hendrik
@hendrik@palaver.p3x.de
- Comment on What's up with lemmit.online? 11 hours ago:
Small update: I didn't get any reaction (so far). The post in their about community has zero votes or interactions. I've then escalated things and filed a bug report on the bot's project page. Also with no reply in the last 3 days. So I guess either they're busy with other stuff and their "bridge" bot is practically unsupervised... Or they don't care... So I'd say your gut feeling was correct. I'll give them some more time, 9 or 3 days isn't a lot for a hobby side-project... But I think at some point, Fediverse admins might want to think about de-federating and effectively shunning them, if it turns out that instance is effectively unmoderated and pulls in problematic content, and isn't even liked by a good part of the user base here.
Kind of a bummer to be honest.
- Comment on How do I stop laughing at stupid shit all the time 4 days ago:
Wear a mask. Or a helmet.
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 6 days ago:
Sure. I think being honest is a solid choice, generally speaking. There is some etiquette. If you're way too direct, you might be perceived as a creep. But you certainly have to do something, or it won't lead anywhere.
Telling people you want to stay in contact, or you think they're attractive, or you like their outfit, or whatever people do for flirting seems to be alright. Whatever floats your boat. I think the one important thing is to read the room. See if they're comfortable. And if they enjoy talking to you, or if you've just cornered them and are monologuing. Most (not all) people can do that. And I'd say as long as everyone is comfortable, it's the right thing. I mean you have to send some signals for them to know what's up with you. So yeah, that kind of directness might be helpful. And after that, spending time together (and not just in a larger group) is a signal, too, in my opinion.
I don't think there is any general, correct way of doing it. It just depends on the situation, on who you are, and especially what the other person likes.
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 6 days ago:
I don't know why everyone else here says "No." Maybe it's down to preference. I usually like people not just for their outer appearance, but for their intelligence, wits, humor, similar perspective on life... And it just takes time to talk about all of that. So I rather keep it down with being suggestive and just let things play out. Took me a long time. But everyone is different.
I'm not sure if I have a good definition of flirting. I'm more a problem-oriented person. I do whatever gets the job done. If I want to meet someone again, I just tell them that. And I usually don't have any ulterior motives. And I'm currently not in the dating game, so I'm pretty much relaxed on parties and social events in that regard.
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 6 days ago:
I'd say yes. That'd be a clear sign. And bordering on what I'd call flirting. If you say "Hey, I really enjoyed that conversation, let's meet for a coffee some day, how can I text you?"
It'd be the wrong kind of flirting for a one-night-stand. But in my opinion a very good way to convey the right thing.
- Comment on How important is flirting within the dating scene? 6 days ago:
Isn't flirting the accepted way of signaling to another person, that you're interested in them in a certain way? I mean I talk to lots of different people of different genders in my life. And I'm mostly very nice to people and find interesting topics to talk about. But how are they supposed to find out if it's just a nice conversation, or if I want to meet them again, or if I want to go on a date with them?
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Ah, yeah I forgot about watches and jewelry. Guess you can buy a lot of them and they won't take up that much space. I'd stick with one or two of them, though. Make it a very nice one you really like and wear it all the time. IMO it doesn't really help if you get 20 half-nice watches and keep 19 of them in one of your multiple wardrobes, that's just hoarding suff... Same applies to shoes, albeit you might be allowed to get a few more pairs of them. But what do I know...
- Comment on [deleted] 6 days ago:
Though there has to be more to this story. Chartering an entire private jet costs like a few thousand to 15,000 dollars for an hour. You can do this twice a week on that budget. Or buy lots of fancy food, electronic gadgets and gucci bags, maybe even cars. But don't you quickly run out of space to put them? So how would someone spend 100k?
- Comment on Is this person an art thief? 1 week ago:
Maybe Google reverse image search helps?
- Comment on Is there an instance for Stoics/Stoicism? 1 week ago:
Don't think so. But we usually use communities for different topics:
- Comment on What determines whether people are likely to purposely (but mistakenly) put two words together (without a space)? 1 week ago:
Nice, thanks. Will do.
- Comment on What determines whether people are likely to purposely (but mistakenly) put two words together (without a space)? 1 week ago:
Yes. Surely it has to be easier for me (who grew up learning a germanic language,) to learn another one of them. I occasionally like to watch these Youtube videos on why for example English has a handful of ways to pronounce "ough". I still think the French are crazy people for writing l'eau and pronouncing it "oh", when it's literally the one vowel missing in that word. Or coming up with insane concepts like a silent letter "x" in the plural words... But you're right. I remember there was almost always some rule to it.
