Congrats! 30 years is amazing.
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JoMiran@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
Sometimes extreme low self-esteem can lead you to give up on “scoring” so you start talking to beautiful people with no hang ups. It’s not like you have a chance, right? Might as well enjoy their company, even if it’s just for friends. Suddenly you realize you have tons in common and you like their company. You hang out together every day. They are such a good friend. Then one day they say “hey”, look at you straight in the eyes, and kiss you.
We’ve been together for thirty years last August.
The_Picard_Maneuver@lemmy.world 1 month ago
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
Then one day they say “hey”, look at you straight in the eyes, and kiss you.
yeah one day…
JoMiran@lemmy.ml 1 month ago
It only works if the expectation is never gonna happen. Life is cruel.
nickwitha_k@lemmy.sdf.org 1 month ago
Also, it helps if you are pursuing a genuine friendship, not just trying to be a “friend” while secretly girlfriend-zoning them.
0ops@lemm.ee 1 month ago
Done
can@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Don’t forget to school out yourself it there. Interact.
thesporkeffect@lemmy.world 1 month ago
This is so, so dead on.
Slovene@feddit.nl 1 month ago
Congrats, grandpa!
SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Don’t seek a relationship. Seek a friendship and a relationship may bloom.
P4ulin_Kbana@lemmy.eco.br 1 month ago
Congratulations!
Nuke_the_whales@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I agree with this. I had this gorgeous friend that I never once tried making a move on our flirting with, cause she was way out of my league. We got to hanging out alone a lot and I would never do anything but just act like a normal, non horny person for once. All of a sudden she’s kissing me. Like wtf?! Good times.
kernelle@lemmy.world 1 month ago
That’s why I always tell people to stop ‘looking’, that’s just desperate and off-putting. Friendships will turn into relationships if its meant to be.
stebo02@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 month ago
these are all great stories but what if it doesn’t happen and you stay single for life
turtletracks@lemmy.zip 1 month ago
If that’s your worry, you never stopped “looking”
kernelle@lemmy.world 1 month ago
That’s the thing, it will work 100% guaranteed. As long as you’re open to new friendships. Will the first person fall in love with you? Probably not. The second? Also probably not. That’s the beauty of it, you’ll either have an SO or a ton of friends, and having a friend of the opposite gender is like wingman paradise.
DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 1 month ago
The story above happened because someone made a move.
kernelle@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Make the move! You’ll know and they’ll know when the moment is right, but don’t rush it!
meyotch@slrpnk.net 1 month ago
Tina Belcher is my spiritual guide on this issue. Nothing wrong with a little erotic friend-fiction becoming reality.