Comment on Anon goes to therapy

rockerface@lemmy.cafe ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• Rooskie91@discuss.online ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Yeah OP should say “1 therapist is useless”.

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• zaphod@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  The problem is you don’t know if your therapist might be an asshole before speaking to them.

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  • k0e3@lemmy.ca ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    You just look for a new one then right? I dunno how it works in other places around the world but we don’t have to sign up for an annual contract or anything here in Japan.

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    • snowdriftissue@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Generally speaking people who need mental health help are going to be more easily discouraged by a negative interaction than the general population even if they can afford therapy in the first place. In the US at least there’s also a shortage of therapists, meaning you might have to wait a long time to see anyone at all.

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    • Hudomi@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      In Germany, it’s a nightmare to get a therapist in the first place. I called every number available to me, each of them was packed to the brim. Even the waiting list was full. Save for one, who I was able to at least talk to, but she didn’t reach out to me in almost a year now.

      So basically, you need to have insane luck to get therapy. Hearing some people jump from therapist to therapist just like that sounds almost like an utopia.

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      • lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        Apparently, German men would die of having a mental breakdown when on a waitlist of seeing a therapist than actually getting therapy

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    • zaphod@sopuli.xyz ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      Sure, you just look for someone else, but it’ll take a while, and then you don’t know if your new therapist is also an asshole. And the last interactions with therapists have left some scars that might discourage you from even looking for a new one. Besides the mental health issues that you have might already make it hard to just pick up the phone, which doesn’t make looking for a new therpist easier.

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• snowdriftissue@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Yeah this sounds pretty believable to me there’s a lot of shitty therapists

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• Wander@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  Not sure if it’s the case here but I seen a thread at some point where tonnes of men were staying they had a bad time with a female therapist and had a much better time after changing to a man.

  Maybe this is just one of those examples.

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  • Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I wonder if a lot of women just don’t understand men all that well?

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    • lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      A lot of men don’t understand women all that well, so I van see how that tracks

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  • rockerface@lemmy.cafe ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    From my experience, being an asshole does not correlate to gender

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    • Wander@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      From my experience being inconsiderate to male problems does correlate with gender.

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      • LH0ezVT@sh.itjust.works ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        To be fair, shared life experiences make it easier. Training and experience should be able to compensate it, of course, but they do make it easier.

        Probably goes for all genders, with male therapists having a harder time understanding female patients.

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• chunes@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  It’s fair to expect every therapist to be better than this.

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