- Comment on What determines whether people are likely to purposely (but mistakenly) put two words together (without a space)? 1 week ago:
Thanks for the tips. I'll try to remember some of that. And yes, English is dumb. But also kind of nice. I think it's comparatively easy to learn. At least that's what I took from my own experience with learning English in school and then a few years later - French. And that's just loads of exceptions to each and every rule, almost all verbs are irregular, half the letters are silent for some reason... But I guess English does that, too. You can't really tell how to pronounce something just by reading the letters. Point is, I kind of enjoyed learning English. At least after overcoming the initial hurdles. And I'm exaggerating. We had a nice French teacher, and I wish I hadn't lost most of it after school, due to lack of exposure... And I think learning languages is fun, as you're bound to learn something about different cultures as well, and it might open doors to interesting places.
- Comment on What determines whether people are likely to purposely (but mistakenly) put two words together (without a space)? 1 week ago:
Isn't written language just an arbitrary agreement? I don't see much logic in a lot of aspects of the English language. I just memorize it. And as a German, I kind of struggle with these words, as we have *a lot* of compound words in our language. And I don't really see any reason to write "livingroom" as two words... I mean it's one room... And you tend to do it the other way around with other nouns... I also have no idea why. And then there's the occasional dash in between words...
- Comment on What's up with lemmit.online? 1 week ago:
Thanks for the nice conversation, btw. I've learned a few things. Yeah, and some things you said just reinforce what I've already read elsewhere. And I also think it's a shame that the entire field is more often that not connected with bad working conditions, and it's hard to change due to the very nature of it. Plus it's an extra shame that organized crime has ties. And they won't let go, no matter what. From what I've read it's even worse in other parts of the world. And that's kind of always the case with the internet, since it spans across the globe.
But sure, I wholeheartedly agree. It's an entirely different story whether you rip off some faceless large (and rich) company. Or do the very same thing to an amateur, or your neighbour. I think that's not controversial. I also know lots of people who are less concerned with pirating like Hollywood movies or AAA games, but they won't do the same to an indie game developer or something like that. But it requires some amount of thinking and awareness...
And circling back to the topic at hand... Does anyone know the admin of that instance, or operator of the bot? Maybe they're just oblivious to the fact, yet willing to learn? We could request the amateur communities to be removed from the bot. If someone compiles a list. Or just ask them whether they're willing to do it, before investing the effort. I'm not sure if I'm the right person for that, since I have close to no knowledge about the details. And I'm still not convinced of the importance of that specific instance, since all the posts there have zero engagement and upvotes, and it seems to me like people already voted with their feet.
- Comment on What's up with lemmit.online? 1 week ago:
I'm not sure whether it's futile. I mean societal change happens. And it's a big step forwards that we have these platforms where independant creators get 80% revenue of a monthly subscription. A few years ago, stuff was just pirated, even on the big regular sites. Plus there wasn't a good way to do it directly. You had to get into the porn industry and get paid for some DVD production. And as far as I understand, the porn industry is super problematic. So I'd say we're making progress. But educating people... Idk, it's always hard. Maybe futile, yeah. This isn't my fight. I've tried lecturing people on other things and I found it's almost impossible to change the world. At least on a bigger scale. And if you're involved yourself, progress always feels painfully slow. I don't know what to make of this. I still refuse to resign with some topic.
- Comment on What's up with lemmit.online? 1 week ago:
Agreed. I mean I don't think the general public is even concerned with that. For 99% of people, NSFW is visiting a porn streaming site, and they get whatever they're interested in. And for free. That's the expectation.
I think the BBC did a good documentary on NSFW creators a few years back. I can't remember the name. But what they depicted wasn't success stories. It was one gay couple who were very successful, with a very nice fanbase... But all the other people they showed didn't get rich or anything especially after the 20% cut and taxes. Seemed like really hard work, sometimes with severe downsides (sometimes not). And some of them struggled and the text card at the end said they quit after filming of the documentary. I might misremember the details. But at least that depiction of OnlyFans seemed more honest to me.
I've also seen a bit of what happens on Reddit. But all I've seen is using that platform to advertise for a paid account on a different platform. Seems to me it's often one or two pictures and an onlyfans link somewhere. So I'd say it's more advertising material than proper content on Reddit. At least if it's the creators themselves. Other people just steal arbitrary content and repost that somewhere. The majority doesn't seem to care for copyright too much. At least that's what I've seen on the more popular subs. But as I said, I've just had a glimpse at it, I might be wrong.
- Comment on What's up with lemmit.online? 1 week ago:
Well, I can't see anyone disagreeing for the last 7h... But sure, it's likely going to happen. Have a nice day. Thanks for the info.
- Comment on What's up with lemmit.online? 1 week ago:
Is there an OnlyFans bridge, or what are we talking about?
