>I don’t see why you would want to do things you know will make others uncomfortable eithe
Because then what I can do is an ever shrinking pocket of appeasing others - fuck that
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krashmo@lemmy.world 19 hours ago
This is a dumb response to the issue but some people, both men and women, do show up to the gym in outfits that are viewed as inappropriate in a vast majority of other places. It’s not terribly difficult to keep your attention focused elsewhere but it is understandable that some want to be able to get in a work out without other people’s asses in their face on a constant basis.
I’m sure most of Lemmy will call that opinion prudish or something similar but everyone is entitled to their own thoughts on stuff like that. It’s true that fashion is a personal choice but I don’t see why you would want to do things you know will make others uncomfortable either.
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stickyprimer@lemmy.world 8 hours ago
I agree it’s completely reasonable if some people would prefer sex segregated gyms. Women too of course.
Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 17 hours ago
That’s the contradiction.
I think it’s lightly disturbing that young gals feel they must dress like their on a porn filming.
But if someone tries to forbid them doing it, I’d be down with the rest of everyone striking and rioting (that’s how they do it where I live) because if they want they should be absolutely able to dress however they want (that includes men too ofc).
So I guess education could be a thing, like it’s not bad to jog in a tshirt and shorts, don’t need to play dress-up for your personal hobbies.
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TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 hours ago
Hey if you dress like that, don’t mind me looking. You clearly like to show off and it works, it attracted my eyes. But I won’t stare or bother you.
It’s partly because I want to respect you and your boundaries, and how you look is not an invitation to bother you, but also because I’m looking for women (I actually am not, I have found someone already) who has more to offer than just good looks and doesn’t need to compensate shortcomings by showing off like that.
But don’t mind me looking at beautiful women showing off their body. Just not in a creepy or bothering way. But if you drive a sports car, especially when you chose the bright yellow option, it’s for a reason: Attentions and compensation and I’m not interested. There are also very comfortable (if not more comfortable) sports clothes that do not show off everything.
krashmo@lemmy.world 9 hours ago
It’s not only beautiful people that dress this way and that’s part of the problem with voicing an opinion on this topic. When you say “people don’t need to be mostly naked in the gym” everyone pictures an attractive young woman wearing an outfit they don’t personally mind. What I’m saying applies to fat old men, young girls, middle aged housewives, basement dwelling dweebs, and all the other groups of people you may encounter at the gym. If an outfit isn’t cool for everyone to wear then it shouldn’t be cool for the attractive exhibitionist to wear either.
liuther9@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
Why you insult only males? Fat old man vs middle aged/young vs dwelling dweebs
TigerAce@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 hours ago
If we are measuring by that standard, we should all wear the same uniforms. Because if poor people can’t afford expensive clothes, it also shouldn’t be allowed for rich people to wear them, right? Maybe stairs should be forbidden, because if people in wheelchairs can’t use stairs, no one should.
There are things I prefer not to see. Just as everyone has. But who am I to push my preferences onto others, and who are others to push their preferences onto me. People have their right to be who they are. If you don’t like it, you can go somewhere else. But this means you also have the right to be who you are.
If we start with restricting these things, then where does it stop? If people aren’t allowed to wear tights because some people don’t like to look at it, then what about two men kissing in public? Some don’t like it, so maybe we should ban that too, or maybe ban kissing in public all for everyone?
Maybe turn it around. If it’s cool for some, maybe it should be cool for everyone. If you have a problem with how someone looks (or acts, believes, etc), you are in your right to look and go somewhere else. If someone has a problem with how you look, you still have your right to be who you are.
Restricting people to wear “appropriate” clothing according to certain standards happens in several places on this world. Like many Islamic countries where women need to be partially or completely covered. Or North Korea where people have to wear certain clothes and have certain haircuts.
DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
It’s cool for everyone to wear. Happy now?
proudblond@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
I tend to agree with you, but then I remember the convo I had with my mother-in-law about why trans people had to wear clothing that affirmed their gender when it made her uncomfortable…
WTF, I can’t even. I just avoid talking to her as much as possible at this point.
tias@discuss.tchncs.de 18 hours ago
Different situations. She can’t force other people to dress differently to appease her, but if they make her uncomfortable (for whatever dumb reason) she’s allowed to avoid them.
But also different situations because sex drive is possibly the strongest biological drive that we have, so even if you’re not helpless against it your brain can be distracted in a way that it won’t get from gendered clothing.
I’m not religious or devoid of self control, or even interested in a relationship with a “gym girl”. But I would still wish the women at my gym chose to dress for function rather than to attract… whatever it is they want to attract. It gets tiresome.
mmcintyre@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
Sex drive ain’t nowhere near the strongest biological drive we have, whatever that means. I’m no humanologist, but just off the top of my head, urges to piss and eat are definitely “stronger”. You can’t trick a full bladder or empty stomach with a simulation of peeing or eating just using your hands.
tias@discuss.tchncs.de 12 hours ago
Every function the body has ultimately exists to maximize the chance of reproduction
BitchPeas@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
I wanna attract gainz
Polisheocket@lemmy.zip 19 hours ago
I like working out with virtually no one there, glad I built a garage gym.
Barley_Man@sopuli.xyz 19 hours ago
Those new popular female gym shorts that look like they vacuum sealed their ass with a seam going deep into the buttcrack. I really do think that’s a bit much. “Just let women wear what they want” yes I agree. That’s why I built a home gym instead.
monketman82@lemmy.world 18 hours ago
Sounds like you’ve been studying those shorts real hard…
Katana314@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
I think that’s a bit dishonest. Revealing and sexualizing clothes like that are obviously going to be distracting. Hell, plenty of straight women could admit to be distracted by it.