Turn off all notifications, ignore like counts, post less, and ultimately use it less.
What is the secret to a happy social-media experience?
Submitted 1 year ago by froghorse@lemm.ee to [deleted]
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steve228uk@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Pechente@feddit.de 1 year ago
In general phone notifications should only be people directly contacting you and stuff like reminders. No group chats (except mentions), social media, games or any crap like that.
I’m baffled how many notifications people leave on and then they don’t see important stuff or get stressed out by their phone.
Prettyblackroses@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Def turn them notifications off lol
Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 1 year ago
For me, deleting Facebook and only subscribing to respectful common interest threads has helped A LOT.
TheSpookiestUser@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Curate.
Block liberally. Especially block any community that is focused around making fun of something - even if it’s a thing that deserves scorn, the vibe will grind you down, over time, especially if there are many communities like it. Block users who are assholes, after reporting them if it’s bad enough.
Subscribe/follow/equivalent-action things you are genuinely interested in; cut out the really general categories unless you actively enjoy browsing that topic. Smaller communities are usually better, if they have enough content to be alive.
If you have any sort of hobby, try joining a space about it. If it’s too toxic, block it, but if not, it is a good place to destress and perhaps even make friends.
Curate, it can’t be overstated enough. A lot of sites don’t let you sufficiently curate your feed, and if they don’t, you should leave em.
flathead@quex.cc 1 year ago
I like Lemmy and Mastodon. No ads or manipulative algorithms. Somewhat social and usually polite. Turns out that when you don’t automate the incitement of anger and invective in clever ways that people can actually be pretty civil. Whoda thunk?
SpunkyBarnes@geddit.social 1 year ago
Don’t take it seriously. Don’t put up with toxicity. Don’t be afraid to do without.
WtfEvenIsExistence@reddthat.com 1 year ago
Social media usually has all sorts of people, even if it’s only 1%, that’s 1 in every 100 interactions. And the percentage of shitty people is probably much higher. It’s going to be difficult to avoid.
For Lemmy: You can use an account on beehaw.org to reduce negativity. Downside is that they also defederated from lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works. Or alternatively, you can use another instance that federates with them all, and just browse mostly on beehaw communities.
EntropicalVacation@midwest.social 1 year ago
A feed full of cats.
richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 1 year ago
Block obnoxious people immediately. Don’t engage, don’t plead, don’t try to convince. Block.
SomeAmateur@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Obnoxious people and spammers deserve a block for sure. I think that sometimes people take it too far and block over some minor things
Imo if you only see things you agree with you are in an echo chamber
richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 1 year ago
Agreed about echo chambers.
However, I’d add a couple of specific categories to the instablocked: people who is “JAQing off” and sealions.
Glide@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
Being in charge of your social media experience. Any site that decides for you what you see is a fucking trap.
If you see content other than what you’ve subscribed to/gone looking for, get the fuck out.
Nemo@midwest.social 1 year ago
No commercial content, no endless scroll.
Emphasis on engagement and discussion, rather than producing or consuming content.
Jamie@jamie.moe 1 year ago
Lemmy has cut out my doomscrolling more than I estimated. I knew it would decrease, but usually I don’t scroll for more than 5 or 10 minutes at a time, and it never interrupts me doing anything else. Makes me look back and realize how unhealthy those algorithms really are.
radix@lemm.ee 1 year ago
It’s comments like these that make me wonder if I’m the weird one. I spend the same amount of time (hours upon hours, probably) on Lemmy as I ever did on Reddit, Instagram, Discord, or Tumblr. No algorithm, yet here I am.
hdnsmbt@feddit.de 1 year ago
Don’t read the comments. Ever.
And if you catch yourself reading them, stop.
And if you catch yourself repl- well, shit.
GuyDudeman@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I totally agre… shit.
scarabic@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Yeah we fucked up.
Dick_Justice@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Don’t do social media with family, friends, or other people you actually know irl.
froghorse@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Group chat with family on the other side of the country. Bad idea.
Dick_Justice@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I also have a group chat with my family. I wouldn’t call that social media. I’m thinking about actual social media, like Reddit, Facebook, Twitter, et. al, not just texting. Of course I communicate with my family.
zurvan2@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Counter point: only do social media (e.g. Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc) with people you know.
It’s the other crap, mostly commercialized, that is toxic.
