I love seeing how this crusty bastard devolves over time. I don’t know that anyone can make him look any worse at this point.
are you sure?
Submitted 9 months ago by snek@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca 9 months ago
sincle354@kbin.social 9 months ago
His forehead constitutes 50% of his face but is relatively clean. We need more scabbed over zits.
morrowind@lemmy.ml 9 months ago
his eyes are still pretty decent
Angry_Maple@sh.itjust.works 9 months ago
Some of it’s also probably situation based.
If you hit on every single person of the gender that you like at one gym, they’ll probably start to feel like you really just want just anyone who will say yes. They’ll probably feel like you don’t like them for them, and that you’re just trying to keep your bed warm. Most people who want relationships want to be with someone who likes them individually as a person. Try not to write “scripts” for the situation in your head too much, either. If you do, it might crash and burn the second that someone goes off of that “script”.
It’s kind of tragic how all of this has become. A relationship likely won’t fix any problems you might have with yourself, nor would it fix most of the other aspects of your life. A partner will also have their own needs and wants, and you should try to have room to provide some of that before you start dating.
Don’t listen to guys like Tate. If he really had good advice, more people from his fan base would be in a happy relationship now, no? He makes money by making you continue to watch his videos. That’s all he cares about. He’s giving you bad advice so he can keep making money off of your sadness. That’s not a bro thing to do.
Don’t follow the plot of any rom-coms. That behaviour is usually a fantastic way to get a restraining order and absolutely ruin any chances you might have had with that person.
Find the little things that make you happy. Gardening? MTG? Video games? Hockey? Drawing? MMA? Take the time to properly enjoy those things that you love with the people who are already around you. It will help build some of that confidence. Let youself be passionate about your hobbies sometimes. It’s ok, I promise.
Try not to worry too much if you mess up or if you ruin your chances with one person. There are over 8 billion people on earth, so there’s almost always someone else you can try with. NO ONE succeeds 100% of the time, and that is more than OK. That is human.
Don’t beat yourself up over not succeeding right away. Unless you are literally currently on your death bed, you still have time.
Outside of the dating stuff, be kind to youself, and try to make sure you’re taking care of yourself. Self care isn’t just fitness and healthy eating. Sometimes could be having pizza in the bath, sometimes it might be playing DnD over multiple continents, sometimes it might be watching cartoons, and sometimes it could even be something like skincare. Your happiness is important, and you should treat it as such.
As long as it doesn’t harm anyone else in the process, please do what you need to do to feel happy. Life is too short to pause your happiness for someone who hasn’t shown up yet. Life is too short to wait to improve things until you meet someone who hasn’t shown up yet.
You deserve happiness, and the sooner you acknowledge that, the better. Find happiness despite what life might throw at you. Try to find joy even in chaos, and always remember that bad feelings usually don’t last forever. You can get through these hard times.
BattleScarredFox@lemmy.world 9 months ago
That’s maybe the most helpful and positive thing I’ve seen on a shitpost. And honestly, I needed to hear some of that, so thank you.
MacNCheezus@lemmy.today 9 months ago
Perhaps a shower and a haircut wouldn’t hurt.
CobblerScholar@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Confidence in yourself takes work. Confident people are confident because they loved themselves first and you take care of those you love
starchylemming@lemmy.world 9 months ago
nah you start by faking it and being ironically confident until you trick yourself and it becomes second nature. replace self deprecating humor with god complex humor until you believeeeee
CobblerScholar@lemmy.world 9 months ago
I mean, 6 of one. If you feel better and aren’t a total dick to everyone I think that’s a win
Kedly@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Sure real confidence does, but fake confidence is a good step on that path, and is better than none at all
Kedly@lemm.ee 9 months ago
I’ve seen way too many guys who think they’re uglier than they are. Confidence and Comedy really are great ways to have a shot, even if you’re faking the confidence. Its a tough lesson, but you DO need to sell yourself a little
JackbyDev@programming.dev 9 months ago
I always joke that I snagged my wife by being funny. Then she laughs. Then I’m like “See!?” It’s a great bit. She insists I’m handsome. I don’t see it. The parts of me she compliments aren’t even things I’m conscious of.
Kedly@lemm.ee 9 months ago
Yeah, exactly. Not only are a lot of men nowhere NEAR as ugly as they think they are, ugly is also subjective, and theres gonna be a partner who probably thinks you’re physically hot
gun@lemmy.ml 9 months ago
Cartoon memes are starting to resemble actual art
OpenStars@startrek.website 9 months ago
It’s all he needs. You on the other hand… had better be a trillionaire. :-P
sfxrlz@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Why the duck
CoughingwithCoffee@lemmy.world 9 months ago
Confidence is knowing that she’s not The One.
FierroGamer@sh.itjust.works 9 months ago
Also being ok with rejection
paddirn@lemmy.world 9 months ago
If romantic comedies have taught me anything, it’s to never take “no” for an answer, and it’s ok to stalk people because it will all just work out in the end when they realize what they’ve been missing this whole time.
vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works 9 months ago
This is unironically how my grandparents met, did help that my grandfather was rather intelligent and decently competent. Shame he was a dumbass and gave himself lung cancer, wear a mask when working with aerosols it may save your life.