Only if I already had some sort of relationship with the person. But the issue is primarily with the partner.
If your significant other cheated on you, would you confront or attack the person they cheated with?
Submitted 7 hours ago by MightyMouse@sopuli.xyz to [deleted]
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owenfromcanada@lemmy.ca 7 hours ago
RisingSwell@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 hours ago
If they knew my SO was taken I’d have words but like, my SO is the one meant to be loyal and not some random other person who might not have have even known
HuudaHarkiten@piefed.social 3 hours ago
Nah, just drop both of them out of my life. Break up, block phone numbers etc.
No need to keep trash around. No need to have drama.
Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 6 hours ago
The other person is not the problem or the culprit. I would look into my own relationship and confront my SO, be furious, maybe aggressive (but not violent, that I would never be), maybe crying.
The other person it’s a distraction, it your SO and yourself you need to focus on.
wide_eyed_stupid@lemmy.world 3 hours ago
It does kind of depend on who it is, imo. If it really is some random person who might not have even known about our relationship, then no. It’s not their fault or their responsibility.
But what if it’s your best friend? Then definitely. Both out of my life.
Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 2 hours ago
What I mean is that it’s not your best friend fault. It’s your relationship that has issues to be addressed or your SO would not have looked somewhere else.
So I can be enraged with my best friend, indeed, like with a stranger, but make no sense to address him or her when the fault is not their fault.
When somebody cheats the issue is within the relationship and or the cheating person. The third person is just an external factor, if not your best friend it would have been another person, see, it’s irrelevant.
W3dd1e@lemmy.zip 6 hours ago
True story: I messaged her on Facebook. She didn’t know about me. The dude was making plans with both of us on the same day, her in the morning and me in the afternoon.
We decided to get brunch that morning and then go together to the place he was meeting her at. He got mad and left. We stayed, got hammered, and then got our nipples pierced together.
one_old_coder@piefed.social 3 hours ago
it wasn’t a mature way to deal with it.
The lack of violence or bad reaction is very mature IMHO.
wesker@lemmy.sdf.org 7 hours ago
I’d fuck them, to show my dominance.
W3dd1e@lemmy.zip 6 hours ago
We didn’t bang but we did get our nipples pierced together. Close enough.
Naich@piefed.world 5 hours ago
Doesn’t that make it rather difficult to walk?
Steve@communick.news 5 hours ago
No.
Just break up like a normal couple.And no matter what anyone says or does…
DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHERRhynoplaz@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
I called and asked him WTF, but he was my best friend at the time, so, maybe not a typical situation.
akunohana@piefed.blahaj.zone 3 hours ago
For all they know, they had a good romp. Imagine some random person coming up to you and punching you in the face the next day. It doesn’t compute.
My partner, with whom I assume you mean I had a sexually exclusive relationship, I’d leave in a heartbeat. The things I’d do to them in my mind though…
CW: blood
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Melobol@lemmy.ml 7 hours ago
Nope. They are not the problem.
It is always on the cheater, you have the promise of faithfulness with them - no one else responsible for other people decisions.swordgeek@lemmy.ca 7 hours ago
Nope.
The third party isnt the problem. It’s your SO that cheated, and who should suffer.
Pack up. Leave. Take what you can.
BaraCoded@literature.cafe 7 hours ago
Nah, I’d just leave. If the “loved one” decided to cheat, then there wasn’t a relationship in the first place. Wish them well, grieve the relationship, go back on your own life adventure.
Unless there are kids and a mortgage or something. Then, things get complicated. But the breach in trust is unfixable, so the relationship is dead anyway.
jaschen306@sh.itjust.works 1 hour ago
I had this happen to me and my good friend.
They kept it a secret for a year and I only found out from another buddy of mine. I promptly dumped her and stopped talking to the friend. He later bragged about it my friends and then for some reason threatened to hurt me. I took the messages the police and inadvertently got him deported. I didn’t know at the time but he was an illegal alien who overstayed his student visa. Oops.
He later apologized to me after for the hurt he caused. I also told him I felt hella bad for accidentally deporting him.