Starb3an@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Be happy before you join
Vaggumon@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Don’t be on social media.
zombie_kong@lemmy.world 1 year ago
B.A.M.O
Block and Move On.
ThatWeirdGuy1001@sh.itjust.works 1 year ago
Honestly this is the answer.
The list of communities I’ve blocked on lemmy is multiple pages long. Not so bad with specific users but I don’t really pay attention to them.
You see a community or profile you don’t like? Blocked. Simple as
RoyalEngineering@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Tend your garden. Block who/what you don’t wanna see/hear.
“Plant” in multiple locations so at least one source won’t go out of season.
shellsharks@infosec.pub 1 year ago
Try one with no algorithm. Mastodon is a good start for this. Fill your timeline with what you love.
reversebananimals@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Only engage in places where what’s being said is important to the community than who is saying it.
AndreyAsimow@lemmy.world 1 year ago
No ads, respectful mods, non-profit and non-aggressive oriented suggestion algorithm.
Bluehood380@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Anonymity
froghorse@lemm.ee 1 year ago
Ok, why exactly?
So the crazy people won’t track me down?
So what I say won’t stick to my reputation permanently?
Mothra@mander.xyz 1 year ago
Don’t add acquaintances to your networks. Only people you know and care about. A good way of telling them apart for me is whether or not I would be happy to have a voice conversation over the phone with said person.
Most of my social media networks are littered with acquaintances, that’s why I ended up dropping most of them. It’s inevitable for some platforms, like LinkedIn, so I only log like a few minutes a week for housekeeping.
As for non personal networks, like Lemmy for example, just stay away from toxic communities.I find something upsetting or boring? Unfollow or block, and move on. Collect the wholesome stuff.
NightOwl@lemmy.one 1 year ago
Pseudonym based social media and utilizing filtering to block content. If there isn’t official filtering tools or community work around then it’s a headache. Also, ability to disable notifications, which is something lemmy or kbin currently does not have that I miss from reddit that helps you drop conversations you don’t want to be a part of anymore.
I enjoyed my time on reddit because of the above, and never really encountered the toxic complaints people often bring up. Ability to curate and control what you see is important to getting the experience you want, since you can’t control what people post. But, being able to control what you see helps a lot.
jpreston2005@lemmy.world 1 year ago
i dunno. if you have to put a bunch of effort into making an application NOT cause you distress, then it’s probably best to stop using it. if that limits your ability to keep up with people, well, focus on keeping up with the people you can, and check in with everyone else once in a blue moon. Humans just aren’t capable of maintaining like 20+ friendships. limit it to your close circle/family.
Dunbars number suggests we can maintain a working knowledge of the relations of ~150 people, but that is NOT the number of people in which we can maintain active friendships/personal relationships. It suggests that we can know of around 150 people, and how they relate to one another.
all this to say that in my eyes, social media has been built in such a way that it’s not worth the effort of making it psychologically inert.
robert235@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Don’t buy into likes and followers. Don’t make it your primary source for information and entertainment.
match@pawb.social 1 year ago
If you’re having a bad time, leave
scarabic@lemmy.world 1 year ago
I would love to snap my fingers and be divested from Facebook but the sad thing is that it’s my only connection to some people, including elderly relatives who are out of reach physically and whom I can’t retrain to connect with me some other way. Either I can share pics of my kids with these extended family and get the occasional lye from them or there would be nothing.
BUT. Having made all those excuses for why I won’t delete, I did decide that this app shouldn’t have the ability to beep at me and insert itself into my day. I moved it to the very last page on my phone and turned off all notification capability. Now I look at it when I choose to. It’s still as bad as ever. It showers me with content from a few random people despite me 30-day muting them over and over, and almost never updates me on other people I care about more.
But it no longer has me on a leash.
LucidDreamer@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Don’t subscribe to someone who’s trying to sell you something they didn’t make.
froghorse@lemm.ee 1 year ago
That sounds a lot like don’t buy any secondhand ideas.
DebatableRaccoon@lemmy.ca 1 year ago
No people. Maybe the few you really, really, really like.
WidowsFavoriteSon@lemmy.world 1 year ago
Don’t.
infinitevalence@discuss.online 1 year ago
Seconded! Don’t use for profit commercial social media at all.
Prettyblackroses@lemmy.world 1 year ago
exactly