untorquer

@untorquer@quokk.au

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is terminally lonely⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Its rare to find a friend who will try new things. Super great to just say, “lets do this thing!” and them to emphatically agree 😁 I used to have no choice but to do those things alone.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Anon is terminally lonely⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Lonliness is a significant driver of depression in modern society. Finding community and relationships can absolutely help. In fact friends and partners are generally the first people we need to talk to about our feelings.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I think the best way might be the simplest way that achieves a consensus that sufficient nuance is considered.

  Or rather, the minimum necessary that everyone affected can use the tool proficiently to meet their needs. Most tools need regular maintenance or discarding, but cat is giving simple, so maybe cat is on to something.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  But you just used it as a tool to categorize and explain a wide swath of relationship dynamics. The only thing you needed was to apply it to the individuals instead of the relationship writ large.

  I think the cat is in the middle of a lecture too. Maybe that’s the next slide?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Dragon Quest creator Yuji Horii says English translations inevitably strip away a lot of a game's "flavor"⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  They’re translating to American English

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨meirl⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  “On what grounds”?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨No u 🫵⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well don’t complain to me when you fall off trying to walk on some ball. i tried to warn you. 🤷 Roundies smh…

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨OP figures out love languages⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Not sure where i decided the narrator is unreliable. They say their partner loves it. Two people happy in a relationship. An example of how one problem solved to meet the needs communicated by the other. The result being positive. That’s just reading what’s written. I don’t see where i made something up. I provided examples of types of people who may use a logic like this but didn’t prescribed it to op.

  Not a dynamic for me but i wouldn’t gawk at someone for feeling fulfilled in it. I get the humor that it’s expected to be considered demeaning.

  🤷

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨No u 🫵⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  But you can’t see anything past the horizon. Occam’s razor suggests there’s nothing beyond it

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨OP figures out love languages⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Unhealthy would be if you as the other in the relationship (the one seeking affection here) were not ok with this and tried to change it. It Doesn’t sound like the relationship with the dog is negotiable.

  I wouldn’t be happy in that relationship because i need emotional mutuality/reflection, which is clearly muted here. But the two partners here are obviously fine with it.

  I don’t mean to diagnose anyone but this is fairly common for both trauma survivors and neurodivergence. Animals are just going to always be safer than people for some folks, and those folk also deserve love.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨OP figures out love languages⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  It’s just healthy adaptation. They care for their partner so they found a way to meet their partner’s needs that isn’t overly burdensome.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨No u 🫵⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  A slightly perceptible curvature on the horizon only indicates a convex spherical cap, like a Frisbee.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨No u 🫵⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Unless you has a view of the distant horizon in which case you might alternatively conclude it’s a convex lens shape.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's literally science⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  this and

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨It's literally science⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Well this and a shorter work day/week so one doesn’t have to chose between a social life, a healthy body, home upkeep, child care, and self care. Maybe sprinkle in some accessible and free healthcare both physical and mental. Idk, wouldn’t be the first time i was wrong about something.