Submitted 3 weeks ago by s@piefed.world to [deleted]
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This is where I’m at.
Funny enough, I’ve learned you’ll never get flirted with or hit on in your life nearly as much as you will once you’ve genuinely lost all interest in having a relationship. So, if you want that attention, the key is to truly not at all want that attention, then it’ll be knocking down your door and blowing up your phone. Life is fucked liked that.
I have literally never had anyone flirt with me but maybe I’m just blind as an aro/ace lmfao
I had a woman just tell me to meow and woof. I did zero flirting.
I did the meow, but once I caught on that it was some sort of BDSM/kink thing, I sent the no thanks bro gif.
Maybe you give off a no romance vibe, so any hopeful suitor who interacts with you and starts to learn more about you quickly starts to see you as strictly friend material.
I’d say it’s just that some people are conquerors, they won’t settle for a quick win and they won’t accept getting shit handed to them. They want what’s hard to get. This obviously applies to women too, which is why some men just can’t find love no matter how hard they try.
One doesn’t just simply expose their whole deck and then expect to win that round.
Why does that need to be a gendered thing? Doesn’t that apply to all people?
Same, but married without kids.
Peaceful except when I savagely beat my meat.
I absolutely had so many choices bro
So many! I made each and every choice!
Wait do imaginary people count? Because they’re real to me goddamnit
She goes to another school
On my way to wizardry.
Yeah, choice… yeah…
Didn’t say who made that choice
CarbonIceDragon@pawb.social 3 weeks ago
I always feel a bit weird if the question of “are you single by choice?” comes up, cause like, I didn’t choose to be aro/ace, my brain just happens to be that way, so technically I feel like the answer is “no”, but if you answer that with no I worry people will mistake that for " not single by choice because of being unlikable in some way and therefore unable to find someone despite one’s efforts". But then one could also argue that I could technically still decide to look for a partner anyway despite not actually wanting one, so it would be a choice, but if you dont get to choose what you want, does it really count? And then the concept of determinism and if choices even truly exist at all enters my head and I just give up and say something like “it depends on what you mean by that.”
applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
succinctly: yes, but no
Rhaedas@fedia.io 3 weeks ago
And it could change tomorrow when you run into that someone that just "clicks". Like a Van Halen song says, "How do I know when it's love? It's just something you feel together."
Van Hagar is the best lyrical Van Halen.
ddplf@szmer.info 3 weeks ago
Ah, I don’t think that’s how aro/ace works
fracture@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
not sure that you were intending this, (maybe you replied to the wrong comment?) but your comment can be read in a bit of a “you’ll get over this aro/ace thing when you meet the right person”
halfapage@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
CarbonIceDragon@pawb.social 3 weeks ago
No, only like once or twice, but it sticks around in my head because I’m still not sure what the “correct” answer that doesn’t give a misleading impression and doesn’t require a longer-than-expected explanation is.