By listening to their partner, practicing, and learning where the clit is
How does a teenager learn to "eat out" a women without doing it like a dog at a water bowl?
Submitted 1 day ago by Patnou@lemmy.world to [deleted]
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toomanypancakes@crazypeople.online 1 day ago
Patnou@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I highly doubt your partner is going to yell out directions like up down sideways while trying to have an orgasm.
cattywampas@lemmy.world 1 day ago
You’d be wrong, kid
toomanypancakes@crazypeople.online 1 day ago
First of all, communication during sex is pretty normal. I’ve absolutely given directions during, because if I want him to go harder on it or if he’s missing the spot or something then I want him to know that.
Secondly, there’s no reason you can’t have a conversation not in the moment too. You can absolutely discuss likes, wants, and dislikes ahead of time. If you want to make your partner feel as good as you can, it’s a good idea to check with them how they like it at some point.
Drbreen@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Of course you’d think that if all you know about sex is from porn.
andrewrgross@slrpnk.net 1 day ago
Well then your doubt is misplaced!
You know what most people love? Receiving oral the way they like it. It’s not a hard sell.
glasratz@feddit.org 1 day ago
Well, but that’s exactly how it works, at least until it works without that.
buttmasterflex@piefed.social 1 day ago
Obviously not. The clear, open, and honest communication with your partner comes well before trying to have an orgasm.
crwth@piefed.zip 1 day ago
You don’t need that sort of instructions, just vague feedback on what’s good and what isn’t is sufficient. Do more stuff like what got good feedback and less stuff like what got bad feedback. Think of it as AI training set and hope you have enough I to learn without the A.
Dave@lemmy.nz 1 day ago
People are being a bit rough with all the downvotes, your partner might not just yell out directions, but you can (and should) ask, in which case they are very likely to answer.
Fedegenerate@fedinsfw.app 1 day ago
Start like a butterfly landing on a fragile flower… End like a bulldog eating oatmeal. Best advice I ever got, after spelling the ABCs
andrewrgross@slrpnk.net 1 day ago
T00l_shed@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Sometimes dog at a water bowl is what is called for. But yeah listen to your partner to find what they like
QuizzaciousOtter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 day ago
I really don’t think you deserve all those downvotes. Did all of those people really forget how it is to be a teenager?
I remember quite well my first time having sex and I remember how awkward I felt. There’s no way in hell I would be confident enough to ask my partner for tips how to touch her. Obviously, it makes sense and it would benefit both of us, but it’s just not that easy when you’re only starting out learning about physical intimacy.
With that being said, talking with your partner is the right answer. Especially if it’s more long-term, serious type relationship. You will both learn how to communicate and how to have awesome sex. It builds trust and understanding. It’s great and I highly recommend that.
On the other hand I do realize there might be reasons why you’re not exactly ready right now. And I think you should be able to get pretty good anyway. The advice will be pretty trivial though - just google that shit. I’m absolutely sure there is a ton of articles, forum and reddit threads, even instructional videos (just don’t trust the typical fake porn). It’s really not that complicated and you should have a pretty good idea how to start after doing some reading. Then you just need to pay attention to your partner’s reactions as you go. The way she moves, breathes, moans, touches you. If she likes what you’re doing it shouldn’t be that hard to notice.
glhf 😉
coalie@piefed.zip 1 day ago
Practice, and listening to their partner.
wizbiz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
I would suggest trying to equivocate the vulva parts with penis parts and try to please them using this knowledge. Give the clit a tiny blowjob ya know?
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
Worth noting that some women have a small or permanently hooded clit, which needs a different sort of care … for which, we circle back to listening to your partner!
Knowing the anatomy and getting into all the knooks and crannies is worthwhile too, since sometimes you find a spot the recipient didn’t know about :-)
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
Worth noting that some women have a small or permanently hooded clit, which needs a different sort of care … for which, we circle back to listening to your partner!
wizbiz@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
Thank you for adding on. Partner feedback is always the most important part!
ozymandias117@lemmy.world 1 day ago
The suggestions of listen to what your partner likes is good…
If you’re completely lost on how to even start, write the alphabet with your tongue. It will make lots of different motions so she can see what she likes
southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Honestly? They probably don’t.
You can only do so much book larnin about cunnilingus. You have to put the time in to get good, and there’s no way around it.
What happens is that an eager teenager reads up on it (because that’s a lot less likely to draw attention than videos, despite there being some decent videos), then becomes an adult that’s good at it.
HeyJoe@lemmy.world 1 day ago
As others have said, yes she will most likely communicate with you, but if you are both young then she might also not know this yet either so encourage it. Sometimes its not even talking but she will guide you with how her body moves or her hands as well.
Another nice touch that I havent seen mentioned here is dont forget you have hands and using them will only help more. It doesnt have to be right away, but then start with each hand on each side and gently move them up and down the outside of her legs and work your way up to her chest. After that you can sometimes work one hand and finger into the mix while your still down there, but it’s not necessary all the time and sometimes she may not even want that. Its all about listening.
IWW4@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
Like all things involving sex, you get better at it the more you do it. Now with that said, do it like a dog at a water bowl. Trust me, she will love it!!!
elevenbones@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
Good god man
ReverendIrreverence@piefed.social 1 day ago
My first time in Junior High school I tried Sam Kinison’s “Licking the Alphabet” method ("Lick the alphabet. It makes you appear creative, it’s an easy diagram to remember, it’s like “aaaaa…. beeeee…. ceeee") oh so long ago. Didn’t work as magically as I hoped but she let me try again. Learned better technique over the decades since.
Weirdfish@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Get a grapefruit or an orange, heat it for about 20 seconds in the microwave.
Then cut it in half, throw both halves in the garbage, and do like everyone else suggests and listen to your partner.
SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 day ago
Best reply I’ve seen so far!