dandelion
@dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- Comment on Do you also feel cringe about people making such a big deal about ethnicity? 4 hours ago:
Even if a majority if indigenous folks didn’t mind the label, it’s still a label born of ignorance. It’s not like it becomes just OK because the surviving oppressed minority incorrectly labelled that way by the colonists are OK with it.
- Comment on Do you also feel cringe about people making such a big deal about ethnicity? 4 hours ago:
yeah, I’m not really doubting OP’s intentions, I’m just trying to clue them in to how others might see their post so they aren’t surprised if it gets flagged
I think race issues were apparent to me as a young child, but it took the form of feeling insecure and unsure how to interact with racial minority peers of mine in school and so on, not wanting to make them feel uncomfortable but feeling fragile around them and thus accidentally introducing stigma. It was an awful feeling, and something that just didn’t happen with other students.
- Comment on Anon sees a happy couple 4 hours ago:
I think there is so much you can do for how you look - skin care, hydration, diet, exercise, etc. can radically change the way a person looks - but I tend to agree that personality matters much more. My point is that most people seem to get lost trying to make themselves physically attractive, and incel culture like looksmaxxing seem to fall into that logic as well, but they miss that the bar is lower than they expect. And of course, your point is missed by this community as well - that looks are even less important overall than how you hold yourself and interact, etc. - the mental stuff is the most important. Luckily good diet, hydration, and exercise help with that too!
- Comment on I accidentally recreated Daria from the episode „Road Worrier“ in Stardew Valley 9 hours ago:
oops
- Comment on Anon sees a happy couple 10 hours ago:
also it’s probably more important to not be too unattractive - people are focusing too much on the ceiling but they need to focus on the floor
- Comment on Do you also feel cringe about people making such a big deal about ethnicity? 10 hours ago:
Just a warning, your question might be interpreted as violating rule 5:
Rule 5- No baiting or sealioning or promoting an agenda.
That said, I don’t see why cringing about racism is controversial, if anything it’s the majority view that racism is bad.
If you are genuinely interested in learning about where racism comes from, feel free to read: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Racism
Aristotle for example argued that non-Greek slaves innately lacked a will and thus depended on their Greek masters as rulers the way children depend on their parents (he made similar arguments justifying the supremacy of men over women). These views have a long history, and it’s worth learning about. You might start with the culture you are in (not sure if you’re from the U.S. or not) and read a few academic primers about race and the history of race in your culture.
You might also wonder what race is, and for philosophical questions about race I would start here: plato.stanford.edu/entries/race/
- Comment on Mickey 17 is an absurdist, anti-capitalist, Trump-mocking masterpiece – review 5 days ago:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mickey_17
- first released at a Berlin film festival yesterday (Feb 15, 2025)
- slated to release in South Korea on Feb. 28th
- slated to release in the U.S. on March 7th
- Comment on Childhood in the 80s 1 month ago:
I can smell this meme, and I don’t like it 🤢
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 1 month ago:
can’t wait for congress to ban whole milk because it has trans fats
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 1 month ago:
you know whatever lubricants they put on the drill-bit is not safe for consumption, that hotdog is contaminated now
- Comment on Do you want me to heat that up in the "Michael Wave"? 1 month ago:
just get it out of my sight
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 1 month ago:
omg 🥵
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 1 month ago:
men, is it gay to suck milk through a hotdog hole?
- Comment on I never realized this 1 month ago:
huh, that sounds like a rationalization, a way to find a problem with a critique that sounds more defensible or reasonable than defending patriarchy
- Comment on I never realized this 1 month ago:
my instance doesn’t show downvotes, so all I see is that you have lots of upvotes 😊
I suspect downvotes would come from people who disagree that marriage is patriarchal, tbh - I think a lot of people don’t really understand patriarchy or feminism, so they might thing you are being hyperbolic, like claiming marriage is akin to beating your wife or something.
Or they could just be responding merely to the language and not even the content, i.e. by talking about patriarchy at all or posing it in social terms they might think you have been duped by woke propaganda.
