Older guy here. I have noticed that now when I look a beautiful young women I feel envy rather than lust. My thoughts go to wishing I was young again rather than wishing I could “tap dat ass” or whatever. Realizing that made kinda sad, NGL.
It’s not lile that. I have no regrets, it’s just that I am getting older. Shit hurts all the time or doesn’t work as well as it used to. I am tired and the weight of a lifetime of memories is starting to get heavy. I am the same guy I was at ~21. In thirty years you will be the same guy you are today, but younger people will look at you different. I skateboard, I surf, I snowboard, etc as I have for forty years, but now I am not a dude doing dude things, I am a curiosity or “an inspiration”. I can’t go to a concert or a club to enjoy myself as I always have because now I am the weird old guy in the club. Nevermind that I have been listening to “EDM” since the 80’s. It just sucks that I just can’t be me without it being weird.
As far as advice, you know what to do. Eat well (little to no proceased food, way less meat, more veggies, etc) exercise regularly, stay active, and drink lots of water. Also, play hard AND work hard for yourself.
I like the work Hard for yourself statement. As a 43 year old woman possibly dealing with a serious health issue (waiting on results) I wish I had worked harder for myself on prioritising my health over my work. Far too easy to put off dr appointments/dentist appontments/smears etc by rationalising that you can’t moss that meeting.
I see. I just feel a bit bad because I’ve spent the past few years living with my parents, without friends, stressing over university yet failing. And I’m really tempted to just say stuff it, move cities and actually live. My life has been so defficient in adventure. I just can’t help but think that university, careers, office jobs etc. can wait when the (biological) clock is ticking.
I highly doubt you’re the same person that you were at 21! Well, maybe you are, but I’m not sure that’s universal.
Even as someone approaching 30 I look back and nearly don’t recognize the person I used to be. Sure I have the continuity and experience, but the way I act and think has changed dramatically, and for the better.
Time brings wisdom and I’d guess you’ve got more wisdom than I
Engage with people, even if it’s awkward or you have something more fun and that takes less effort right now
Get a basic understanding of personal finance (read a book or two)
Don’t be content with the bare minimum. You’ll spend a lot of time working. Try to get as much as possible for yourself for every hour working.
But I think each person’s realities will vary a lot. For example, regarding the first bullet point, maybe you’re extraverted and already a social butterfly, in which case the advive doesn’t apply.
Older guy here too and I feel the same way. My daughter asked me not long ago about guys with cheerleader and schoolgirl fetishes and if it was pedophilia and I said no, but I certainly do not understand why someone my age would be into that.
JoMiran@lemmy.ml 4 months ago
Older guy here. I have noticed that now when I look a beautiful young women I feel envy rather than lust. My thoughts go to wishing I was young again rather than wishing I could “tap dat ass” or whatever. Realizing that made kinda sad, NGL.
NaoPb@eviltoast.org 4 months ago
Made me realise I’m aging. Damnit.
Take this old man. Your eyes blink automatically. Have fun blinking your eyes manually for the next few minutes.
Nyeeee
Obi@sopuli.xyz 4 months ago
Got caught in the manual blinking crossfire here… Damn you!
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 4 months ago
What would you do differently if you were young this time? Asking as a 21M.
JoMiran@lemmy.ml 4 months ago
It’s not lile that. I have no regrets, it’s just that I am getting older. Shit hurts all the time or doesn’t work as well as it used to. I am tired and the weight of a lifetime of memories is starting to get heavy. I am the same guy I was at ~21. In thirty years you will be the same guy you are today, but younger people will look at you different. I skateboard, I surf, I snowboard, etc as I have for forty years, but now I am not a dude doing dude things, I am a curiosity or “an inspiration”. I can’t go to a concert or a club to enjoy myself as I always have because now I am the weird old guy in the club. Nevermind that I have been listening to “EDM” since the 80’s. It just sucks that I just can’t be me without it being weird.
As far as advice, you know what to do. Eat well (little to no proceased food, way less meat, more veggies, etc) exercise regularly, stay active, and drink lots of water. Also, play hard AND work hard for yourself.
Brekky@lemmy.world 4 months ago
I like the work Hard for yourself statement. As a 43 year old woman possibly dealing with a serious health issue (waiting on results) I wish I had worked harder for myself on prioritising my health over my work. Far too easy to put off dr appointments/dentist appontments/smears etc by rationalising that you can’t moss that meeting.
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 4 months ago
I see. I just feel a bit bad because I’ve spent the past few years living with my parents, without friends, stressing over university yet failing. And I’m really tempted to just say stuff it, move cities and actually live. My life has been so defficient in adventure. I just can’t help but think that university, careers, office jobs etc. can wait when the (biological) clock is ticking.
naught@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
I highly doubt you’re the same person that you were at 21! Well, maybe you are, but I’m not sure that’s universal.
Even as someone approaching 30 I look back and nearly don’t recognize the person I used to be. Sure I have the continuity and experience, but the way I act and think has changed dramatically, and for the better.
Time brings wisdom and I’d guess you’ve got more wisdom than I
ChickenLadyLovesLife@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Put money in your 401k! Nothing else really matters as much.
Danquebec@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
What I would change in my case:
But I think each person’s realities will vary a lot. For example, regarding the first bullet point, maybe you’re extraverted and already a social butterfly, in which case the advive doesn’t apply.
ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 4 months ago
Patrice O’Neal has a good bit on this:
m.youtube.com/watch?v=yUYYX13uB4E
SubArcticTundra@lemmy.ml 4 months ago
Also do you wish you had taped dat ass more when you were my age?
JoMiran@lemmy.ml 4 months ago
I have been a proper slut so no, lack of sex is not a regret. 😉
FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 4 months ago
Older guy here too and I feel the same way. My daughter asked me not long ago about guys with cheerleader and schoolgirl fetishes and if it was pedophilia and I said no, but I certainly do not understand why someone my age would be into that.