dandelion
@dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone
- Comment on Childhood in the 80s 1 week ago:
I can smell this meme, and I don’t like it 🤢
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 2 weeks ago:
can’t wait for congress to ban whole milk because it has trans fats
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 2 weeks ago:
you know whatever lubricants they put on the drill-bit is not safe for consumption, that hotdog is contaminated now
- Comment on Do you want me to heat that up in the "Michael Wave"? 2 weeks ago:
just get it out of my sight
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 2 weeks ago:
omg 🥵
- Comment on Just sucking some milk out of the strawsage 2 weeks ago:
men, is it gay to suck milk through a hotdog hole?
- Comment on I never realized this 2 weeks ago:
huh, that sounds like a rationalization, a way to find a problem with a critique that sounds more defensible or reasonable than defending patriarchy
- Comment on I never realized this 2 weeks ago:
my instance doesn’t show downvotes, so all I see is that you have lots of upvotes 😊
I suspect downvotes would come from people who disagree that marriage is patriarchal, tbh - I think a lot of people don’t really understand patriarchy or feminism, so they might thing you are being hyperbolic, like claiming marriage is akin to beating your wife or something.
Or they could just be responding merely to the language and not even the content, i.e. by talking about patriarchy at all or posing it in social terms they might think you have been duped by woke propaganda.
- Comment on I never realized this 2 weeks ago:
yes, though I think a naming system like this isn’t an individual act as much as occurs on the level of social norms and rules; a single individual won’t introduce a competing matrilineal naming system just by convincing her children into it…
Either way, I somewhat agree with the criticism of the joke that the last name coming from a patrilineal origin isn’t a gotcha, though maybe that’s actually the point of the meme since Homelander is the one posing it as a gotcha (and he’s a villain, so it would make sense to symbolize a misogynist with him). The name would still be inherited in a matrilineal way even if it started as a patrilineal name further up the chain.
I guess there is a question of whether the name’s origin matters at all when we are concerned with the patriarchial nature of a practice where women lose their family names and men don’t. That practice being disrupted is what matters, not what the actual name is.
- Comment on Beautiful stories like this just make you smile 2 weeks ago:
sounds like the shitposting is working to me
- Comment on I never realized this 2 weeks ago:
it is a pain in the ass, a burden that is put on the woman
- Comment on I never realized this 2 weeks ago:
is that an unpopular opinion, or just a well-known fact?
- Comment on I never realized this 2 weeks ago:
I assume they did mean “maiden name”, how else does the joke make sense? The mom’s maiden name is maternal grandfather’s last name …
- Comment on I never realized this 2 weeks ago:
I think the point of the joke might be more that an attempt to start a matrilineal naming scheme is foiled somewhat from the fact that the maiden name of the mother is derived from her father, i.e. you can’t escape that the last names all come from patrilineal sources for generations.
- Comment on I don't need you. I don't need any of you. I just need my fridge cozy. 4 weeks ago:
love that floral pattern!
- Comment on Hurry 4 weeks ago:
- Comment on Interesting analogy 5 weeks ago:
right, but since representing Jewish people as lizards is an anti-Semitic trope, representing Zionists as lizards is an obvious blunder if it wasn’t an intentionally trying to be anti-Semitic
- Comment on Interesting analogy 5 weeks ago:
My point is that your baseline for legitimacy and moral acceptance is based on the attitudes taken by the colonizers, then and now. It’s only seems like a defensible position because the “ex”-colonizers (the U.S. hasn’t been decolonized, has it?) broadly agree with your position, but Zionism is a clear contradiction.
- Comment on Interesting analogy 5 weeks ago:
colonialism was the norm and in no way internationally frowned upon
When you mention colonialism wasn’t frowned upon, who were the people that did not frown upon it then?
- Comment on Interesting analogy 5 weeks ago:
yes exactly - don’t use an anti-Semitic trope when criticizing Zionism, lest you be confused for an anti-Semite; this weakens the meme significantly and for no good reason (other than maybe to pick up support from conspiracy nuts and right-wingers by using a dog-whistle while still being palatable to people who don’t see the dog-whistle)
- Comment on how badly could a pelican fuck me up in a fight? 5 weeks ago:
lol, this is just a great sentence is a great post
- Comment on Is non-sexual masochism a thing? 1 month ago:
yesss
- Comment on Why does it seem most people, mainly conservatives, against Trans people? Unless I am wrong I never heard of one shooting up a school church or whatever. The ones I have met have been pretty cool. 1 month ago:
yeah, was going to say - there have been trans mass shooters, lol
Another notable case:
en.wikipedia.org/…/Colorado_Springs_nightclub_sho…
Aldrich’s attorneys have said in court documents that their client identifies as non-binary and uses they/them pronouns, preferring to be addressed as Mx. Aldrich. Neighbors allege Aldrich to have made hateful comments towards the LGBT community in the past, including frequent usage of homophobic slurs. Aldrich never mentioned being non-binary prior to the shooting and was referred to with masculine pronouns by family members. Police testified they found rainbow-colored shooting targets in Aldrich’s home. Experts in online extremism have voiced the possibility that Aldrich’s proclaimed self-identification could be disingenuous, while the Center for Countering Digital Hate acknowledges the suspect’s past actions and impact on the LGBT community.
I am personally inclined to agree that the self-identification is likely disingenuous, a stunt for the courtroom.
- Comment on Why do the majority of women still take their partner's last name? 2 months ago:
I took my partner’s last name because I like their family more than mine, and I liked the idea of no longer being associated with my family.
But I think most people just want to do what is normal or expected of them, so I would imagine that is why most women change their name. Not doing so would go against the grain, putting them in awkward situations where they have to explain they didn’t take the last name.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
Since I transitioned I’ve been thinking a lot about how little I knew about trans people until I realized I was one and took seriously educating myself.
It makes me feel ashamed because of how little I understand so many other oppressed groups, and how little true empathy I have. Even if on the surface I have respect for people and consider myself an “ally” to various groups, I feel I should do more than just signal respect and support. Maybe it’s an unrealistically high bar, but my conscience certainly thinks I need to do more to empathize with and better understand other groups.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
It’s OK, being closeted was worse. :-)
I didn’t realize having the wrong sex hormones in your body can mess up your mind - I was struggling with depression, anxiety, suicidal ideation, etc. for decades that were entirely unnecessary. A socially harder life with the right sex hormones is still much better than a closeted life with the wrong hormones. It was a hard lesson to learn, though.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
especially when they’re also privileged and unaware of what it’s like to be a minority - I don’t really know how to cross that divide, though.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
I accept at this point that everyone is a hypocrite, including myself. I still tend to think some people are worse hypocrites than others, lol
- Comment on how did you master splits (for flexibility)? 2 months ago:
old.reddit.com/…/dont_know_where_to_start_click_h…
Splits
This splits routine was created for the 90-day challenge and will give you quick results by stretching every day.
If you just want to take it a bit slower, here’s a follow-along video for every other day.
Hit a plateau in your splits training? Try these brutal but effective loaded progressions. Here and here. Oh, and here.
- Comment on [deleted] 2 months ago:
agreed, the title should be edited
