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That happens a lot. Read about cancel culture. Or people shunned by their relatives due to religious beliefs. Also happens to people who are LGBT+. I'd say it's a regular thing in western culture, too.
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Submitted 4 weeks ago by DuckWrangler9000@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 4 weeks ago
dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
yeah, was going to say - being trans did get me shunned, lol
(not that being trans is a bad thing, I can’t help it and I’m not harming anyone)
hendrik@palaver.p3x.de 4 weeks ago
I'm sorry for the being shunned part. I mean it's no surprise to me that some people know about this and some don't. That's kind of the point of telling people they're privileged and hence don't know other people's struggles. But once you're not 100% mainstream and live your life exactly like all the other people, you'll start to notice.
JusticeForPorygon@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Best part is when those same people that shun you for being different turn around and say shit like “Politics shouldn’t pick your friends.”
gibmiser@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
I have a much simpler explanation. It’s because the united states is twenty six times bigger than japan.
In the United States, you can literally fuck off to the other side of the continent if if you piss off the people where you live. If your neighbors can remember you and hold a grudge, then they can ostracize you. In Japan, the cities are close enough to each other that there will be professional connections all over the place and you will not be able to escape your reputation.
JackGreenEarth@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
Have you heard of ‘cancelling’? It seems a pretty similar concept. Either way, I’m not sure we should shun people for expressing their honest opinions, that will just make them hide their opinions. We should instead try to respectfully convince them otherwise.
swordgeek@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
That is probably true up to a point - but there is also a point where some ‘honest opinions’ shouldn’t be tolerated or debated. The Nazis marching through Columbus two days ago don’t need to be respectfully convinced, they need to be put down however possible.
Sanctus@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
That concept doesnt exist so that the affluent and powerful can leverage their positions to get whatever they want whenever they want. If they had to worry about taboos, or being ostracized, they couldn’t get everything they wanted. So we’ve been conditioned a shameless society.
Sanctus@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
America’s position on this is those pictures of Henry VIII that show him as a strapping virile man, at a time when he had a leg wound that smelled rotten and would never heal, and was so obese he needed the throne extended. Thats our outlook on shame. Theres nothing to shame here, we are the bestest best and always will be. Problems? What societal problems? My chef just informed me the food is ready I must go.
slazer2au@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Because money can buy your way out of a lot of problems.
Those without money are more like to get 20 year to lifetime sentences.
lolola@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
Perhaps a better question is why aren’t more people shunned. There are some good answers already, but I’ll throw in another reason that seems to come up sometimes.
The US is highly polarized on a lot of issues. If one can frame their shunning as one of those wedge issues, they can probably get enough people to rally around them that they escape accountability.
“I’m being deplatformed because of racism against white people!”
“We have freedom of speech in this country, so if you take everything in the Constitution absolutely literally like I do, it’s obvious I should be able to spew whatever bullshit I want. You don’t hate the Constitution and the founding fathers, do you?”
jeffw@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Confirmation bias is a hell of a drug, huh?
Jeffrey Epstein Harvey Weinstein Charles Manson
dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 weeks ago
don’t forget Bill O’Reilly
neanderthal@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Don’t forget R Kelly
Mandy@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
Back in the “good” ol days we had exile.
Bring back exile.captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 weeks ago
You mean like how our cults work?
swordgeek@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
It’s not something you do, it’s something that society is. Japan has a long cultural history of a few things that are absolutely foreign to Western culture (not just the USA, but Canada, Great Britain, Australia, most of western Europe, etc.)
Even in a high-stakes game of consumer-capitalism, Japan has a sense of ethics that just isn’t present elsewhere. A CEO might pull the same shady shit in Japan as they would in the US, but if they’re caught, they still mostly take responsibility - resigning in disgrace, rather than “resigning” to another company with a fat bonus, which is what we see elsewhere. I mean, three years ago McDonalds actually made news for clawing back a $105M severance package from their disgraced ex-CEO, who was having an affair with several of his employees. The fact of the matter is that he initially got the package, no matter what he did.
Likewise, there is an expectation of acceptable behaviour in Japan. There are all sorts of circumstances where a blind eye is turned, but they’re oddly strict - and sketchy behaviour outside of that is considered reprehensible.
So can we? Maybe in theory, but we’d have to revamp our culture - and in a direction opposite to the trajectory it’s currently on.
fluxion@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
Because we are largely ignorant and easily manipulated by news and social media and there are zero policies in place to address that in any way whatsoever.
People can hear endless disgusting things about someone like Gaetz and a hand-wavy “fake news!” is all it takes for them to ignore all common sense.
It’s a disease, it’s terminal, and we have no cure in sight. Don’t be like us. Information warfare is real, it’s effective, and it does require very serious conversations about what is “free speech” is vs. blatant dishonest manipulation of the public.
We’re not the first nation, nor will we be the last to have our system poisoned and irreparably destroyed endless assaultd
spankmonkey@lemmy.world 4 weeks ago
An important thing to know is that all cultures have practices that involve shunning people, and that they are all applied to people who did nothing wrong and are not applied to people with enough connections or wealth. Some bad things that are almost universally punished but with differences in severity are being pregnant out of wedlock, not being a member of the dominant religion, being LGBTQ+, and speaking against other cultural norms. Exactly who is shunned does vary, but Japan’s is also pretty terribly implemented.
Almost everywhere the main coubter to shunning is connections and/or wealth. Royalty, high level politicians, people like Epstein, etc. are able to get away with stuff until they piss off the wrong people and lose their connections. Some may even make it to their graves without ever being punished.
The main people that suffer from being ostracized in practice are oppressed minorities. It is never fairly applied, even if some places do a slightly better job of mostly targeting the people who deserve it.
Canadian_Cabinet@lemmy.ca 4 weeks ago
This isn’t really adding anything, but in Spain we have the word guiri which is like Mexico’s gringo but guiri is like 100% negative unlike gringo. It specifically refers to British tourists because they have a bad habit of acting up while on vacation, but it could be used to refer to any tourist/foreigner
Sundial@lemm.ee 4 weeks ago
They are shunned by a lot of people. Where do you think all the online hate comes from? Americans have just been so radicalized that a good chunk of them don’t care anymore. It’s not a majority, but enough to make a difference in politics. As seen by the elections that just took place.