, sorry. 🥰
ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com 2 days ago
What about glory holes?
StaticFalconar@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Yes your mother’s bedroom is fair game.
MangoPenguin@piefed.social 2 days ago
Parks? Walking/hiking trails? Just wander off into national forest?
chonglibloodsport@lemmy.world 2 days ago
The US has turned into Ferenginar so gradually I didn’t even notice!
rumba@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
I miss the malls, man. Like, some of them still exist, but they’re dying. You used to be able to just go and window shop and chill and grab a bite. Maybe go hit the arcade. Go watch a movie. You didn’t really have to have plans. You would just meet up and then fart around doing something.
Now it’s almost all strip mall. What are we going to meet at the target? Then walk a mile in the weather to go to the Best Buy.
Of course, I also miss my friends being as bored as I was. I think social media and local devices replaced a lot of that.
doingthestuff@lemy.lol 2 days ago
I have a local nature park that has poles with hooks for hammocks dispersed around the many miles of hiking trails, and they even let you use their hammocks for free. But the park is privately owned and charges a small annual fee for use.
Fizz@lemmy.nz 2 days ago
When I was over in the states there were plenty of parks and free activities. Plenty of people using them as well.