hendrik

@hendrik@palaver.p3x.de

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is my girlfriend gaslighting me?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  Yeah, sometimes perceived reality and the real reality are two things. And there are places where you can't walk on the streets as a woman. I'm not sure if it's about fear in your case. Or just because you broke your promise but there isn't any fear involved.

  Anyways, in relationships general advice is to talk to each other. Ask her what's bothering her. Maybe it's a pretend reason and there is something deeper that's bothering her. Maybe this was the reason. Maybe she just had a bad day.

  Unless it happens regularly or there are other factors to it, I wouldn't necessarily attribute it to malice or be a manipulation strategy...

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Is my girlfriend gaslighting me?⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago⁩:

  I don't think it's gaslighting. Gaslighting is manipulating someone into questioning their perception of reality. This is being angry at someone.

  I can't really relate. Is it really that dangerous where you live? We probably live in different countries but I don't have CCTV in the residential area where I live. And usually in the summer, it's still bright enough at 10pm an people are still around and it's safe enough for women to walk home alone. At least in most places.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨what's your experience washing sneakers in the washing machine?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago⁩:

  I damaged a few insoles, so maybe take care of them separatly.

  I think general advice is to remove insoles and shoelaces. Choose a program that keeps spinning to a minimum. And put something else in so they don't spin around like crazy. And dry them slowly, stuffed with old newspapers.

  I occasionally wash them. I also put in a few dirty rags or something. Seems fine, but I haven't done it frequently.