Comment on These dames wanting inclusivity

• GrammarPolice@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  Idgaf if dude can be gendered. I use dude every time in my speech. I sometimes even use “bro” towards women. People need to get over themselves and stop assuming negative intent at everything

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  • nicknonya@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Idgaf if dude can be gendered

    good for you, some people really don’t want to be called that.
    part of respecting someone’s identity is respecting the terms which they want and don’t want to be called by.
    getting them wrong doesn’t make you an asshole, getting them wrong and not caring does.

    People need to get over themselves

    in this context this is identical to Conservative “the new generation is too sensitive!!!” drivel.

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    • GrammarPolice@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

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      • Seleni@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        ‘Ultra-woke garbage’ like what, precisely?

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  • echolalia@lemmy.ml ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Do you fuck dudes?

    I don’t, I’m married

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  • swab148@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    My niece calls her mom “bruh”

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    • GrammarPolice@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I sometimes do that to my mom too

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    • MutilationWave@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      Same with my niece and nephews. They call everyone bruh.

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  • kipo@lemm.ee ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    Are you okay having the tables flipped and someone calling you “sis”?

    Using male language as the default may not bother you and you may have no ill intent with it, but it does have a history tied to it. A history where women were seen as less than and didn’t have equal rights. Western society still uses male language slang regardless of gender (hey guys, dude, bro, bruh) and it all stems from a history of a patriarchal society. Every time we say, “hey guys” to refer to a mixed-gender group, we perpetuate patriarchy, whether we intended to or not.

    Legally and overall culturally, women are still seen as less than and we still don’t have equal rights (e.g. divorce and abortion law).

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    • FelixCress@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      women are still seen as less than and we still don’t have equal rights (e.g. divorce

      Actually women have superior rights during divorce, in the western world anyway. Try to keep the children as a man during divorce.

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      • enbyecho@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

        Actually women have superior rights during divorce, in the western world anyway. Try to keep the children as a man during divorce.

        Found the incel. Please donate my prize money to any organization that supports passing the ERA.

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    • GrammarPolice@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

      I honestly don’t think i would be bothered if someone called me sis. I think it would be funny even.

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  • papalonian@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    I use “my guy” as a humorous precursor to the rest of my sentence regardless of whom I’m speaking to.

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• Aviandelight@mander.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

  You know I’ve said “dude” all my life and I still use it all the time in regards to everyone. If I saw that someone was genuinely offended at being called dude I wouldn’t use it again with that person, but now that I really think about it I don’t think I’ve ever heard the term in a derogatory way. Like ever. For me it’s always been a happy/inclusive word for addressing friends. My only worry for now is that saying it shows my age.

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  • 1609_kilometers@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨2⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

    If I saw that someone was genuinely offended at being called dude I wouldn’t use it again with that person

    then you’re golden, dude 🙂

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