Youâre not far off. As a parent, the idea of someone sexualizing my kids in any way makes me seethe. Like there are people I wouldnât let my kids be alone with for a second just because they give me bad vibes.
But I do have to concede that itâs a psychological thing that people have, even if I wish they didnât. I have to imagine that if anyone got to choose, then they certainly wouldnât opt for that. I agree that the âkill your local pedoâ mentality drives these people into the shadows where they wonât seek help, and may actually victimize kids. I just donât know if I have the ability to look at someone with that mindset and be totally free of judgement, even if they do seek help.
wide_eyed_stupid@lemmy.world âš6â© âšdaysâ© ago
I have always felt bad for ânon-practicingâ pedophiles. It must be a horribly lonely thing to go through. Not only are you universally hated, but you have desires and longings you can -never- act on, a need that can -never- be fulfilled. Add to that the isolation⊠it must be hell. And all because of something they canât change. And the worst thing about it is that the hatred is so understandable. Where someoneâs kids are involved, of course they wonât take any risks. Of course theyâre going to lash out at anything and anyone that might be dangerous. Itâs a visceral thing.
But youâre right. This idea that every pedophile wants to rape kids is probably very damaging. Not just to the pedophiles themselves, but also the kids around them. When you push someone into a secret corner where they canât talk to people about their issues, where they canât be honest, canât get help⊠youâll only make sure that some of them donât look for help, when they might have otherwise. Someone with nothing to lose is more dangerous than someone with some social net.
Maybe I would feel different if I had kids myself, but I have always approached it from a rational point of view. Does every heterosexual guy rape women? Does every heterosexual woman rape men? Does every gay man rape men? No, of course not. So why assume that every pedophile rapes children? I am no expert, but I assume there are way more people with these feelings than we would like to know. Luckily most humans have some sort of self-control.
AI_toothbrush@lemmy.zip âš6â© âšdaysâ© ago
You worded it very well. I also think that much more people have pedophilia than you would think at first. Thats one of the reasons why i think so many rich people take part in diddy and epstien parties. If you never got help, and have so much money that you feel untouchable, you will take advantage of people around you because there are no repercussions.