- Comment on Is it against the rules of most sites to expose a troll by mentioning an alias they use, even though it's been proven that said troll lies about everything about themselves? 1 week ago:
Thanks for the clarification. Yeah, I sometimes can't differentiate between our drama here, and some 8 year olds. I'm not sure. I'd say things like power abuse, or harassing or attacking other users counts as bad. The Musk example is just them proving to be an idiot. But idiots aren't uncommon here... I dunno. Thanks for raising awareness. I don't think it's that bad but I'm not reading through it all at this point.
Concerning your initial question (and now that I know a bit more detail)... I think it'd still be wrong to doxx them. Like publish their real name. But if they have an alt account, and you see them using that to do bad things... I'd say it's okay to call them out on that. Mainly since they're a high profile person here, wield power in one of the largest communities. So they have to abide by higher standards. But you can't leak their IP address or real name or something for just being a liar, that's just too much and a different level.
- Comment on Is it against the rules of most sites to expose a troll by mentioning an alias they use, even though it's been proven that said troll lies about everything about themselves? 1 week ago:
Depends. Do you like vigilantism? Then go ahead. If not, try reporting it to the moderators first.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 week ago:
How about you give them the reference number on the letter, a sentence "I do not own that car any more." And gently point them at the fact that the person the license plate is registered to might own the car? But I'd say this is fishy. How would they address the letter to you unless the license plate is registered to your name and address? Certainly not by the car's color or model...
- Comment on This Company Got a Copyright for an Image Made Entirely With AI. Here's How 1 week ago:
Uh, I'm not sure. It got the stamp of copyright protection. But I'm not sure if that's enough to actually make it copyright protected. I believe we'd need a lawsuit and court ruling to make sure.
- Comment on If I’m mostly attracted to men, is it «wrong» to consider myself pan? 1 week ago:
By the way, "queer" is an umbrella term. It is correct, since it means someone isn't heterosexual. Or cisgender. So gender identity is mixed in as well, next to sexual orientation. But it doesn't really say anything specific. Could be a gay person, or a straight person, or a bisexual person or even someone who has multiple partners or is asexual. So for example if someone wants to know what kind of people somebody else is into, it's kind of a useless description. Could be anything. Or nothing.
- Comment on How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America compared to Germany? 1 week ago:
Same, same. I don't think you can compare the two, unless you've experienced it yourself. I mean it's gotten worse here. But still, it seems to be entirely different levels. I can still get appointments. People don't just die from diabetes like they used to in the USA. We can just call an ambulance and aomeone will treat your broken arm. It'll work just fine without private insurance. And you don't even need a lawyer to challenge the hospital bill. You can bear a child without being in debt for the rest of your life... There are issues. And we're not as good as some neighboring contries. But I don't think the situation compares to what I read from across the ocean.
- Comment on How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America compared to Germany? 1 week ago:
I think it's a general issue with our healthcare system. And the lack of doctors and hospitals is more pronounced in rural areas. But basically the same thing applies in the city. And not just for mental therapy. You often also get to wait for a MRT, if there's something wrong with your foot... I'm not an expert on this. But I guess we could do way better. And I hear that a lot, that someone had to wait for therapy for relatively normal physical issues. And similar things apply to related professions. One home for the elderly next door, just closed a year ago. Not because we don't have elderly people anymore or anything, there is quite some demand. But they just didn't have enough employees to do the work.
- Comment on How prevalent is the topic of mental health in America compared to Germany? 1 week ago:
I'm from Germany, too. But judging by what comes across the ocean via the internet... A lot of Americans seem to talk about their anxiety, depression and how it affects them...
- Comment on What are the possible ways a computer can kill you? 2 weeks ago:
Some more: Getting shot at after committing crime or other online activities. Or a sepsis from cutting yourself with the old, dusty, yet sharp metal parts.
- Comment on What is your methodology behind note taking and other research related services you host? 2 weeks ago:
I've fooled around with silverbullet.md and that is a powerful tool. But it has a lot of riugh edges. For example authentication. I might need to switch to something which is working on mobile and maybe a bit more easy to use.
Paperless-ngx seems to work fine on mysetup. No issues so far.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 weeks ago:
To be fair, the US doesn't really have a culture in anything useful. So everything needs to be learned from scratch anyways. Take for example the Fridays for Future. I mean make of this what you will. But even a 15 year old Greta Thunberg and their schoolkid-followers can have an impact on the world. But I can't imagine anything like that becoming reality in the US. Over there, even the adults struggle with very basic things like protecting their schoolkids from getting shot at. So I think every positive societal change will take an immense effort and a big change in everything. Maybe even a revolution. Idk, but I've kind of become disheartened as you can probably tell.