other than maybe being easily manipulated. That may be enough.
It’s mostly this and a little bit of women their own age being smart enough to recognise the red flags they’re constantly blaring
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jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
I know a few couples like that. I also have a 16 year old daughter with plenty of 16(ish) year old friends. For the life of me, I cannot fathom what a 30+ year old man could see in a 16/17 year old girl, other than maybe being easily manipulated. That may be enough. Cause it’s definitely not their personal hygiene, conversation abilities, or depth of experience in any given area.
Nythos@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
Monument@lemmy.sdf.org 2 days ago
I remember when Emma Watson turned 18, and there were websites that counted down to it. Same for Lindsay Lohan. It was so creepy, and also weirdly presented as ‘normal dude behavior’ back in the aughts. I’m glad that’s no longer acceptable. It always gave me the ick.
Obviously, when I was a teenager I would have found teenagers attractive. But I’m no longer a teenager. And as the years have progressed, so have my preferences.
I couldn’t pinpoint an exact time when it occurred, but now when I see someone younger than like, 30, I just am not attracted. Sure, I can appreciate someone aesthetically without being attracted to them, but really, that has a cut-off, too. Anyone younger than their mid 20’s just does not look good to me.
At a base, physical, level, they look wrong to my eyes. Their faces aren’t done being formed, and they don’t have adult bodies. (Younglings, if you’re reading this, rest assured, you look great, and I’m just an old twisted weirdo with specific tastes. My attraction is not worth your self-confidence.) Let alone all the maturity, social, and experience-related differences that occur as a result of those age gaps. (Younglings, again - this is something you cannot help, and is not something that you can change without becoming an old twisted weirdo yourself. So don’t worry about it. My approval is free, and not worth the paper it’s printed on, if I printed it on paper.)jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
I remember when Emma Watson turned 18, and there were websites that counted down to it. Same for Lindsay Lohan. It was so creepy, and also weirdly presented as ‘normal dude behavior’ back in the aughts. I’m glad that’s no longer acceptable. It always gave me the ick.
I’m with you there. Anyone who looks at a person and thinks “I can’t wait until they’re 18 and legally fuckable” needs to go spend some time seriously re-examining their life choices.
Younglings, if you’re reading this, rest assured, you look great, and I’m just an old twisted weirdo with specific tastes.
This is great btw. There are some awesome things that come with getting older. Maybe not hair loss or joint pain. Or the decline of your metabolism that happens in your early 20’s when you’ve finished growing.
You’re gonna lose the “cool” factor. You will. It’s inevitable. But you won’t care. I’m 35. I like myself now. I don’t give a shit what other people think of me and 99.9% of the time they’re not thinking about me at all. My 30’s have been my favorite decade so far. I would have thought you were crazy if you told 16 year old me that was gonna happen.
peoplebeproblems@midwest.social 2 days ago
I’m a 30+ year old man, and women in their early 20s are foreign enough.
The only things I can think of are power and control, and maybe the youth=pure thing? I mean from the appearance stand point there’s really nothing different for women into their 20s, if anything they dress in different styles.
The lack of intellectual, emotional, and social maturity is really off-putting. Hell, I remember personal hygiene was an issue for some girls when I was in college. The number that didn’t wear deodorant was concerning enough.
Dorkyd68@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I dated someone younger than me for a couple months. She kept asking me if I knew of “such and such” or “did you know they make that this way” or “have you ever heard this band from the 90’s” or “did you know about this”. Essentially she was still discovering a lot of things in life that I already well aware of, then I had the realization she was way too young for me. Plus she was horrible at sex, way too inexperienced
Shou@lemmy.world 2 days ago
What was the age gap?
Dorkyd68@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I was 37 and she was 22, so 15 years
Scott_of_the_Arctic@lemmy.world 2 days ago
| For the life of me, I cannot fathom what a 30+ year old man could see in a 16/17 year old girl
Himself, likely
Zagorath@aussie.zone 2 days ago
I don’t actually know any 16 year-olds. But are they into Roblox? I thought that was more of an 8–14 y/o type thing?
Scott_of_the_Arctic@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I don’t fucking know. But I know what I was like at 16. I was an idiot and so were all of my classmates.
callouscomic@lemm.ee 2 days ago
Have I got news for you about people of other older ages…
They… they’re also idiots. Everyone’s generally idiots. It doesn’t get much better.
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Tiktok is a great learning tool. If you spend a bit getting the algorithm right.
TheRealLinga@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
👆found the 16 year old👆
surewhynotlem@lemmy.world 2 days ago
45, but young at heart
Scott_of_the_Arctic@lemmy.world 2 days ago
What could you possibly be learning on Chinese spyware that isn’t better leared from … Pretty much anywhere?