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- Comment on Is gender affirming care for cis people a thing? 12 hours ago:
There is a lot of different answers to these questions, I’ll give you the jist, then my specific answer.
Where does the breast tissue come from?
There is two main ways to do reconstruction - the most comment is breast implant. In this case they remove all of the breast tissue and leave just the skin. The remaining space is filled with a implant and the size of the implant is determined by how much skin you have. The second way it can be done is to transplant tissue from another part of your body to the breast area, it is usually from either the belly area (DEIP Flap) or from the back area (TRAM Flap). This type of surgery requires the surgery match up the tissue transplant on a vascular level (vein by vein) to make sure the transplanted tissue does not die.
I had a DEIP flap reconstruction - it requires almost a week hospital stay due to how complex the surgery is and recovery is 6-8 weeks, but honestly its been just about a two years and I am still recovering and also I have an additional revision surgery that I still need because - no I am not even close to being even.
How does one sculpt a nipple?
They typically do not. Normally the nipple is removed entirely. In the reconstruction I have heard of the nipple being rebuild but, its not nipple tissue, so its not the right color and it cannot react to environmental stimuli and from what I’ve seen, gets stuck sort of “hard”. When the nipple is removed most people will opt for a tattoo replacement. They look very very real and you don’t have the issue permanently smuggling raisins around. I was able to keep my nipple, visually it looks like a nipple, but I can no longer feel it.
Are they as sensitive as before?
No they lose all sensation, can’t even feel the skin, so not even like elbow skin, totally numb. They had to rebuild my stomach and belly button, so I also cannot feel anything across my lower abdomen either.
Does having breast cancer on one side automatically increase the chances of cancer on the other side? I would think symmetry isn’t a given?
No, the risk of recurrence is the same. If I was to have the same type of cancer in my other breast it would be a recurrence, not new cancer and after treatment my risk of recurrence is lower than my chance of getting a totally new type of cancer.
Were you able or allowed to choose size and shape? (If so, did you go for the tried and true original?)
Short answer no, long answer I was not very well endowed to begin with and my reconstruction was limited by the amount of tissue I could use for transplanting. So, again no and also they aren’t both the same size anymore, the reconstructed one is quite a bit smaller and not really the right shape, which is what I am going back in for more surgery to fix. If you had way more breast tissue than I did, there is more options for reconstruction, but from the woman I have talked to, most people end up going smaller or staying the same. Going up larger brings in a lot of complication and can only happen if you get a implant reconstruction and not a transplant.
Hope you’re doing well today. Not a question, I just wanted to say (write) it. Live long and prosper.
Thanks I plan on it 🖖
Just want to also point out for readers that this entire comment is only about gender affirming care and has nothing to do with medically treating cancer, but because we are affirming my breasts for my gender as a cis woman, its just healthcare.
- Comment on Is gender affirming care for cis people a thing? 14 hours ago:
I had breast cancer. The chemo and mastectomy were cancer care. The reconstruction of my breast is not cancer care, it is gender affirming care, as it affirms my cis gender as a woman.
Reconstruction is not necessary at all for cancer care and in fact causes more surgeries than if I was to just have the cancer removed and go on the rest of my life with one boob.
They just don’t call it “gender affirming” care if you are cis, they just call it healthcare.
- Comment on A community turned to grift 5 days ago:
its not even selling access to the library tho, its someone standing in front of the library retelling, in their own words, what is in the books and also including things that aren’t in any books or media but sounds like they might be.
- Comment on Joe Rogan thinks AI running the government would ‘stop all wars on the planet’ 1 week ago:
That is because AI, even though it is decidedly not intelligence, is still smarter than Joe Rogan.
- Comment on Shut Up Boomer 2 weeks ago:
I think the education on just how much the boomers were given from the previous generation and how little they passed on to the next generation while acting like they worked for anything and were entitled to everything should be repeated as often as possible.
- Comment on Don't worry about it haha 2 weeks ago:
Oh well, if you aren’t paying them, then its fine.
- Comment on Day 5 of deliberations in Lindsay Clancy trial ends without verdict, jury remains deadlocked 2 weeks ago:
It looks like what they are saying happened is that they all were going to find her not guilty but one juror held out even after admitting that they did agree there was reasonable doubt.
- Comment on Anon questions the epidemic 2 weeks ago:
Its so strange how that evolved too, my dad, who is silent generation and arguably one of the manliest men I have known, still did the back smacking one handed hugs with his close friends. When did men stop doing this?
- Comment on No one spells "lose" anymore 5 weeks ago:
I am definitely one of those who makes typos and gets mad about this but - the internet needs to get more pedantic about spelling and grammar mistakes again.
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 1 month ago:
I am using PHP as a metaphor. Like, even a script kiddie could get up a working PHP site and it doesn’t matter how spaghetti the code is - it will still run.
Even a vibe coded site can be secured, the language doesn’t matter. Shitty sites with terrible security have always and will always exist on the web. AI didn’t start this trend and we should not pretend like web development has been like this for years.
- Comment on Saw this at the store this morning, took a double take 1 month ago:
I choose NA beer for that exact reason and its been a really big tool for me to keep my sobriety. It works for some and for others it doesn’t but I am glad its available as an option for me. But had I never started drinking in the first place I would not like beer, so I am not sure why anyone would buy NA beer unless, like me, they are trying to scratch an itch that can’t be scratched like it was before.
- Comment on Saw this at the store this morning, took a double take 1 month ago:
Ok, I did the digging on this because you asked. I actually just assumed because I was carded for NA beer that this was a law.
In the US, federally it is not illegal to sell less than 0.5% without carding. But many states treat NA beer the same as normal beer and they require the person be over 21. In the states that do not require 21 and over for NA beer many (most) stores and bars will still card because its better safe than sorry when it comes to ABC and losing your license.
- Comment on Saw this at the store this morning, took a double take 1 month ago:
This store is stupid for making this sign and they can get in quite a bit of trouble for this with ABC. NA beer is still 21 and over, its not “beer for kids”
- Comment on Saw this at the store this morning, took a double take 1 month ago:
You still have to be 21 to buy NA beer. Even if its 0.0, the stores will get in trouble for not carding.
- Comment on Drop your unpopular opinions here because c/unpopularopinions is filled with popular opinions 1 month ago:
There have been a number of
vibe codedphp websites that were just sitting open for anyone to look at the personal information, because no one who knew what they were doing was involved.Re-wrote this for you for 2010.
Just saying, the web has been like this forever. The only thing AI is changing about people building insecure websites that that they look like someone talked to a designer before it went up.
- Comment on Hmmm 1 month ago:
I mustache them a question.
- Comment on Would you rather be reincarnated into a world of magic or reborn as yourself (with your current knowledge fully intact)? 1 month ago:
So new game in magic world or new game + in normal world?
Do I have to be the chosen one in new game +? I’d do that if I don’t have the added responsibility of saving the world.
- Comment on Lemmy or Piefed? 1 month ago:
what do you use as a that lets you add pixelfed and mastdon to your feed? I am on Voyager but it doesn’t fully support piefed and I don’t see anyway of adding non lemmy fediverse places to it.
- Comment on This Is Why I Sit Down To Pee Pee 1 month ago:
The comic for the women’s bathroom is two girls in stalls waiting for the other one to leave so she can shit.
- Comment on Starbucks continues to be terrible 1 year ago:
This is the same douche canoe that was the CEO of Chipotle and denied that the serving sizes were getting smaller and told people to just harass the worker making the food if they thought their serving size was to small.