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- Comment on Unconventional strategy. 16 hours ago:
Your comment on funerals reminds me of my mother yelling at me for crying over my grandpa’s death (the first death I experienced as an adult/college student). She told me “Why are you so upset‽ You’ve been to church more recently than I have!”
Anyways, that thought lives rent-free in my head, even though I no longer speak with my mother.
(mini rant: she gave me exactly as much space to feel my feelings when my own dad died more recently. Yes, she sucks.)
My grandma’s funeral was not a sad occasion. She’d lived a long life and died very demented, so there was a bit of sadness, but mostly those feelings had been dealt with over the years as her mind changed. The primary feeling seemed to be relief. The sermon was very “we’re not burying her, we’re planting her, rejoice for she will be reborn” and I wanted to throttle the preacher because he said nothing specific to my grandma, it was very generic. My main feeling at the funeral was stress from navigating the disfunctional relationships of family members I hardly knew.
- Comment on it is me, I am the autistic child 2 days ago:
Underjoke: the girlfriend is also autistic, and doesn’t make eye contact.
- Comment on Talk about hat hair... 3 days ago:
Could visit a thrift store and see if you find any good materials. Dissect a plushie or look at the blankets and throw pillows for materials.
- Comment on Put the shoes on 4 days ago:
Just toss on a dress and go commando. No need to remove the shoes.
- Comment on They seemed nice and normal until.... 1 week ago:
Well, you see, “anything” is very broad and could include removal of a finger or two. Specificity is good when defining boundaries.
- Comment on Hehehehe 5 weeks ago:
My parents were checking out the building site for our new house in the woods and I got bored/tired and went back to the car to nap. They looked everywhere for me and I was just safe asleep.
- Comment on Man posts his incorrect opinion online 5 weeks ago:
I’m also team office slippers. They’re so snuggly!
- Comment on lightbulbs 5 weeks ago:
We accidentally installed a white light bulb in the hallway outside my bedroom. It made me feel so pissed off and on edge every time my door was open and someone turned that light on.
Once we swapped it to a warm bulb I was much more chill.
I do keep a tunable light bulb in a task lamp, but the rest of the lighting in the house is warm.
- Comment on Norway anon pirates 1 month ago:
- Comment on Who care about book 2 months ago:
*libarys
- Comment on Snitches get switches 2 months ago:
Conservation land, in my area, is just land designated to not be developed. It might be privately owned and designated "conservation land* for tax benefits, or owned by the town, or what have you. Sometimes housing developers will designate part of their land plot as “conservation” for some benefit from the town (like taxes or zoning easement).
- Comment on Some people prefer corn for some ungodly reason 2 months ago:
My partner’s in the same boat.
What’s wicked sad is he loves garlic but it doesn’t love him. He can have garlic oil but that’s about it (something to do with FODMAPs).
- Comment on YOLO 2 months ago:
Native English speaker. What I got is “His guts were fucked up in these technical ways so we did magical medical stuff. He went home, came back a 5 months later with sad butt symptoms and we did this other medical thing to treat it.”
So yeah, I have no desire to understand more details
- Comment on Eat more fibre or something 2 months ago:
IBS, medication with “surprise diarrhea” as a side effect, and occasional almost–passing-out on the toilet (overactive vasovagal reflex). It’s not a fun combination. Fiber only helps so much.
- Comment on elixir of a god 2 months ago:
I tried different prescription meds until I found one that worked for me without bad side effects.
I’m honestly bad at taking my meds, but I take them when I really need to focus on something. But, my current job lets me flit from task to task, so I usually have something novel to work on and so don’t need the meds. I do still take coffee, but only about a large cup a day.
Sorry that’s not more helpful.
- Comment on elixir of a god 2 months ago:
What’s he drink?
(Btw, I have you tagged as the person that learned loufas are a vegetable. Hi! 😊)
- Comment on elixir of a god 2 months ago:
I used to self-medicate my ADHD with coffee. I could have 12 cups over the course of a work day. My new job doesn’t provide coffee, so now I just use prescription amphetamines.
- Comment on Why does every commercial depiction of honey involve one of this things? Literally nobody has ever seen one of these in real life 2 months ago:
I’m all about creamed honey. It’s the consistency of peanut butter and has the happy crystals in it, if it’s not fresh.
- Comment on Actual theft 2 months ago:
I think it’s just under-eye eye liner
- Comment on Always wear protection, folks 2 months ago:
I already have intermittent tinnitus, as does my partner. “Is that noise tinnitus or do you hear it, too?” is a common question in our household :(
- Comment on Always wear protection, folks 2 months ago:
I’m excited for when my ears get old enough to not hear those. At 40 years old and I still get a headache from them.
At least as an adult I can leave when they’re around. My grandparents had one to repel rodents. They were shocked I’d always want to hide away and read instead of being in the room next to the repeller.
- Comment on It's the Lord's problem now. 3 months ago:
Agreed, it’s gross seeing poo bags on the trail.
I have a dog. I scoop the poop. I use bags that claim to be compostable and I put them in the bin. I don’t like carrying a full poo bag. That’s why I have a little scent proof zippered I hang from my leash. I don’t leave the bag on the side of the trail and lie that I’ll totally pick it up on my way back.
At home I use these magic corn based ones that dissolve in the toilet.
- Comment on Assumptions 3 months ago:
My understanding: dairy cows interact with humans on a regular basis, for dairy stuff. Beef animals don’t interact with humans nearly as much.
- Comment on Libraries are cool 3 months ago:
My (academic) library does. We send out a student worker with a laptop on a book cart to scan all the books on a shelf, then the next shelf, etc. The system flags if anything is missing or out of order, so the student can fix the order right then.
When I worked in a public library, every librarian sleeper adopted a section of shelves and, when it was quiet, went and made sure it was in proper order.
- Comment on Settings you believe ANY game should have? (This is me advocating for a restart/reboot button on ALL games) 3 months ago:
Please let me invert y-axis for games where I control the field of view. Nothing takes me out of a game like suddenly staring at my feet when I try to look up.
- Comment on This is the type of Q&A that makes the internet so important 3 months ago:
The bits where skin touches skin. Like in the crotch or under the breasts.
- Comment on This is the type of Q&A that makes the internet so important 3 months ago:
Luxury is drying the your folds with a blow dryer in winter.
- Comment on SipsTea 3 months ago:
It’s for sure paper rock scissors
- Comment on "Does Hitler have a right to privacy?" and other big questions in research ethics. 3 months ago:
The sort that would make a Hitler clone would be happy with a direwolf-style pseudo-clone with good marketing.
- Comment on FOX BREAKING NEWS ALERT! 3 months ago:
All potato items 💔
