What do you do if you lose an argument, but it turns out that you were actually right?

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• banause@feddit.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Avoid arguments like the plague.

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  • Elting@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

    Then you end up like my family where we communicate that something is wrong in ways that are so esoteric and obtuse that only a few people can tell something is wrong and they have to guess what it is.

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• Nemo@slrpnk.net ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  You can’t win an argument by being wrong. If you “lost” an argument it behooves you to at least consider the other person’s points. Two people can broth be right and still disagree.

  Me, I’ve never “lost” an argument. I’ve either made myself understood or I haven’t, and at some point that’s on the other person. And I’ve either come to understand the other person’s point or I haven’t, which again at some point is on them. But being the one to change your mind isn’t losing, it’s learning.

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  • Kayra@lemmy.world ⁨16⁩ ⁨minutes⁩ ago

    Even if you’re right, if you don’t defend your point of view well enough, you might lose.

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• FinjaminPoach@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

  I get to plant a custard pie in the face of my opponent. Or never let them live it down.

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• ModernRisk@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Absolutely nothing. If it turns out that I’m right, that’s great to know. Let them think they are right and somewhere along the way, they’ll figure out they were wrong in either a okay-way or in some disaster-way.

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• DudeImMacGyver@kbin.earth ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Depends on how important it was either practically or personally.

  If it involves anyone's safety or something like that, absolutely correct it ASAP!

  "Hey, so remember when we were talking about BLANK? Well, I realized I may not have explained the situation properly. Here's what I should've originally communicated: (explanation). We need to get this addressed."

  If it's something petty and pointless? I would be more inclined to leave it unless it comes up again for some reason.

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• Elting@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

  If its something that can be let go, let go of it. If it something that is important for some reason, like someones safety or something, then bring it up with tact.

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• VibeSurgeon@piefed.social ⁨1⁩ ⁨hour⁩ ago

  Take the L with grace

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• Diddlydee@feddit.uk ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  It really depends who it is, what the topic is, and how much of a dick they were.

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• bryndos@fedia.io ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  As soon as you're in an argument it's probably a waste of time.

  Only continue if it matters to a real decision.

  If it's a real decision and you have reached the point of an argument then it might be better to try to propose experiments or tests to increase the evidence base and directly address the differences of opinion.

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• fodor@lemmy.zip ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Depends. But usually the important thing is that you got your position out there. The opposing party won the argument, but the other listeners may have filled in the blanks and realized you had the better take even if you did not clearly express it.

  In other words, truth seekers don’t worry too much about who won. They worry about what’s true.

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• crimson_iris@piefed.social ⁨3⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Highly situational.

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• aceshigh@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Who are you doing this for? Is it because you need closure or validation? If so, the answer is no. Validate yourself. Learn your lesson and then move on. You can’t rely on other people to meet your unmet needs.

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• zlatiah@lemmy.world ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  This has happened to me quite a few times before, and aside from ppl I know really well, the answer had always been no. I’m not good at arguing/debating anyways, so I’d just go “hehe I told you so” secretly

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• Object@sh.itjust.works ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  If it doesn’t affect life much outside of being more right, I would honestly move on.

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• kindnesskills@literature.cafe ⁨4⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  Only if it actually matters, or if very little time has passed, and only if I have previously demonstrated that I’ll also go back unprompted and admit to being wrong. And I’ll prefer to demonstrate good behaviour and pointing out when I’m being wrong multiple times before pointing out when others were wrong.

  Others need to know I’m not going to be a dick about it and I’m just looking for truth in either direction, so they don’t feel personally attacked or defensive.

  It also depends highly on the topic and my relationship with the other person.

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• Zwuzelmaus@feddit.org ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  No. I never feel like I haven’t presented an argument properly. I tell my view of things, and maybe I know that I am right, or maybe not.

  Then maybe it turns out that I have been right, or maybe not.

  And maybe people decide to believe me, or maybe not.

  That’s still their own decision, isn’t it? Usually I let them, except when it’s about some super important stuff.

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• sgh@lemmy.ml ⁨6⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I would, but in a soft fashion.

  However, don’t emulate internet strangers, just be yourself.

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