It’s like trying to gently explain to your dealer that you don’t want to hear his mixtape.
that’s why it’s just a summer fling
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sundray@lemmus.org 4 days ago
fonix232@fedia.io 4 days ago
More like trying to tell him that you'll listen to his mixtape as long as he provides drugs for free
BeUnique@lemmy.zip 4 days ago
She likes to be chased, but doesn’t like to be caught. Or at least that’s what she wants in that point in her life. Move on, maybe you’ll bump into her down the road when she’s ready or maybe not.
Whatever you do, don’t stick around and play the games if you want something more serious. You’ll just end up either getting hurt or even worse, you’ll get her to be with you when she doesn’t wanna be tied down. This can cause her to either resent you or if she’s for the streets, to cheat on you. Either way it’s not a fun time for anyone.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I’ve learned this lesson the hard way a couple times. My problem is the only women who like me either have a bf, have a “daddy”, or are the above example and like being chased, often 2 or 3 of those points. It gets very frustrating idk what is about me that attracts that type of lady.
OhStopYellingAtMe@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Incel meme
did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world 4 days ago
the concept of a female perspective meme about libertinage being an incel meme…
the only angle i see in which it could be seen that way is if you think all women are puritanical prudes, which is misogynistic. ironic.
SaltyIceteaMaker@lemmy.ml 4 days ago
nah they got a point, thats the typa post id expect to see on 4chan right before they invent a new slur that no one will ever use
DeLancre@piefed.social 4 days ago
I will be honest, I’m somewhat proud of my proficiency level in English, especially considering I learned russian and German in school.
But your comment confuses me, cause I don’t understand half of it.
usualsuspect191@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
Change your perspective and imagine the meme was made by a (male) incel and you’ll get what they were getting at.
EmilieEasie@fedinsfw.app 3 days ago
It probably wasn’t intended to be, but a lot of the comments are from incels. Like that super real story about the guy’s friend who went to jail supposedly with no evidence against him.
What is it about meme communities that always attract misogyny?
did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world 3 days ago
what’s funny is that the source of this meme is a women centric page: www.instagram.com/p/Daokk2EjGBK/
some people will just always find a way to twist things and turn it misogynistic.
JCSpark@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
I’m all for any person practising whatever relationship style they want. What im against is using people to fulfill your needs/wants. Have fun, meet people, enjoy experiences, but please dont make people your experiments. You may enjoy “the chase”, but the long term effects on those individuals may have further impacts.
I won’t fully agree with all the other comments that OP is not a nice person for doing this. We all have our motivations, methods, and reasoning. That being said, considering the fact that other humans have feelings and desires helps to mitigate that main character syndrome.
FireRetardant@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I think it boils down to communication. If both parties understand the expectations in the relationship, then it is fine, and thats what this meme implies as well. However one party leading the other on, maybe playing the bf/gf role without wanting the commitment while the other wants full commitment is disingenuous imo.
gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org 3 days ago
ah yes you want a dog
Gonzako@lemmy.world 4 days ago
Ew. Relationships are two-way.
did_you_find_violets@lemmy.world 4 days ago
this isn’t about relationships tho. it’s about having fun without commitment, which can also be 2-way. for example, my fling and i are keeping each other entertained without the expectation of anything serious.
gandalf_der_12te@feddit.org 3 days ago
not always
whoisearth@lemmy.ca 4 days ago
Make that a Kenyan girl and you have my ex.
Miss me with that bullshit. Christ that relationship damaged me.
StarryPhoenix97@lemmy.world 4 days ago
“I like the idea of it, not the truth. the weakness. we have no future.”
roserose56@lemmy.zip 3 days ago
It’s called a slave worshiping a mistress I think.
yermaw@sh.itjust.works 3 days ago
Yeah probably, that sounds about right, its certainly not something ive whiled away the twilight hours researching.
whotookkarl@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Quality shit post with dingleberries based on the reactions in the comments 🍿
Zizzy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
This comment section is rough to read. The hell is wrong with everyone? Women arent your property. If we don’t want a committed relationship thats our choice. The MEME is even espousing being upfront, honest and communicative about it.
thethrilloftime69@feddit.online 2 days ago
When you’re single…. Be single. Date multiple people until there is mutual interest in something more.
Think about what you want out of life. Non relationship wise. Where do you want to live? Who do you want to be? What kind of things do you want to do regularly? What do you want to achieve? What does it take for you to be like happy? Be intentional. Think about what it might take for someone to complement that. What kind of temperament? What kind of activities should this person enjoy?
Life should be whatever way you see it and you need to find someone who gets that.
When you date a bunch of people, you get a sense of what it actually takes for you to be happy hanging out with someone all the time. What kind of partners take your energy away? What kind of partners give you energy?
I will say, dating IS a skill. You can learn how to do it better. Everyone is working with something different and so obviously it will be harder for some people. That’s life, but you can always learn different ways to be more effective at dating. And by trying to date a bunch, you can iron out the kinks in your strategy. The fact is it is a game, and you gotta play to learn how to play better.
reshuffle6655@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 days ago
Dookieman12@piefed.social 4 days ago
I’ve met several women like this. They’re selfish, manipulative, hypocritical, and they LIE. Being involved with them to any extent is exhausting.
Never got one pregnant. A friend of mine married a ho like this after she baby trapped him. He wanted her to get a job so she called the police and said he hit her and touched their kid. He’s in prison now.
Don’t put your dick in crazy.
Thebeardedsinglemalt@lemmy.world 4 days ago
“Those are the eyes of someone who’d like holes in a condom just to extend the relationship”