Focus on what you can control. Minimize whatever is toxic to you as much as possible. Maximize whatever brings you joy whenever you can get out of whatever environment you’re talking about.
How to stay sane in a hostile environment that you can't get out of?
Submitted 7 hours ago by DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works to [deleted]
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StrongHorseWeakNeigh@piefed.social 2 hours ago
Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
Uhhhhhh, this needs more context. This could be anything from being part of the military in a war zone, to being in an abusive relationship, to being stuck in a toxic work environment, to living in the USA, to being in prison, to being tied to railroad tracks by a 1930s cartoon villain. To being tied up and tickled by Mr Tickles from the Mr Men childrens books.
What are we working with here?
Nomad@infosec.pub 11 minutes ago
OP has posted in the past about Asian American abusive parents and living at home.
adespoton@lemmy.ca 7 hours ago
Malicious compliance.
muxika@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
Keep your life circle as small and simple as possible. What I mean by that is focus on what and who you care about, and do what you can to focus on them.
When I was stationed overseas, our chain of command relaxed a bit. We bonded on a more personal level. We took care of each other and rolled with the punches when there was little we could do about our situation. In a way, life became less complicated because our focus wasn’t split between many things.
If you’re in the US, I’m sorry that the things I dealt with in the military are now things that you have to consider.
Check on your family. Keep safe as best you can. Check on your neighbors. Have strength in numbers. Plan ahead.
And if you’re like me, stop doom scrolling before bed.
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
If you’re in the US
I mean my other country before this was China… so… 🤷♂️
The universe loves trolling me.
Universe: “Hey, guess what? In this incarnation, you are born into a family that’s immigrating to the United States”
Me: “Thanks, universe”
Universe: “Haha, SIKE, you get a racist dictator for president in your new adoptive country. Have Fun!”
merde@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
“don’t get mad, get even”
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
I mean… I’m trying to not be in prison if possible lol
bizarroland@lemmy.world 4 hours ago
There was a time during my teenage years where my parents had basically imprisoned me in the house for no fucking reason.
I was going to a private Christian school, and I had fallen a little behind in my studies. Normally, an adult would say, you have to catch up this year, or else bad things will happen.
Instead my parents threw away everything I owned except for five pairs of clothes and made me do hard manual labor picking up rocks and carrying them around the yard and digging up tree stumps with a dull pickaxe for a year and change until I graduated as the valedictorian of my high school a year ahead of the rest of my grade.
There were times when I would look at the pickaxe in my hand and remember that I was 15 years old and that if I took that pickaxe in a fit of rage and drove it through my stepdad’s skull and murdered him with the strength that I had gained from lifting, 90-150 pound boulders and carrying them all over half acres at a go, that I would be out of prison and have a sealed record and a normal life by the time I was 21.
The only thing that got me through that was the knowledge that once I had graduated, that was the end of it, and I would never have to deal with that shit again, and even though I still have issues about it, I did make it through, somehow, some way.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
I’m assuming you’ve tried to make it better, you’ve asked for help and it failed, you tried everything, etc.
You can reframe the situation in your mind. Hostile boss? Poor guy is lashing out because he knows he’s incompetent and he doesn’t know what else to do. Hostile family? They have no happiness and they don’t know how to cope, so they treat you and others poorly.
Hostile country? No fuckin idea. I’m still working on that one myself.
Object@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
This is really vague
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 7 hours ago
It is.
Because this feeling of “trapped” is persistent everywhere.
Home
Work
Country
And just… this mortal realm of existence…
But okay my context is I’m with my family (of origin) and I feel so trapped.
And to complicate things… I am too afraid to venture out there alone since I’m in the USA and ICE is everywhere. So I’m tio scared to be alone. And don’t even mention “friends”, I have none.
remon@ani.social 19 minutes ago
Have you tried drugs?
DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 13 minutes ago
Like Antidepressants?
Or like… those that get the DEA knocking?
Drugs will result in me being homeless.
Also literally don’t know any Asians that use drugs, I’d probably get so socially ostricised from the entire Asian community since its stigmatized and that’d suck.
Also brain damage… I’m trying to not like have memory issues… psychoactive chemicals and all… don’t want even more issues than I already have…
remon@ani.social 10 minutes ago
Damn, that definitely sounds like a hostile environment I’d want to get out off!