- Comment on I never realized this 1 month ago:
yes, though I think a naming system like this isn’t an individual act as much as occurs on the level of social norms and rules; a single individual won’t introduce a competing matrilineal naming system just by convincing her children into it…
Either way, I somewhat agree with the criticism of the joke that the last name coming from a patrilineal origin isn’t a gotcha, though maybe that’s actually the point of the meme since Homelander is the one posing it as a gotcha (and he’s a villain, so it would make sense to symbolize a misogynist with him). The name would still be inherited in a matrilineal way even if it started as a patrilineal name further up the chain.
I guess there is a question of whether the name’s origin matters at all when we are concerned with the patriarchial nature of a practice where women lose their family names and men don’t. That practice being disrupted is what matters, not what the actual name is.
- Comment on Beautiful stories like this just make you smile 1 month ago:
sounds like the shitposting is working to me
- Comment on I never realized this 1 month ago:
it is a pain in the ass, a burden that is put on the woman
- Comment on I never realized this 1 month ago:
is that an unpopular opinion, or just a well-known fact?
- Comment on I never realized this 1 month ago:
I assume they did mean “maiden name”, how else does the joke make sense? The mom’s maiden name is maternal grandfather’s last name …
- Comment on I never realized this 1 month ago:
I think the point of the joke might be more that an attempt to start a matrilineal naming scheme is foiled somewhat from the fact that the maiden name of the mother is derived from her father, i.e. you can’t escape that the last names all come from patrilineal sources for generations.
- Comment on I don't need you. I don't need any of you. I just need my fridge cozy. 1 month ago:
love that floral pattern!
- Comment on Hurry 1 month ago:
- Comment on Interesting analogy 2 months ago:
right, but since representing Jewish people as lizards is an anti-Semitic trope, representing Zionists as lizards is an obvious blunder if it wasn’t an intentionally trying to be anti-Semitic
- Comment on Interesting analogy 2 months ago:
My point is that your baseline for legitimacy and moral acceptance is based on the attitudes taken by the colonizers, then and now. It’s only seems like a defensible position because the “ex”-colonizers (the U.S. hasn’t been decolonized, has it?) broadly agree with your position, but Zionism is a clear contradiction.
- Comment on Interesting analogy 2 months ago:
colonialism was the norm and in no way internationally frowned upon
When you mention colonialism wasn’t frowned upon, who were the people that did not frown upon it then?
- Comment on Interesting analogy 2 months ago:
yes exactly - don’t use an anti-Semitic trope when criticizing Zionism, lest you be confused for an anti-Semite; this weakens the meme significantly and for no good reason (other than maybe to pick up support from conspiracy nuts and right-wingers by using a dog-whistle while still being palatable to people who don’t see the dog-whistle)
- Comment on how badly could a pelican fuck me up in a fight? 2 months ago:
lol, this is just a great sentence is a great post
- Comment on Is non-sexual masochism a thing? 2 months ago:
yesss
- Comment on Why does it seem most people, mainly conservatives, against Trans people? Unless I am wrong I never heard of one shooting up a school church or whatever. The ones I have met have been pretty cool. 2 months ago:
yeah, was going to say - there have been trans mass shooters, lol
Another notable case:
en.wikipedia.org/…/Colorado_Springs_nightclub_sho…
Aldrich’s attorneys have said in court documents that their client identifies as non-binary and uses they/them pronouns, preferring to be addressed as Mx. Aldrich. Neighbors allege Aldrich to have made hateful comments towards the LGBT community in the past, including frequent usage of homophobic slurs. Aldrich never mentioned being non-binary prior to the shooting and was referred to with masculine pronouns by family members. Police testified they found rainbow-colored shooting targets in Aldrich’s home. Experts in online extremism have voiced the possibility that Aldrich’s proclaimed self-identification could be disingenuous, while the Center for Countering Digital Hate acknowledges the suspect’s past actions and impact on the LGBT community.
I am personally inclined to agree that the self-identification is likely disingenuous, a stunt for the courtroom.
